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He left when I was 5, moved to Kentucky and I never heard from him again and he showed no interest in me. He's on his 3rd wife and I have a half brother that's about 1 year old now. That's all I know. well all we can do is hope his other child does not go through this issue |
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Edited by
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Hmm my dad would quit his job every time they came around to collect child support from him. He owed over 20 grand when I turned 18 and quit his job again so the court had it reduced to $1,200. I don't know much more than that because I was never directly involved in the legal proceedings being the kid and all but he always avoided paying it. The worst thing though was he was injured when I was 4 and won a settlement of well over $200,000. He could've easily sent a little bit of that to my mother but he never did. question did you mother make it hard for him to see you 20k is not very much for 18 years back support so obviously he paid in the beginning and remember that you were mainly influenced by what your mother said maybe you should do some investigating to get the full story No matter what the mother did (if she did anything), the man should still man-up for the child's sake. Maybe it's just the way his father was. It happens many times. I've seen it. you just proved my point thank you you just said it does not matter if the child is used as a weapon case proven ----------------- mother should not do anything to keep father away from child she should live up to her responsibility as well |
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ok my case....i took my ex to court 13 years ago...only recieved one check and another check got stolen. We finally filed for criminal charges a few months ago. He was finally arresed last week and has had his initial hearing. Does this mean i'm going to finally recieve the money that is owed to my kids???
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Hmm my dad would quit his job every time they came around to collect child support from him. He owed over 20 grand when I turned 18 and quit his job again so the court had it reduced to $1,200. I don't know much more than that because I was never directly involved in the legal proceedings being the kid and all but he always avoided paying it. The worst thing though was he was injured when I was 4 and won a settlement of well over $200,000. He could've easily sent a little bit of that to my mother but he never did. question did you mother make it hard for him to see you 20k is not very much for 18 years back support so obviously he paid in the beginning and remember that you were mainly influenced by what your mother said maybe you should do some investigating to get the full story No matter what the mother did (if she did anything), the man should still man-up for the child's sake. Maybe it's just the way his father was. It happens many times. I've seen it. you just proved my point thank you you just said it does not matter if the child is used as a weapon case proven ----------------- mother should not do anything to keep father away from child she should live up to her responsibility as well Don't put words into my mouth, Adj4u!! I didn't say that it's right for a woman to keep a child away from a man. I do think it's right in some circumstances though - when the mental and physically safety of the child is at stake. I was saying that NO MATTER WHAT, the non-caregiver still should be contributing to the child. |
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Edited by
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Sun 12/21/08 03:20 PM
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Hmm my dad would quit his job every time they came around to collect child support from him. He owed over 20 grand when I turned 18 and quit his job again so the court had it reduced to $1,200. I don't know much more than that because I was never directly involved in the legal proceedings being the kid and all but he always avoided paying it. The worst thing though was he was injured when I was 4 and won a settlement of well over $200,000. He could've easily sent a little bit of that to my mother but he never did. question did you mother make it hard for him to see you 20k is not very much for 18 years back support so obviously he paid in the beginning and remember that you were mainly influenced by what your mother said maybe you should do some investigating to get the full story No matter what the mother did (if she did anything), the man should still man-up for the child's sake. Maybe it's just the way his father was. It happens many times. I've seen it. you just proved my point thank you you just said it does not matter if the child is used as a weapon case proven ----------------- mother should not do anything to keep father away from child she should live up to her responsibility as well Don't put words into my mouth, Adj4u!! I didn't say that it's right for a woman to keep a child away from a man. I do think it's right in some circumstances though - when the mental and physically safety of the child is at stake. I was saying that NO MATTER WHAT, the non-caregiver still should be contributing to the child. """""""No matter what the mother did""""""" this includes using as a weapon --- no matter what did you forget my post with the 700 family of 4 post as i said you proved my point 1/2 basic food housing thats it if the parent wants the child to have the extras then they need to keep the parent in the childs life reread the posts before you assume something if parent is refused their rights by custodial parent they should lose custody |
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ok my case....i took my ex to court 13 years ago...only recieved one check and another check got stolen. We finally filed for criminal charges a few months ago. He was finally arresed last week and has had his initial hearing. Does this mean i'm going to finally recieve the money that is owed to my kids??? Only if he has money to give. I believe they can take his possessions and sell them off as well, but not sure on the whole law concerning that. |
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Hmm my dad would quit his job every time they came around to collect child support from him. He owed over 20 grand when I turned 18 and quit his job again so the court had it reduced to $1,200. I don't know much more than that because I was never directly involved in the legal proceedings being the kid and all but he always avoided paying it. The worst thing though was he was injured when I was 4 and won a settlement of well over $200,000. He could've easily sent a little bit of that to my mother but he never did. question did you mother make it hard for him to see you 20k is not very much for 18 years back support so obviously he paid in the beginning and remember that you were mainly influenced by what your mother said maybe you should do some investigating to get the full story No matter what the mother did (if she did anything), the man should still man-up for the child's sake. Maybe it's just the way his father was. It happens many times. I've seen it. you just proved my point thank you you just said it does not matter if the child is used as a weapon case proven ----------------- mother should not do anything to keep father away from child she should live up to her responsibility as well Don't put words into my mouth, Adj4u!! I didn't say that it's right for a woman to keep a child away from a man. I do think it's right in some circumstances though - when the mental and physically safety of the child is at stake. I was saying that NO MATTER WHAT, the non-caregiver still should be contributing to the child. """""""No matter what the mother did""""""" this includes using as a weapon --- no matter what did you forget my post with the 700 family of 4 post as i said you proved my point 1/2 basic food housing thats it if the parent wants the child to have the extras then they need to keep the parent in the childs life reread the posts before you assume something if parent is refused their rights by custodial parent they should lose custody. I hate when you say 1/2 basic food/housing. It takes more then that to raise a child. I don't approve of refusing visitation. To me, there better be a good reason - drugs, alcohol, violence, physically or mentally abusive, murderer, rapist, etc. |
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i agree with that
but you know what if you love yer kid and want whats best for the child and you want the help do not alienate the other parent that is my point and if you alienate the other parent you lose custody everyone should want whats best for the child human nature is usually greedy so you make it cost them if they do not do what is best for the child unfortunately it costs the child as well til custody is re awarded |
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interesting
very interesting |
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ok my case....i took my ex to court 13 years ago...only recieved one check and another check got stolen. We finally filed for criminal charges a few months ago. He was finally arresed last week and has had his initial hearing. Does this mean i'm going to finally recieve the money that is owed to my kids??? Only if he has money to give. I believe they can take his possessions and sell them off as well, but not sure on the whole law concerning that. he has nothing to give in his name..he works under the table if he works and he doesn't own anything. he's been running from the law ever since we went to court back in nov. 1995 |
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ok my case....i took my ex to court 13 years ago...only recieved one check and another check got stolen. We finally filed for criminal charges a few months ago. He was finally arresed last week and has had his initial hearing. Does this mean i'm going to finally recieve the money that is owed to my kids??? Only if he has money to give. I believe they can take his possessions and sell them off as well, but not sure on the whole law concerning that. he has nothing to give in his name..he works under the table if he works and he doesn't own anything. he's been running from the law ever since we went to court back in nov. 1995 No, you won't see a dime. If nothing is in his name, and has been working under the table, technically he has 'nothing' no assets, nothing to attach, or file a lien against. Sorry. |
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true but at least he's behind bars for awhile. He can't screw around with others for nothing
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true but at least he's behind bars for awhile. He can't screw around with others for nothing he is not the type that i am advocating for i feel he should be put into public works program and his pay garnished to pay his debt (as long as he was never denied access to his children) i am not one sided in my posts but when the system is set up in a prejudice manner there will be those that run from the system and even when it is set up as fairly as possible you will still have those that abuse the system their are enough things that need done i this country that instead of throwing money to big corporations there should be govt works programs set up and if one does not meet their obligations to their children in a fairly set up program (as i described earlier or if a better one can be described) then they be installed into a govt works program and decent housing and board provided not a jail set up but maybe an apartment nothing fancy but nothing extravagant neither they would get paid 80% the average wage and receive an allowance (out of their pay) the remainder of the wage would pay for the room and board with the remainder going to child support they will not be in a jail situation but more like a military base fenced in and sentries must check in and out and get a pass from their supervisor to leave the grounds call me crazy but if a fair system is in place most would not want to live this lifestyle |
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hey Robin, He owes over $40,000 in back support just for our oldest son..that's not including my middle son
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i understand what you are saying kators
and we need a system that works ---------------------------------------- as it is now to many do not pay and to many use the child as a leverage point i am not saying anyone posting has done that but we know it happens have seen it too many times |
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i understand what you are saying kators and we need a system that works ---------------------------------------- as it is now to many do not pay and to many use the child as a leverage point i am not saying anyone posting has done that but we know it happens have seen it too many times i know and i understand. it's very sad |
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I still say the best way is make the parents work it out. I know this wont work in every case but in most it would. If you cant work it out then no divorce is granted until it is. If you refuse or abandon your family with out doing so, you would be held in contempt and put in jail until you do!!! JMO
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 the child always seems to be the one that loses most |
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Yes!! Thats the sad part of it.
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I still say the best way is make the parents work it out. I know this wont work in every case but in most it would. If you cant work it out then no divorce is granted until it is. If you refuse or abandon your family with out doing so, you would be held in contempt and put in jail until you do!!! JMO jail is not the answer controlled environment as described above maybe would |
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