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Topic: Do nice guys really finish last?
froglittlesis Joined Mon 03/10/08 Posts: 776	Fri 08/08/08 02:24 PM
where are you I have been looking for a nice guy ohhh so long.

lonedaddy Joined Sun 03/02/08 Posts: 159	Fri 08/08/08 02:24 PM
wow yea that first sentence blew me away. nice guys never become more than friends.....ha! those guys arent the right kind of nice!!!!

rainysky39 Joined Sun 01/20/08 Posts: 4071	Fri 08/08/08 02:25 PM
check this out...nice guys do finish last.. I always make sure of it. It's polite to make the woman climax first!!!...not to mention she will fill like a lady after she's properly serviced, because nice guys are still nice after sex.

lonedaddy Joined Sun 03/02/08 Posts: 159	Fri 08/08/08 02:26 PM
What? you know properly serviced?

rainysky39 Joined Sun 01/20/08 Posts: 4071	Fri 08/08/08 02:28 PM Edited by rainysky39 on Fri 08/08/08 02:28 PM
I would feel like a mare needing bred with a stud.

lonedaddy Joined Sun 03/02/08 Posts: 159	Fri 08/08/08 02:30 PM
maybe more like a mare having been bred with a stud!!!lmao

Stallion99 Joined Tue 08/05/08 Posts: 14	Fri 08/08/08 02:37 PM
Every time I'm nice to someone close to me, they start to take advantage. I'm nice to new people, someone I just met. But sometimes I think about it before I do a favor for someone who claims I'm their friend

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 08/08/08 02:56 PM
Unless the girl likes a submissive man. And being a nice guy isn't synonymous with lacking confidence. And really it's difficult for a guy to be nice without being called a *****. Ok... I will bite. Let's say you guys agree to go see a movie and to a resturant. Nice guy routine.... "DeviousDelilah what is your favorite resturant and what chick flick would you like to go see afterward." Self-Determined Man routine.... "DeviousDelilah, I know this great little resturant you've got to try. They've got the best appletizers. Afterwards, I know this quiet little wine cellar and learn more about each other." I guess they are almost the same.. but the difference is the Nice Guy is You centered, you choose... which will get boring. The other guy is experience centered and Leads. It is psychological Woman do want a man to take charge and Lead and make them feel secure. I think this is very true. All the guys I meet nowadays just sit back and want the woman to make all the decisions and make all moves in the relationship. I know I'm no 23 year old hottie, but I get really tired of having to do all the work. There is a happy medium between jerks and guys who just can't start a relationship or take charge a little.

wacky_yet_grounded Joined Sat 07/19/08 Posts: 2102	Fri 08/08/08 02:58 PM
I kind of know the feeling. I've been told I'm nice AND funny yet the chemistry for romance wasn't there for the lady.

wacky_yet_grounded Joined Sat 07/19/08 Posts: 2102	Fri 08/08/08 03:01 PM
Maybe I shouldn't be so nice???

SVImager Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 579	Fri 08/08/08 03:24 PM
I think this is very true. All the guys I meet nowadays just sit back and want the woman to make all the decisions and make all moves in the relationship. I know I'm no 23 year old hottie, but I get really tired of having to do all the work. There is a happy medium between jerks and guys who just can't start a relationship or take charge a little. Great... you see my point. I don't know how it started or how we got this way. I haven't been able to find research or studies on this subject. Howard Stern said, "Men today are a bunch of pussies." The term "Nice Guy" doesn't really mean the word Nice but a label for the type of behavior. It is a default characteristic, that TAKES no EFFORTS. I am sorry to say this (all the Nice Guys especially).... You woman shouldn't have to settle for less. But do get to know that Nice Guy and do tell them what it would take for them to get better. But most woman don't even know what they want. It is easy being NICE.. It is almost laziness to remain NICE. Being the freaking Door Mat for the woman of your dream to be stepped on. Being something more than NICE is hard work and cost money. You have to be well Groomed. In touch with your feminine side, therefore take care of your health and appearance. The biggest problem with NICE guys is that they put the woman in their life on a Pedestal and the focus of their dreams and passion... in which, she will fail to meet that unAttainable perfection and thus ending the relationship without Respect for being the Door Mat. How can the woman of your Dreams VALUE you, if you don't Can't VALUE yourself? You don't Value yourself when you are a freaking DOOR MAT. Wheeeww... I have to go eat dinner.

Wind22 Joined Sat 07/26/08 Posts: 7	Fri 08/08/08 03:26 PM
i guess you guys are right. maybe i need to drop the nice guy act. i am not really a "nice guy" per se, just only a "nice guy" to the females. i hate to admit this, but sometime the females do take advantage of the nice guys. as to the feeling of being secure and what not, don't the females know that the nice guys are REAL BAD BOYS. nice guys just like to hide the bad boy image.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 08/08/08 03:30 PM
i guess you guys are right. maybe i need to drop the nice guy act. i am not really a "nice guy" per se, just only a "nice guy" to the females. i hate to admit this, but sometime the females do take advantage of the nice guys. as to the feeling of being secure and what not, don't the females know that the nice guys are REAL BAD BOYS. nice guys just like to hide the bad boy image. That's good to know!

SVImager Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 579	Fri 08/08/08 03:31 PM
If any of you guys are interested... Read the book "Ways of a Superior Man" by David Deida. It is available at Borders and Amazon. They also have it on Audiobooks. You can listen to it, with the woman in your life and I garantee(sp?) she will agree with what the author says. It might lead to a healthier relationship.

ruspecial Joined Sat 05/10/08 Posts: 19	Fri 08/08/08 03:38 PM Edited by ruspecial on Fri 08/08/08 03:39 PM


ruspecial Joined Sat 05/10/08 Posts: 19	Fri 08/08/08 03:40 PM
Aw, I hope not. You just need to find the girl that can handle a nice guy. Welcome. well i havent met one yet ...and i am nce but not a pushover ..

sparkleplenty424 Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 463	Fri 08/08/08 04:12 PM
I think most women are wary of "nice guys". I am wary of guys who think they are nice; or who are trying to act nice; and then get really angry and blame you when you don't rip your clothes off for them. Nice is simply not enough. You must be smart, genuine, witty, interesting, empathetic, confident..the list goes on. I am so tired of guys whining "I'm nice and nobody wants me; women must want mean guys!" Sheesh.

sparkleplenty424 Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 463	Fri 08/08/08 04:15 PM
Paint the town red with this subject, Im sorry but no 1 gets dumped for being to nice, well said!

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Fri 08/08/08 04:17 PM
All the rest of us hope so.

sparkleplenty424 Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 463	Fri 08/08/08 04:20 PM
It just cracks me up that guys think if they don't do well with women that it has to be because they are too nice. Yeah, that's it. It's not your lack of wit, or your boring conversation; it's not your weird hobbies or your lack of style; nope, it HAS to be your excess niceness. How self-serving can you get? Take responsibility for yourselves, guys.