I'm just wondering what people think I'm a disabled guy and every woman just seems to think if a man can't work it's not worth talking to him

Maybe your standards are too high...stop blaming others for their preference

" Some " women, you haven't met Every woman.

I’d give him a chance since everyone is worth a chance. Not all disabilities are severe as others since not all of them are physically related.

I wouldn't. His "woe is me" attitude and his unemployment are recipes for disaster

You can be a 'disabled person' or you can be a 'person' who happens to be disabled.

If I was a woman and lived near you, I'd give you a chance. I'm disabled, too, and I have the same problem. I hope you find a woman with a good heart and soul who will fill your heart with joy and share your life, the way you deserve.

You might begin by making a profile that doesn't spew negativity.
Even if I was okay about meeting a guy with a disability, I wouldn't be interested as I don't need negativity in my life.
As it is, it seems your disability and lack of money is all you can talk about.

honestly I wrote this at a rather down point and generally this is more of my attitude I did word it rather poorly wh I had hoped to start was a discussion regarding the topic

and the two responses this one and a lower one that bother me with reason my attitude at most points is "woe is me" simply because I suffer from depression I'm actually a rather positive guy when on my medication I will however take notice and make some edits to my profile as per noted

You make a valid point and it just comes down to how many dates have you been and i dont mean online dating stuff. going out there and meeting other dudes can actually help find a girl for you. Telling a girl you don't know how to talk to other girls would work 50% of the time cause all a girl needs is just to be comfortable with whatever you are

Hi Quietsoul,

I read that you suffering from depression. You can be free from it without medications.
Just check it out and watch it.


https://youtu.be/mp5Mn9zaqTI

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You have here two playlists with testimonies and miracles.

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I'll also add, perhaps fix yourself before you bring a woman in your negative world. I think you'll have more success when you can offer the best version of yourself

fix yourself is an easy thing to say hell we all have our demons right

If you can't open your think and don’t make your considering mind. Then you don’t have ability create a relations!. If you think about it simply, these things are the basis of creating a relationship and you have to accept and believe that the things can create some advantages or disadvantages for you. It’s my opinion..

The point I was trying to make, considering this is primarily a dating site, is stating you are disabled as a method to gain a date is different from being disabled and being able to function despite that fact. In the latter case, the disability is is merely a state of fact.

From reading your comments in this discussion I clearly see your disability is a big part of your depression. You have allowed your self-esteem to take a hit. This is you placing your disability (and depression) more important than finding someone who accepts you as you are.
The act of being yourself is clouded by your need to focus on the disability and the resulting depression is fed by the disability.

Fixing your depression is more than just telling yourself stories to try to make yourself feel better. It needs to be an internally honest discipline to function despite your disability.
The self-honesty is crucial to finding your healthy self-esteem...not because of your disability but because inside you will know you are more than that disability.

Its better to display what you are than what you are not. If you point out your disability and focus on it to all you meet, they WILL focus on it. If you point out and focus on what you are really good at, they will focus on that. Then if the disability gets in the way, you can talk honestly about it.

If someone truly cares for you, they will care for you with or without the disability. You don't have to point it out, just don't lie about it if they ask.

I see where your coming from honestly a lot of people see it as me placing my condition higher I have other issues sure I point out the depression as I know it comes through in my responses

honestly yes it's hard to find someone to accept you we all know that in fact I won't even lie my entire bio is the frustration at the less talked about scammers on here or if you want me to be blatant and this is something no one will mention it's the amount of times someone has asked if I work and they've been politely informed I'm incapable of doing so only to block me

that's the part not many face that isn't discussed

hey many people just seek something what intrest them if the intresting Point is gone they lost intrest.
end about demons. don't let them destroy you. find peace in yourself.
I know it sounds easy but it isn't.
but efrything is posibil if you think positive end life whit positive attitude. you whil see it difrent. I suffer of cptsd for 20 years now. so I know what I talk about. I don't let my demons control my.
it's impossible for my. I also have my ups end downs. but I never gif up.
I have been betrayed by many women but for my it became easy you left okay go. nothing is forever end if the left .let them go. the never realise what they lost until they lost it. end if someone left let them go .the only think you should know is that she left to make place for something better. because you deserve better.

Hello quiet soul I will let you in on a little secret none of the men here have bothered to share .. men on dating sites face frequent rejection and can be blocked simply for sending a message that says Hi Beautiful . Try not to focus on it and just accept it is part of the online world . You can also view it as a great tool for weeding out women who are just not worth knowing .

They say a picture is worth a thousand words . You are a handsome young man but your picture does make you appear a little sad . Perhaps try to take another when your mood feels brighter . Eyes and smiles are high on the list of what women are attracted to .

While you wait to meet someone to get know … Hang in the forums . Although lots of users don’t post ., they do read the forums , so it is a good way for others to get a glimpse of your personality , interests and views . Dating is a game of perseverance for many

A lot of wisdom to be had here.
Blondey is accurate, Patrick has a grasp.

Its important to know people use this site for as many reasons as there are people using this site.

It's few and far between to actually connect with someone with exactly the same goals as you.
It doesn't mean it won't happen but you will find many that can't be on that page of life with you.

I've been disabled a bit over 15 years now...can't work. I was patient. I was comfortable with myself and my condition. I met someone thru M2 and it is still going, years alter and she KNOWS my situation.

This tells me there are women that can look past the obvious and pursue those that are actually worthy of love.
BUT...you can't get there if the disability or your conditions resulting from it keep you from shining bright.
Its a conscious effort you have to dedicate yourself to. You have to be more than first appearances and some women actually look for that.

If you are looking for something right away, thinking it will fix your funk, yer badly mistaken. Its a fatal mistake many people in similar situations make.
You have to fix your funk first! Then, good things follow.

If you must, rewrite your profile and post a new pic. First tho, sit down (sober) and write a list of the 10 Best things about yourself right now. Then, before you rewrite that profile, give it a week and read that list and fine tune it so it describes only the best of you....The, rewrite that profile.
If you have to, practice your 'look' in front of a mirror until you get a look you want to show your perspective interest and note how you feel when you look that way.
Then snap a picture of yourself when you feel that way.

There are many sides to me so I posted a bunch of pics showing me at different times of my life, gives them a bit of history and my gf thought that was pretty cool that I did that.

Then, you gotta have the confidence to actually go meet with that person. Be that person you described and be genuine to yourself.
Be respectful even if you don't think its a good match, remember she has feelings too.

Read the forums. You can find a lot of info on how to act and what to expect. Yeah, there's a lot of nonsense but sometimes you will find info worth considering for your own goals.