Topic: I HAVE A 13 YR. OLD AND NEED HELP
madamx7316's photo
Thu 05/15/08 10:06 AM


jewlz...how many children have you raised and do you have a degree in such?ohwell

I am a police officer, on a dialy basis i raise the children of parents who couldnt do it themselves.


as a police officer, you handle them for a short while, you dont raise them. as a police officer, i am sure you have seen where the parent did "beat thier ass" and ended up losing thier child and going to jail...seen it too many times. i work in outreach and casemanagement...i know what i speak of. dont judge until you know...you have no idea if this woman spoils her children, what the background is.

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Thu 05/15/08 10:07 AM




I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents

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Thu 05/15/08 10:07 AM


jewlz...how many children have you raised and do you have a degree in such?ohwell

I am a police officer, on a dialy basis i raise the children of parents who couldnt do it themselves.

say no morelaugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Thu 05/15/08 10:08 AM



jewlz...how many children have you raised and do you have a degree in such?ohwell

I am a police officer, on a dialy basis i raise the children of parents who couldnt do it themselves.


as a police officer, you handle them for a short while, you dont raise them. as a police officer, i am sure you have seen where the parent did "beat thier ass" and ended up losing thier child and going to jail...seen it too many times. i work in outreach and casemanagement...i know what i speak of. dont judge until you know...you have no idea if this woman spoils her children, what the background is.

yes and i have also locked up kids for assaulting their parents. i arrested a 13yo kid who stabbed him mom because she bought him the wrong CAR for his birthday....

robert1652's photo
Thu 05/15/08 10:08 AM





I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents

Unfortunately for you the sarcasm was to subtle for you to grasp of the commentlaugh laugh laugh

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Thu 05/15/08 10:09 AM




jewlz...how many children have you raised and do you have a degree in such?ohwell

I am a police officer, on a dialy basis i raise the children of parents who couldnt do it themselves.


as a police officer, you handle them for a short while, you dont raise them. as a police officer, i am sure you have seen where the parent did "beat thier ass" and ended up losing thier child and going to jail...seen it too many times. i work in outreach and casemanagement...i know what i speak of. dont judge until you know...you have no idea if this woman spoils her children, what the background is.

yes and i have also locked up kids for assaulting their parents. i arrested a 13yo kid who stabbed his mom because she bought him the wrong CAR for his birthday....

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Thu 05/15/08 10:10 AM






I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents

Unfortunately for you the sarcasm was to subtle for you to grasp of the commentlaugh laugh laugh

its a stupid way of saying i am a peice of **** or am full of ****...your good...

madamx7316's photo
Thu 05/15/08 10:10 AM
robocop...i can see this...anyways to the woman who is seeking help, if you need, email me anytime, there are some of us here who are seriously here for you as a friend, if nothing else but to offer advice or lend an ear.flowerforyou

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Thu 05/15/08 10:10 AM





I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents


refering to violence as a problem solving technique for a child by a police officer!! makes me ill...sick sick

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Thu 05/15/08 10:11 AM
okay first an foremose, ood for you for trying to get her help.

Second, she may not have bipolar, it may be borderline (what i have). They really hate people. I am on meds, but not for anger, its an antipsychotic.

madamx7316's photo
Thu 05/15/08 10:11 AM






I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents


refering to violence as a problem solving technique for a child by a police officer!! makes me ill...sick sick


he is barely older than the child himself...yeah...a police officer suggesting violence...nice haha

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Thu 05/15/08 10:12 AM






I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents


refering to violence as a problem solving technique for a child by a police officer!! makes me ill...sick sick



its something i agree with totally tho. kids should understand they are not the parents andare not in charge. thats my POV. everyone has a diff. one but thats mine

jedigirl's photo
Thu 05/15/08 10:12 AM

robocop...i can see this...anyways to the woman who is seeking help, if you need, email me anytime, there are some of us here who are seriously here for you as a friend, if nothing else but to offer advice or lend an ear.flowerforyou


dittoflowerforyou flowerforyou

LadyOfMagic's photo
Thu 05/15/08 10:13 AM

go to the Maury show

Maury ain't gonna help..he's the "Who my baby daddy?" guy..how is he gonna help with a wild child?laugh

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Thu 05/15/08 10:16 AM







I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents


refering to violence as a problem solving technique for a child by a police officer!! makes me ill...sick sick



its something i agree with totally tho. kids should understand they are not the parents andare not in charge. thats my POV. everyone has a diff. one but thats mine

I guess thats why you are a police officer and you handle things they way you see it fit as per your training. I have no problem accepting that the society requires individuals like you . There is no doubt. But we don't use a sledge hammer to crack a nut. Unfortunately the system does and you also instead of being part of a solution become part of a problem:cry:

jedigirl's photo
Thu 05/15/08 10:18 AM







I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents


refering to violence as a problem solving technique for a child by a police officer!! makes me ill...sick sick



its something i agree with totally tho. kids should understand they are not the parents andare not in charge. thats my POV. everyone has a diff. one but thats mine


Im down with everyone having an opinion...freedom of choice..im all about it...when it comes to kids...and the fact your a police officer....i question your ethics not your opinions...a peace officer in my mind should be just that....provoking violence in any home should not be stated from you publicly....


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Thu 05/15/08 10:20 AM







I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents

Unfortunately for you the sarcasm was to subtle for you to grasp of the commentlaugh laugh laugh

its a stupid way of saying i am a peice of **** or am full of ****...your good...

I think English language is so reach where no derogatory words are required for expressing an opinion . However there always is a balance in nature . In this case the richness of the language against inability of the users of the language. How regrettable yet again.

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Thu 05/15/08 10:20 AM








I HAVE A 13 YR OLD GIRL THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL. SHE HAS BEEN SUSPENDED FROM SCHOOL SEVERAL TIMES THIS YEAR, BEEN LOCKED UP IN JUVY OVERNIGHT, AND CONSTANTLY CUSSES ME AND HER MAMAW OUT. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I KNOW OF TO GET HER TO GET CONTROL OF HER ACTIONS. SHE IS CURRENTLY ON MEDICATION FOR HER ANGER ISSUES AND SHE IS ON PROBATION. WHAT CAN A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 DO? I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS GOING ON IN HER MIND. SHE WONT TALK TO ME AND I AM DEVASTATED ABOUT ALL THIS.

I DONT WANT HER BROTHERS TO END UP LIKE THE WAY SHE IS RIGHT NOW. I TELL MY SONS NOT TO ACT LIKE THEIR SISTER BUT HER TWIN BROTHER IS STARTING TO ACT OUT. I CAUGHT HIM SMOKING CIGS YESTERDAY AND I REALLY BLEW A FUSE THEN.

CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT I SHOULD DO? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

These issues are most of the time dealt with therapy sessions. There are many places that they will take you on and subject to your ability to pay wil charge a fee but the agreements are that normally if you miss 2 sessions they will dismiss you. Bear that in mind
As for the issues the anger may be about a missing parent who possibly left abruptly never to return or death of a parent which causes the anxiety.
It may also be due to ADHT which needs expeert for diagnosys.

So 1st step seek counceling and then try to make sure it is not HDT or ADHT



im sorry but all that add adhd abde efgh is all horse crap. adhd is a kid raised by a parent who spoils their kid and lets them get away with way to much, beat her ass, ull see what happens

People like you make this world a very colourful place to live
I guess your colour is dark brown.laugh laugh laugh laugh


i prefer a dark blue, maybe black... but its true, and i bet the parents of kids who dont act out would agree. its a sad but true fact that kids now adays act as if they themselves are the parents


refering to violence as a problem solving technique for a child by a police officer!! makes me ill...sick sick



its something i agree with totally tho. kids should understand they are not the parents andare not in charge. thats my POV. everyone has a diff. one but thats mine

I guess thats why you are a police officer and you handle things they way you see it fit as per your training. I have no problem accepting that the society requires individuals like you . There is no doubt. But we don't use a sledge hammer to crack a nut. Unfortunately the system does and you also instead of being part of a solution become part of a problem:cry:


my biggest point on the whole matter i guess is this....ill lay it out (not trying to make excuses but idk...) i was raised by the iron fist of my parents, grew up on honorroll, joined the USMC, and am now already a cop and almost finished college. my sister on the other hand was almost 18, was raised getting what she wants when she wants it and she has been arrested 4 times and got pregnant once then last december was found ODed on heroin. so i guess my outlook on it is that if you stop them by changing to the way i grew up, we wont lose another precious child to ways we lost my sister...

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Thu 05/15/08 10:20 AM
I agree with jewlz.. spare the rod spoil the child!! but I really dont think at this point an azz whoopin would do any good.. shes 13 so its not like its too late. let her spend a summer in juvie with no outside contact or better yet at a strict gramma and pa's or aunt!!! A person can learn to appreciate ALL the little things they so easily forget and and overlook or thought they never had... even at that age. Just no matter what route you take make sure she knows you DO love her..

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Thu 05/15/08 10:21 AM
if I missed the others, I apologize, but suzyq seems the only one touching what is potentially the heart of the matter. Communication. I am not a proponent of hitting, foot to ass (ahem), et alia for I believe you reap what you sow. Which really is the case now isn't it? People who resort to physical violence are generally intellectually inept, although there are many cases where this is a last resort.
I hardly believe the necessity behind this in a 13 year old. Restrictions tend to align a child with reality and at 13, there are many things a child can be impacted by in the absence of - their favorite activity, or item.
I would dig deeper in this and take a certain responsibility for distancing yourself from your child; what took either of you away from where you were when she was 5, 6, 7, etc? Essentially, perhaps communication broke down a long time ago, you're just now seeing the results.....a stab in the dark, what do I know hahaha...
As to how to get back on course; you send her to camp, you're expecting someone else to fix the problem. You take her to counseling, and you inadvertently alienate her. I would say, educate her, make some you & her time if you're not already doing that. Share a discovery with her. Put her on a program that is going to institute self-discovery and inspiration. Maybe she's just bored to tears. All in all, education and communication might go a long way to repair....I don't get involved in peoples lives and don't have a lot of exposure to kids, but in the case of salvaging a child's life and giving her the tools to make her/him successful in life...well I have a moment for that.....now, where was I? Oh yes, looking for a hot single chick that wants to date.......