There can be aspects of convenience in any relationship without that being the prime motivation for a relationship . Sure for some relationships , convenience is the reason a relationship starts , or morphs into one of convenience , as priorities , circumstances , expectations and intimate connections change .

How we view relationships is based on social /cultural/religious conditioning . There is still an expectation for many that a romantic relationship should be grounded in a deep emotional lasting connection not a superficial relationship of convenience .

Dust .. How long would you last being someone’s convenience

Hi James

Your surgeon should have explained to you the benefits and risks of surgery but also the consequences if the surgery does not go ahead .

If you are symptomatic (pain and decreased function/range of movement ) then likely surgery is warranted . There are non surgical options such as steroid injections and physical therapy but no guarantee they would resolve symptoms or that you will not develop worse symptoms with time. If you don’t currently have symptoms or rely on your shoulder function (for work /sport etc) then it may be reasonable to delay surgery . However , rotator cuff injuries are often degenerative . There is a risk of further tearing/damage and increased pain overtime .

What is your reluctance to undergo surgery ?


You could arrange a second opinion with a different surgeon or a physical therapist who specialises in musculoskeletal rehab /conservative management. You could also discuss with your surgeon if a different surgical approach is possible . Sometimes arthroscopic repair is possible meaning you would not have to undergo an “open surgical repair “ . My advice , would be to talk to your surgeon again , ask more questions, clarify how many rotator cuff repairs he/she has performed and what the success rate was . Your surgeon may be able to arrange for you to talk to a patient who has had the repair .

Whatever you decide .. best of luck:-)

moto .. think he means “a f#€k up “ . Not particularly humorous or a joke just bad taste

I might need to borrow the rolling eyes robin .. In anticipation of Valentine’s Day mayhem

By the way who is “L”???

now I am going to make you beg for my womanly wisdom lol

we have both missed you .. and the feeling is definitely mutual hope you are here to cause mischief lol

you will have to send a different ocean .. the pacific belongs to me and I don’t share .. not even with a beautiful mermaid

you are very talented … I am changing your name
to majnun

Hola Romeo

Have you written a poem for me yet

Sneaks in to give applelicious a hug .

Sorry Mike I have been away over Christmas and sailing in the New Year . Miss Apple has something exciting happening soon so she has not been posting much either . As we are out of date with the mingle grapevine perhaps you can fill us in on any mischievous mingle happenings .

A very late Happy birthday Mike ..have been away sailing …

i did have difficulty trying to decide what present to gift you … too old to wear lederhosen and too young for the magic blue pill . Not to worry I will come up with something special

Happy snorkelling 🤿 be careful where you put your hand and other bits and pieces .. watchout for moray eels

so far has been a bumpy start with storms and tornadoes … Have definitely been enjoying the wild surf and looking forward to long summer nights . Hope your summer is everything you want and more

Phenomenal women

Sounds like someone I know

making me laugh .. I already know his version

Slim is scared of what Santa is bringing him

I used to be .. till I learnt special restraint techniques :

He is afraid of my

He is scared of the truth

doesn’t sound like much of an invitation …. She may be using her ex but sounds like she is using you too .. keeping you in play for when it suits or she needs ham
.. you can do better than that .

Liverpool is full of single women .. try the local pub best of luck