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Since there's people from all over in these forums, do you find it offensive to be called any of the names mentioned above? I kind of like it, actually. It sure beats most of the other stuff I get called. |
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So how would you people feel if you lived in the UK and you were called Mi duck, hen, Mi darling,Mi ole China, Fanny Ann, cocker ( just a few regional terms of endearment) by total strangers? Do they offend you Bonny? Since I don't know the terms of your country, I wouldn't know if you found them offensive or not. This is part of my point, it's only words, if one perceives something as offensive, it will offend no matter how it's used or when. Some people find it offensive to not use some kind of salutation with them when you're speaking to them, so if one doesn't know their name, in the south, we might use "hon". Not in the slightest !!!! It is a form of acceptance when a person addresses you this way, especially when you enter a village atmosphere. Villagers in the UK do not take too kindly to "outsiders" so when a villager addresses you as such ( especially the Nosey Parker of the village) you know they have accepted you. Pssst, I get offended being addressed as "Mz" 
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So how would you people feel if you lived in the UK and you were called Mi duck, hen, Mi darling,Mi ole China, Fanny Ann, cocker ( just a few regional terms of endearment) by total strangers? Do they offend you Bonny? Since I don't know the terms of your country, I wouldn't know if you found them offensive or not. This is part of my point, it's only words, if one perceives something as offensive, it will offend no matter how it's used or when. Some people find it offensive to not use some kind of salutation with them when you're speaking to them, so if one doesn't know their name, in the south, we might use "hon". Not in the slightest !!!! It is a form of acceptance when a person addresses you this way, especially when you enter a village atmosphere. Villagers in the UK do not take too kindly to "outsiders" so when a villager addresses you as such ( especially the Nosey Parker of the village) you know they have accepted you. Pssst, I get offended being addressed as "Mz" Made note...not to use "Mz" in addressing you! 
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Since there's people from all over in these forums, do you find it offensive to be called any of the names mentioned above? I kind of like it, actually. It sure beats most of the other stuff I get called. I've seen others refer to you in those same terms also Lex, I never saw them as disrepecting you in any way! |
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People normally call me @$$,#$%#,$&#$,#$##%#$#%(()#$, or my favorite &^&*(^&*)%&*%&*^ so hon is a compliment
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People normally call me @$$,#$%#,$&#$,#$##%#$#%(()#$, or my favorite &^&*(^&*)%&*%&*^ so hon is a compliment how about "Stalker"...wait that's what you call me! Should I get p*ssed now or later?  
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Edited by
Fade2Black
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Tue 11/04/08 05:11 AM
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People in the south, mostly females, I don't know exactly what the males might use, we call people "hon, sugar, darlin, etc". Most of the time, it's a form of endearment, but you'll find waitresses, clerks, etc. that don't know you, referring to you in one of these ways, simply acknowleding that you exist since we don't know your name. Twice, in the past month I've been reproached because I called someone "hon". Neither time did I know this persons name, one even after 4 emails wouldn't sign or say his name, the other mocked me in a thread. Since there's people from all over in these forums, do you find it offensive to be called any of the names mentioned above? It's not just a southern thing. I call people sweets, babe, hon, stupidhead (  JUST KIDDING  ) I do steer clear of baby unless I know them well. Then you get that too. ha ha I do try not to if I don't know the person at all but heck its just a friendly way of addressing a person. I can see though why some people consider DEAR condescending if it's done in a smartass tone .. "yes DEAR we'll get right on it" .. or whatevaaahh Why do we get soooooooooo upset over such little things.  You go honeyyyyyyyyy! |
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People in the south, mostly females, I don't know exactly what the males might use, we call people "hon, sugar, darlin, etc". Most of the time, it's a form of endearment, but you'll find waitresses, clerks, etc. that don't know you, referring to you in one of these ways, simply acknowleding that you exist since we don't know your name. Twice, in the past month I've been reproached because I called someone "hon". Neither time did I know this persons name, one even after 4 emails wouldn't sign or say his name, the other mocked me in a thread. Since there's people from all over in these forums, do you find it offensive to be called any of the names mentioned above? It's not just a southern thing. I call people sweets, babe, hon, stupidhead ( JUST KIDDING ) I do steer clear of baby unless I know them well. They you get that too. ha ha I do try not to if I don't know the person at all but heck its just a friendly way of addressing a person. Why do we get soooooooooo upset over such little things. You go honeyyyyyyyyy! How about poopiehead, that's what Noden calls me, and she claims it's a term of endearment and because she loves me 
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People normally call me @$$,#$%#,$&#$,#$##%#$#%(()#$, or my favorite &^&*(^&*)%&*%&*^ so hon is a compliment how about "Stalker"...wait that's what you call me! Should I get p*ssed now or later? I thought I called you cute,sexy,gorgeous,pretty,dishy,dreamboat,and beauteous. 
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Edited by
OneMoreTimeAround
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Tue 11/04/08 05:28 AM
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People in the south, mostly females, I don't know exactly what the males might use, we call people "hon, sugar, darlin, etc". Most of the time, it's a form of endearment, but you'll find waitresses, clerks, etc. that don't know you, referring to you in one of these ways, simply acknowleding that you exist since we don't know your name. Twice, in the past month I've been reproached because I called someone "hon". Neither time did I know this persons name, one even after 4 emails wouldn't sign or say his name, the other mocked me in a thread. Since there's people from all over in these forums, do you find it offensive to be called any of the names mentioned above? It's not just a southern thing. I call people sweets, babe, hon, stupidhead ( JUST KIDDING ) I do steer clear of baby unless I know them well. Then you get that too. ha ha I do try not to if I don't know the person at all but heck its just a friendly way of addressing a person. I can see though why some people consider DEAR condescending if it's done in a smartass tone .. "yes DEAR we'll get right on it" .. or whatevaaahh Why do we get soooooooooo upset over such little things. You go honeyyyyyyyyy! This is what I got: "You are fake, shallow and probably have had so many men in your bed that you must refer to them as "hon or "sugar" so you can keep the names straight!" That concept had never occurred to me!!! And all because I started the conversation with "Hon",since I didn't know his name! |
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Nope, doesn't bother me at all. although I do know some women who get offended by it. I don't know any men who are bothered by it.
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People normally call me @$$,#$%#,$&#$,#$##%#$#%(()#$, or my favorite &^&*(^&*)%&*%&*^ so hon is a compliment how about "Stalker"...wait that's what you call me! Should I get p*ssed now or later? I thought I called you cute,sexy,gorgeous,pretty,dishy,dreamboat,and beauteous. I told you to take your meds before you came out in public!! Thinking is another one of your problems!
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Bonny, I guess MZ Poopiehead would really bother you then?
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Since there's people from all over in these forums, do you find it offensive to be called any of the names mentioned above? I kind of like it, actually. It sure beats most of the other stuff I get called. My sentiments exactly!!  99% of the time the people who are using these terms "Sugar", "Sweetie" etc... are not using the terms to be impolite, -I just go with the "Flo"...
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People in the south, mostly females, I don't know exactly what the males might use, we call people "hon, sugar, darlin, etc". Most of the time, it's a form of endearment, but you'll find waitresses, clerks, etc. that don't know you, referring to you in one of these ways, simply acknowleding that you exist since we don't know your name. Twice, in the past month I've been reproached because I called someone "hon". Neither time did I know this persons name, one even after 4 emails wouldn't sign or say his name, the other mocked me in a thread. Since there's people from all over in these forums, do you find it offensive to be called any of the names mentioned above? It's not just a southern thing. I call people sweets, babe, hon, stupidhead ( JUST KIDDING ) I do steer clear of baby unless I know them well. Then you get that too. ha ha I do try not to if I don't know the person at all but heck its just a friendly way of addressing a person. I can see though why some people consider DEAR condescending if it's done in a smartass tone .. "yes DEAR we'll get right on it" .. or whatevaaahh Why do we get soooooooooo upset over such little things. You go honeyyyyyyyyy! This is what I got: "You are fake, shallow and probably have had so many men in your bed that you must refer to them as "hon or "sugar" so you can keep the names straight!" That concept had never occurred to me!!! And all because I started the email with "Hon",since I didn't know his name! I LUUUUUUUUUUUUV mail like that .. "delete/block" I am amazed at how many screws loose a person on line can actually have. CRAAAAAAAZY but better to find out first email out eh?   
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dear,,, darlin,, things i have always said, and things that i have always been called. being raised in the country i guess its considered backwards and old timey to be kind and respectful and nice to people. "Respectful" is to call someone you dont know Sir or Ms, or Mam....hon, darling, sugar, etc...if not addressed to a child, are merely condecsending put downs. 
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Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Why should it?
Sticks and stones, people. |
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People in the south, mostly females, I don't know exactly what the males might use, we call people "hon, sugar, darlin, etc". Most of the time, it's a form of endearment, but you'll find waitresses, clerks, etc. that don't know you, referring to you in one of these ways, simply acknowleding that you exist since we don't know your name. Twice, in the past month I've been reproached because I called someone "hon". Neither time did I know this persons name, one even after 4 emails wouldn't sign or say his name, the other mocked me in a thread. Since there's people from all over in these forums, do you find it offensive to be called any of the names mentioned above? It's not just a southern thing. I call people sweets, babe, hon, stupidhead ( JUST KIDDING ) I do steer clear of baby unless I know them well. Then you get that too. ha ha I do try not to if I don't know the person at all but heck its just a friendly way of addressing a person. I can see though why some people consider DEAR condescending if it's done in a smartass tone .. "yes DEAR we'll get right on it" .. or whatevaaahh Why do we get soooooooooo upset over such little things. You go honeyyyyyyyyy! This is what I got: "You are fake, shallow and probably have had so many men in your bed that you must refer to them as "hon or "sugar" so you can keep the names straight!" That concept had never occurred to me!!! And all because I started the email with "Hon",since I didn't know his name! I LUUUUUUUUUUUUV mail like that .. "delete/block" I am amazed at how many screws loose a person on line can actually have. CRAAAAAAAZY but better to find out first email out eh? it wasn't the first, it was like the 4th and I had asked if his ID was his name and he replied no..but after 4 still I didn't have his name. But, yes, I don't reply anymore! |
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dear,,, darlin,, things i have always said, and things that i have always been called. being raised in the country i guess its considered backwards and old timey to be kind and respectful and nice to people. "Respectful" is to call someone you dont know Sir or Ms, or Mam....hon, darling, sugar, etc...if not addressed to a child, are merely condecsending put downs. I respectfully disagree! |
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I agree that it is not just a southern thing. I have used the terms myself, when working in food service you find it alot.
When being nice and sweet can ensure you a bigger tip sometimes and it can also be an ice breaker for a conversation. |
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