If you meet a person from across town for a date and the date doesn't work it's no big deal.

Some guys who message me live too far away for dating so I say no to their offers. I am not big on web dating. I want to get to know the guy in real life.

I've had some guys offer to travel from across the country (or further) just for a date. I totally don't get this.

It's seems like too much pressure. If I decided I didn't feel any chemistry between us I would feel like I would have to stretch the date out just because he traveled so far. I would feel pressured to make the date work instead of just relaxing and being myself.

Would you accept a date from a guy you only talked to for a week on the web and who lived across the country or even further away? Lets say you really didn't know him well and you didn't even know if he is right for you.

The guys I am referring to I would go on a date with if they lived across town.

Thoughts?

It wasn't as simple as a date, but I flew from Chicagoland to Arizona to meet the beautifullest woman(in the picture with me) back in August. I'm flying out to see her again in early December for 6 days.

I'd be suspicious as hell if some guy was willing to travel a loooong distance just to go out with me. It screams of desperation and it makes you wonder, why???? He can't get a girl closer to him? Seriously??? And then it'd be like you owe him something just because he came so far to meet you. Yeah, I wouldn't be interested in that.

thats a tough call. good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Me, I don't think so. There is one person that I have gotten to know here that I would travel to meet.
2-3 hrs is the limit otherwise.

HEY MINDY,

I'D GO AS FAR AS I NEEDED TOO IF I FELT COMFORTABLE WITH THEM ... BUT I WOULD HAVE TO KNOW THEY ARE WHO THEY SAY THEY ARE ... LIKE VIA WEB CAM .... WHAT BOUT U ? U EVER WEB CAM IT ?

Picking up roots just sucks. And it can be so embarrassing when it doesn't work out. Especially if you have lived in the same place for a while. Not to mention moving away from people who actually do care for you and giving up your job. All on the chance that the fantasy might be even real.

a couple few hours max..

rainbowtrout

I won't be picking up any roots unless I fall in love or come darn close.
I just wonder if I should accept guys offers to fly out to see me.
A couple of the guys seem pretty nice but lets be real.....most first dates don't work out.

calleigh12

In these guys defense they don't seem desperate. They even seem like they would not have trouble getting other girls. I think they just happen to have the money and time to travel.

I am afraid it would be like you said.....they would think I owe them something. I don't sleep with guys on the first date...and not usually until the 3-5th date. I like to be courted...that's right I said courted....I am pretty old fashioned.

YGBFKM.

MEMEMEME

2-3 hours at the most. I don't think I'd ever travel across country to meet someone especially if the only contact was through email.

I live in a town full of people with IQ's lower than 10. I am desperate, and I would travel a long way to get out of here and around someone I could actually have an intelligent conversation with.

AND THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH "courted".

melodyxoxo

I am not doing the traveling...they are. I will always webcam and talk to them on the phone first. I am aware of the safety issues. I did cam with one guy but he lives across town and we are meeting Saturday. I have not cammed with the far away guys because I had not planned on meeting them....yet.

my bf lives 3.5 hours away..
however he works in another state for majority of the summer..

and ya know what.. love is totaly worth it..

so in answer.... depends on love..

haha u haven't met me yet!

U haven't met meeee yet either!

iwearthemask

I live in a small town to but it's in between Atlantic City and Philadelphia. I expected my mail to come from those cites and places in between....not from thousands of miles away.

I know how you feel about living in a small town. The one I am in only has 4 single guys and I already dated the three with teeth. (kidding of course)

edit
iwearthmask....you should leave out the word desperate....it scares us girls. That's not something we want to hear. Just say you're picky.

I dunno. I like to drive..but won't fly.

Anything within reasonable driving distance would be fine.

2-4 hours is reasonable. Maybe further depending.