Its been many years since I have dealt with a CSEA. I only sent them one check then before I got custody. I think you and Winx are taking what Im trying to say wrong. The absent parent should be made to pay no matter what it takes.

Say you're wrong about what? I'm getting lost here.

Im getting off of here before I make more of an azz of myself. All parents need to take responsibility for their kids!!!!!!! They need to be involve in every aspect of their child's life. Find out whats going on in their schools, with their friends, in your own neighborhood. GET INVOLVED and take nothing for granite when it comes to your child!!!!

I apologize tempt if I misunderstood - I was speaking regarding the custodial parent vs the non custodial parent with regards to the issue of financial obligation. Would never make a personal comment as cases are different.

sorry

I am. I do.

I'm enduring that "all the kids at school saw Twilight and I can't" right now.

Sorry for what. Im the one who couldnt make it clear. I agree with you and winx %100 and Im talking about things that happened years ago. I hope and pray they have changed. I have no up to date knowledge of the system and should not be commenting on it since I dont.. Im the one who is sorry!

Fran is a rather sad story in Florida...http://mingle2.com/topic/show/188061

If you only new of the huge infux of people here in the winter you would even be more mad. I try and drive the very least I can during peak hours.

I had a problem similar to that. When my child was going into kindergarten, I called the city schools to see about what school and transportation. The school for us was over a mile away. They thought that I lived close enough to school to walk my 5 yr. old there. WT?!

We don't go there.

not sure why a neighbor hasn't stepped in - pick up and drop the child off at school, for let's say a play date with kids...

both helping each other out

Only you could say that **** Mirror... he isnt about to become a poor loser hes about TO MADE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY....THERES A ****IN DIFFERENCE

the reason that most people only know women in thia situation is the lopsided court system that do not give custody of the children to fathers

what does the loose of a family cost

how many fathers go into a deep depression after losing their family and their job performance goes down they miss work

and eventually lose their job

why is it no one wants to talk about these things

how mush does it cost not to see your child come home excited about winning their game

or helping them get ready for their date

divorces should be a lot harder to get when children are involved

children are the responsibility of both parents

but everyone forgets

children are also the privilege and enjoyment of both parents

if the custodial parent is struggling with money well the non custodial parent is usually struggling emotionally

if you want their money stay married

if it is abusive then press charges for the abuse

this having it both ways is full of crap

yes some support is needed

but if the govt says you can support a family of 4 for 700$

then divide that in half 2/adults that leaves 350 you divde that in half as 175 for the two kids

so that makes 41 a week

then you add the what 200 in food benefit

that makes another 100 dollars to split

so thats what 23 a week

so support would be 64 a week

or 275 a month

and that is how it should be figured

if the same family goes to dhs for help then you take away the adult shares and divide the childrens shares in half

what the non custodial parent makes should not come into play unless they are not working

and if they are working prove it

get pictures

you can complain all you want and say i am wrong

but if you do not like the way it works

let the other parent have the children

you want all the fun stuff w/kids

and make so the other parent can not afford to spend time w/kids

well that is not right

if you can not handle the responsibility then try reversing the situation

and the courts should be looking at finances in deciding who should be the custodial parent as well as the other things involved

The reason that I don't know about men in this situation is that I mostly know women.

You said,

"if the govt says you can support a family of 4 for 700$"

Well, then, the government needs to get up to the year 2008.

There are two in my house. We wouldn't be able to survive on $700/mth.

"If you want their money stay married"

That's just wrong!!!!!

"you want all the fun stuff w/kids"

Do you mean the diaper changing in the middle of the night, the sick kid in the middle of the night? Driving them everywhere they need to go? Cooking their meals, shopping for and washing their clothes? Taking care of their schedules and more.

I've done it by myself since day one. What you have suggested regarding child support in this thread and others are insulting to me.


Edit: There I said it. I've felt that way for a long time.

From another single mom who never collected a $0.01 in support and never received public assistance. Worked 2 - 3 jobs at a time to make ends meet.

(((adj))) I agree the courts way back then did automatically issue custody to the women, but that is and hasn't been the case for years.

as for feeling sorry for the non custodial parent - I do feel bad, just as bad as I feel for the custodial parent who has to see to their own feelings as well as their child(ren).

Parenting includes financial obligation/responsibility - short and sweet, regardless of custody

My ex and I have a 50/50 split, and neither of us pays child support. However, he and his wife just separated (last weekend) and my son is with my full time now.

Although my ex expects the separation to last only 3-4 months, I filed with CSEA for a temporary order. He will not have to pay a lot, but he should pay to ensure my son still has all that he needs. Daycare, food, utilities, everything. Each person makes those things go up a lot.

I actually just put the CSEA letter in the mail.

OP~ Call your local court, family or domestic relations court, and ask them.

Don't ask for legal advice in the threads, okay? Good luck to you.

Only thing supplied was personal advise, not legal advise.

then it took off from there

Yeah, I read that, but her question, the OP's original question, that was a legal question.

That's all I meant.

it's ok like it morphed like many other threads

Your right