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lexfonteyne The other fact is that type of person I'm looking for just doesn't seem to exist on dating sites. And that isn't going to change, regardless of WHAT I do. Where does she exist and why aren't you there? I am not being silly I mean the question seriously. I am not sure what type you are looking for. You profile has hints I see. I guess that's the problem -- I have only ever met one who truly filled the bill, and we broke up in July (for the third time -- this has been going on and off for nine years) -- Where are the others? I don't know -- I have never seen any others. Before I met her, my life was filled with breezy, insubstantial 3-month entanglements -- that was my milieu for some years. After I met her, everything changed and I knew I wanted something more, something better. Not necessarily HER, per se -- in the long run, everyone is unique -- but someone I could have those same kinds of feelings for -- And it just doesn't happen. I am rarely drawn or attracted to anyone. There is only one person who interests me at all, at the moment, and I might as well be an umbrella stand on the other side of Uzbekistan for all she notices....! |
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adj4u commenting on someone's post about me what is the purpose of that post (just out of curiosity) when she sees what she wants is it not up to her to handle it as she wishes and a far as how soon and how far maybe for mr x she would go 3000 miles after a week but for mr d she would go 300 miles in a year relationships are a variable you can not define the way that this post seems to want imo Thank you Ohio. I have found some people are best ignored. Otherwise they will start a fight just to start a fight. Thx for the backup. 
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That's the part that is confusing. It says that she'll move. She doesn't say how far. That opens the doors to many situations. And she was rude to me because I was pointing that out.  yeah, and that is exactly why guys are emailing and asking. duh.  Right, she was rude also when I merely stated that a week is not enough time to get to know someone adequately. Then a male poster made the exact same comment and she was fine hearing it from him.  
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lexfonteyne The other fact is that type of person I'm looking for just doesn't seem to exist on dating sites. And that isn't going to change, regardless of WHAT I do. Where does she exist and why aren't you there? I am not being silly I mean the question seriously. I am not sure what type you are looking for. You profile has hints I see. I guess that's the problem -- I have only ever met one who truly filled the bill, and we broke up in July (for the third time -- this has been going on and off for nine years) -- Where are the others? I don't know -- I have never seen any others. Before I met her, my life was filled with breezy, insubstantial 3-month entanglements -- that was my milieu for some years. After I met her, everything changed and I knew I wanted something more, something better. Not necessarily HER, per se -- in the long run, everyone is unique -- but someone I could have those same kinds of feelings for -- And it just doesn't happen. I am rarely drawn or attracted to anyone. There is only one person who interests me at all, at the moment, and I might as well be an umbrella stand on the other side of Uzbekistan for all she notices....! Lex why dont you try contacting her? Do you have access to her in real life? |
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adj4u commenting on someone's post about me what is the purpose of that post (just out of curiosity) when she sees what she wants is it not up to her to handle it as she wishes and a far as how soon and how far maybe for mr x she would go 3000 miles after a week but for mr d she would go 300 miles in a year relationships are a variable you can not define the way that this post seems to want imo Thank you Ohio. I have found some people are best ignored. Otherwise they will start a fight just to start a fight. Thx for the backup. Go ahead ignore me , Hey girl nobody picks fights on mingle........well maybe thats a s..t..r..e..e..c..h.
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stormmessages
Oh yes he knows..Is he reading this? *shrug* I doubt it, maybe later though. If you secretly told me who he is I would lure him into this thread to make sure he reads it. lol I have my ways.
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907daydreamer
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Fri 11/21/08 01:53 PM
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what is the purpose of that post (just out of curiosity) when she sees what she wants is it not up to her to handle it as she wishes and a far as how soon and how far maybe for mr x she would go 3000 miles after a week but for mr d she would go 300 miles in a year relationships are a variable you can not define the way that this post seems to want imo the purpose is to point out where the confusion lies between her post and her profile. of course it is up to her to determine what she is comfortable with but the reasoning behind the emails she is talking about in this post is pretty clear to me. she is getting emails from guys who are far away and want to meet because her profile indicates that she is okay with that sort of thing. now can you please explain to me the purpose behind your questioning my right to post a completely valid point? I have found some people are best ignored. Otherwise they will start a fight just to start a fight. Thx for the backup. smile oh and Mindy, does ignoring my posts include reporting them? I need to know for future reference. |
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Lex why dont you try contacting her? Do you have access to her in real life? Well, I have made some attempts, and I pretty much ONLY have access to her in real life -- she's not on any sites that I know of; and, although we have exchanged a few e-mails, they're not exactly frequent or particularly profound. The ex -- the on-and-off one for the past nine years -- I am still very close to. We talk almost every day, and she does a lot of work on my books -- she did both covers and all the page formatting. The lead female character in my first book is based on her. She is designing a website for the books, as well. It's not like we hate each other or anything -- we just don't work as a consistently committed couple. If it was up to me, we would. |
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lexfontayne
And it just doesn't happen. I am rarely drawn or attracted to anyone. There is only one person who interests me at all, at the moment, and I might as well be an umbrella stand on the other side of Uzbekistan for all she notices....! I can't image it's someone on this site. You're hard to miss here. I am not asking you where she is....I know you don't want to give up your secrets. Just saying you're hard to miss. We girls don't click on many profiles that go all the way to Japan. You're picky. You know the girl for you is out there but like you she is picky. You need to find where picky writers with long profiles hang out. I always thought women fell all over writers. |
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adj4u
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Fri 11/21/08 01:54 PM
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what is the purpose of that post (just out of curiosity) when she sees what she wants is it not up to her to handle it as she wishes and a far as how soon and how far maybe for mr x she would go 3000 miles after a week but for mr d she would go 300 miles in a year relationships are a variable you can not define the way that this post seems to want imo the purpose is to point out where the confusion lies between her post and her profile. of course it is up to her to determine what she is comfortable with but the reasoning behind the emails she is talking about in this post is pretty clear to me. she is getting emails from guys who are far away and want to meet because her profile indicates that she is okay with that sort of thing. now can you please explain to me the purpose behind you questioning my right to post a completely valid point? I have found some people are best ignored. Otherwise they will start a fight just to start a fight. Thx for the backup. smile oh and Mindy, does ignoring my posts include reporting them? I need to know for future reference. i did not see the post asking why and after all this is not the rate my profile thread if you have construcive critics you should email them unless they are asked for such as in the rate my profile threads to do so in an open thread could be considered baiting and attacking and no i did not report your post after all there is a mod in the thread |
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Date in real life. I think you should be open to meeting people online, but just keep it that way for quite awhile. Then if something comes out of the friendship online, and you both feel the same way, then maybe travel.
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CCL
Go ahead ignore me , Hey girl nobody picks fights on mingle........well maybe thats a s..t..r..e..e..c..h. Hi CCL. Wanna fight in the mud? I couldn't ignore you. I tried once but your puppy dog eyes brought me back. I am an easy target for the guys with dog pictures as their main profile photo. You could look like a werewolf but as long as you have a cute dog photo as your main pic you'll get my attention. Cause I feel like I am talking to the cute puppy. Not the person behind it. |
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Lex why dont you try contacting her? Do you have access to her in real life? Well, I have made some attempts, and I pretty much ONLY have access to her in real life -- she's not on any sites that I know of; and, although we have exchanged a few e-mails, they're not exactly frequent or particularly profound. The ex -- the on-and-off one for the past nine years -- I am still very close to. We talk almost every day, and she does a lot of work on my books -- she did both covers and all the page formatting. The lead female character in my first book is based on her. She is designing a website for the books, as well. It's not like we hate each other or anything -- we just don't work as a consistently committed couple. If it was up to me, we would. I see. Well yes, it definitely sounds like you are emotionally still very involved with this ex. I take it she was the one who lacked the ability to fully commit? Thats sad but happens. It also sounds like you still are very close and have feelings for one another. I have some questions about this but I dont want to badger you. Is this ex involved with another man now or is she single also? |
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I can't image it's someone on this site. You're hard to miss here. No -- no one from here! I guess I am fairly well-known here. Two years and 14,000 posts will do that for you. I used to think that maybe someone would sign up who liked writers some day....! But it never happened....or I never noticed.... I am not asking you where she is....I know you don't want to give up your secrets. Just saying you're hard to miss. We girls don't click on many profiles that go all the way to Japan. Oh, the one I like is in Illinois. Works in a grocery store. I've mentioned it dozens of times over the past few months -- it's never really been a secret. But she's not on this site. You're picky. You know the girl for you is out there but like you she is picky. You need to find where picky writers with long profiles hang out. I always thought women fell all over writers. That's what I thought, too. Sadly, it does not seem to be the case in real life! Dan99 suggested that maybe some of them are intimidated by the fact that I've written and published two books. That concept baffles me. Anyone who would be intimidated by something that simple, is not someone I would want to be around anyway. It's not like I found a cure for cancer or discovered a new planet. I wrote two books. Some people draw or paint or sculpt or play music or write poetry or take photos. All creative outlets. Is that something to be intimidated by? |
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CCL Go ahead ignore me , Hey girl nobody picks fights on mingle........well maybe thats a s..t..r..e..e..c..h. Hi CCL. Wanna fight in the mud? I couldn't ignore you. I tried once but your puppy dog eyes brought me back. I am an easy target for the guys with dog pictures as their main profile photo. You could look like a werewolf but as long as you have a cute dog photo as your main pic you'll get my attention. Cause I feel like I am talking to the cute puppy. Not the person behind it. Well I Look more like a werewolf, but when covered with mud you wouldn't be able to tell. 
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Hi BrainWaves
Date in real life. I think you should be open to meeting people online, but just keep it that way for quite awhile. Then if something comes out of the friendship online, and you both feel the same way, then maybe travel. Hi BrainWaves I am very open that's why I am here. I just wasn't expecting guys to want to move so fast. I really don't know how to do an online friendship or relationship. I was probably the only girl in my High School without a myspace page. It's hard to have a myspace page when your dad thinks myspace is where child predators and Satan hang out. |
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what is the purpose of that post (just out of curiosity) when she sees what she wants is it not up to her to handle it as she wishes and a far as how soon and how far maybe for mr x she would go 3000 miles after a week but for mr d she would go 300 miles in a year relationships are a variable you can not define the way that this post seems to want imo the purpose is to point out where the confusion lies between her post and her profile. of course it is up to her to determine what she is comfortable with but the reasoning behind the emails she is talking about in this post is pretty clear to me. she is getting emails from guys who are far away and want to meet because her profile indicates that she is okay with that sort of thing. now can you please explain to me the purpose behind you questioning my right to post a completely valid point? I have found some people are best ignored. Otherwise they will start a fight just to start a fight. Thx for the backup. smile oh and Mindy, does ignoring my posts include reporting them? I need to know for future reference. i did not see the post asking why and after all this is not the rate my profile thread if you have construcive critics you should email them unless they are asked for such as in the rate my profile threads to do so in an open thread could be considered baiting and attacking and no i did not report your post after all there is a mod in the thread did anyone see this? I've had some guys offer to travel from across the country (or further) just for a date. I totally don't get this. I wasn't rating her profile. even if I was "attacking" her it would be a review and not a rating. besides, I was nice. and it's true. she brings it up in her profile! guys with the ability to travel are going to ask. |
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lexfontayne.......
............I've written and published two books. That concept baffles me. Anyone who would be intimidated by something that simple, is not someone I would want to be around anyway. It's not like I found a cure for cancer or discovered a new planet. I wrote two books. Some people draw or paint or sculpt or play music or write poetry or take photos. All creative outlets. Is that something to be intimidated by? Does the girl know you wrote two books? Being an author is a little bit of a turn on. It also makes you less of a stranger ...if she reads your books that is. You are no longer just some random guy....you are an author with a reputation to uphold. You sound like you could be exciting. You need to find a friend to somehow drop your name around that girl. I wish I was there. I would run up to you and ask you to autograph your book for me....I would do it in the check out line right in front of that girl. I would be all over you. She would think....."who is THIS guy." |
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CCL
Well I Look more like a werewolf, but when covered with mud you wouldn't be able to tell. You look like your contemplating something. |
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Edited by
adj4u
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Fri 11/21/08 02:15 PM
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what is the purpose of that post (just out of curiosity) when she sees what she wants is it not up to her to handle it as she wishes and a far as how soon and how far maybe for mr x she would go 3000 miles after a week but for mr d she would go 300 miles in a year relationships are a variable you can not define the way that this post seems to want imo the purpose is to point out where the confusion lies between her post and her profile. of course it is up to her to determine what she is comfortable with but the reasoning behind the emails she is talking about in this post is pretty clear to me. she is getting emails from guys who are far away and want to meet because her profile indicates that she is okay with that sort of thing. now can you please explain to me the purpose behind you questioning my right to post a completely valid point? I have found some people are best ignored. Otherwise they will start a fight just to start a fight. Thx for the backup. smile oh and Mindy, does ignoring my posts include reporting them? I need to know for future reference. i did not see the post asking why and after all this is not the rate my profile thread if you have construcive critics you should email them unless they are asked for such as in the rate my profile threads to do so in an open thread could be considered baiting and attacking and no i did not report your post after all there is a mod in the thread did anyone see this? I've had some guys offer to travel from across the country (or further) just for a date. I totally don't get this. I wasn't rating her profile. even if I was "attacking" her it would be a review and not a rating. besides, I was nice. and it's true. she brings it up in her profile! guys with the ability to travel are going to ask. an email stating that out of the blue i could not get it neither http://mingle2.com/forum/forum/29 read title may much good come to you and yours i am done discussing this all that can come from further discussion is something i will not be a part of it is not worth it be well |
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