Thanks Peekinin - what gall of that employer to demand employees be on time and daily on top of everything else

But it wasn't anything from out side of me, not a reason, answer or explanation from someone else. It was an internal realisation(sp)
An "Ah-Ha" moment!!!!

I gotcha ... funny thing is that I have more in common with the males regarding this issue than with the ladies - thanks for sharing

I do believe I am in the middle of another one too.

AHHHHH-HAAAAAAAAA.

there are certain things I put behind me, especially if driving at a high speed in reverse just kidding (trying to keep it light)

I dont hold onto negative thoughts or vibes, granted it works for me, may not work for another soul. I search and seek out positive in all that happens to me, so to me closure is just that the acceptance that things are over, finished, kaput, and it comes from within me.

rut rohhhhhhhhhhh

No, not like that . Gaining insight into current situation.

Glad to hear

4get about them they BLOW n I RULE!

4get about them they BLOW n I RULE!

if this works for you, go for it

Fran, I do see where you are coming from. Completely. I guess for me, I need that information to close things on my end. Sometimes it is quick, it was quick with my most recent ex. I knew that had nothing to do with me and was in fact only real on my end. So there was nothing really to "close", just my own pride to swallow. Talking to his ex really helped me, and after a couple of weeks it was done. Other times it can take longer, based on what went on and how it all happened.


I agree it is within ourselves, and there can be a component of wanting it to drag on in a way (not deliberalitely I don't think).... but ultimately the goal for all of us is to become happier, healthier, and move forward. We just all do it differently. That is the point, right?

And TGIF!!!!!

(((((Lilith))))))

Information gathering can be a biatch

but isn't that what we do when we go through the "levels"?

I will agree though, the "process" which can bring about closure can be swift or drawn out. Each situation bringing its own "brand".

Personally, I would never ask, "what did I do wrong". That in itself is asking someone else to validate. IMHO

And TGIF to you too

definitely Lilith.

The reason I posted this was because responses were confusing me, people were demanding, expecting answers from their partners (didnt matter who broke up with whom). So I asked.

The information will always be available to both parties as both lived the experience, both will have different views (neither one being wrong). So I understand.

TGIF 2 ya 2

I would never also assume to think it was something "I" did, because in relationships it is normally an "us" or a "we" so I just split things right down the middle and make no excuses nor do I accept them - this is just me, not a standard, but this works for me.

good luck to all those that have found closure and to those still seeking closure.

So onto a different, yet related topic of closure....

Let's talk about LOST, or serial soap operas.
How can people watch those.... there is no ending? !!! No closure.

I once had a friend tell me to watch "Friends With Money", and each story had no ending at
all, it was like the film just stopped in the middle. Of course, I went to work the next day and told her I watched it,
while she laughed uproariously for ten minutes, saying it was just a joke for me to see it, that she knew I'd despise it...

That is a closure issue for me too.
So I don't watch those sorts of shows.

I happen to enjoy "The Closer" with Kyra Sedgwick ironic huh??

But she does close out every case

I, of course, ADORE that show. Each episode ends so neatly, huh?

ummmm....No Stealth Mode?!

Mary Hartman Mary Hartman

lmaooooooo