It was pointed out to me that I did have an age filter... my bad! it has been fixed!
To me... Regardless of what he/ she is attracted to ...tell the truth
Let them decide if you are what they want.

I'm attracted to tall men who are athletic... it doesn't mean that Ive never been out with or fell head over heels for a short one with a pot belly.

Let me decide.

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That is fair and the way it should be. Preferences are fine. Preferences to me does not mean I can't say hi or be friends - it just lets me know that likelihood of anything more than that is slim.

Preferences to the point of complete exclusion are extreme and often lead to loneliness.

Preferences with possible exceptions on case by case basis - Just let me know up front and let me decide. I can be friends with anyone. Anything more takes time. It will never happen if you lie right up front.

Yes I have had a few problems. One from a woman trying to find an ATM that looked like a man. The other from women who could not take we are not a match/fit for an answer. They were so desperate that any man would of worked for them, it just so happened I was the one at that moment.

I usually will step it down to to IM first, then go to number. If I am unsure I use a VOiP phone service that gives me a free #. It forwards to my phone so I can get calls and texts (just not pictures). I can block them on the computer and it is done.

Just my thoughts teebee79 but I believe that some people - both guys and gals - believe that if they can just get one chance/date they can change the other person opinion. I believe that possibility is so small that it is far better to not push it. Others don't really believe they will meet anyone of substance so their online presence becomes more of an alter ego type personality. Either a reflection of what they were or what they aspire to be but perhaps not necessarily what they are right at this present moment.

I also think we are very careful with our descriptions. A man's concept of athletic (in general decent shape) and a woman's (smoking hot male model type) are two different things. A BBW has come to mean everything from 5 pounds overweight to several pounds overweight, again depending on who is viewing it. To me if you are a size 12 you are not a BBW but I have seen many women describe themselves that way.

I tell the truth and if it means I remain relatively dateless, I am perfectly ok with that. I am at a stage in life that I want them to be attracted to me, not just settle for me because they are desperate to be in a relationship or have some need a man in their life issue that I don't have time to diffuse. I am short at 5'5". That means it gets automatically assumed and attached that all of the things associated with short men including insecurity, Napoleon complex, unable to protect a woman, penis size, sexually inadequate everything are included in that package. That comes from numerous females I have talked to over the years as to why they did not like to date short men. So when it comes to this I know why some men choose to lie about it. I won't, but I get it.

I am 48 (for a couple more days )- too old for some, not old enough for others - average body type, self employed and work hard, and give back to the community. That right there knocks out in my personal experience about 90 percent of the available female dating pool (including you teebee ) leaving 10 percent of women that might overlook or be attracted to those things you mention.

Now out of that remaining 10 percent I have to be able to discern if they are lying about themselves as well. Are their "enhancements" a lie to me or is that ok? Are their pics are accurate. Should I chance meeting with them? And how do I react if they are not who they have portrayed themselves to be? Especially when men have been faulted for not being to look past the physical - even if a woman has lied to him about it?

Let's see...

The talking on the phone in the middle of a date to another guy that it is obvious she used to be in relationship with. The tone of the conversation definitely lets you know it really ain't over and I was nothing more than a momentary interruption. But you said you were single. Check please.

The "U really need a woman, I need some help paying these bills" line. Good bye.

The I don't date short guys/nice guys/nerdy guys but I wanted to try something different. C'ya.

Best one - while out driving need to stop at a store. Uhm I will sit in the car. Why? I got warrants, but it is all a misunderstanding. Ok. Let's take you back home now.

***All reasons I probably only go on about 3 dates a year - ROFL.***

Birthday coming up and nothing planned but work.

If you always compare your present to your past, you will never have a future. Don't treat a man/woman like they are your ex or they will be your ex sooner than you think.

Trust has as much to do with you letting go the pain of past issues/people, as with the one you are with showing that he can be trusted. Patience, and wisdom will let you know in due time.

i prefer a thanks but no thanks email or even just an acknowledgement that they read it. Sorry but I was just raised to have manners and to say please, thank you and no thank you is ingrained in me. I know we have the site function here , but to me that is not the same thing. I have figured if I e-mail a person and they don't respond I leave them alone.

Beyond the general manners response: Having been on social and dating sites for several years, what I have tried to understand that most women get slammed by emails. Some kind and sincere, others straight to the point, others are from straight scammers, and others extremely explicit. Somehow you have to make your e-mail stand out through all of that. Then you have to communicate with her in a manner that she appreciates and that varies woman to woman. What one meals by keeping it real, another one means something totally different. Then she has to have some level of interest in you to respond.

It is also difficult sometimes when the only e-mails you get are from scammers, to weed out the sincere people who really like what you said o your profile or what you sent to them via e-mail and want to know more about you. Or even perhaps eventually meet you. Keep aiming for your goals and keep believing!

Love an intelligent woman with varied interests. One who can talk about various subjects with ease.

Welcome to Mingle! Hope you enjoy yourself here.

Welcome to Mingle. Hope you find what and who you are looking for.

January

Tide

Pancakes. Seriously wanting to smash a big stack right now. LOL.

This is a question more for the ladies that have posted. What kind of script do they use on you? I ask because once you recognize the scripts, it is very easy to not waste your time dealing with them.

Todays scammers were asking what kind of girl I was into and then wanted me to go watch their webcam. The others were using profiles here and then trying to go offsite. How they wanted a serious relationship and no jokes - but couldn't understand how them using a fake profile in several ways was not real? LOL.

Phone conversation? Of course

have you ever had a night cap?

Rind

They are out in force today, for real - rofl. Seven so far today. That is what I get for still being on vacation from work and online.

True. Whenever they ask to go off site within the first message or two, you know right then you are more than likely dealing with a scammer. They want to go where they not only can not be traced as easily, but they don't want their profile on whatever site they are on cancelled out by having it reported.

The sad thing is that is makes most men that much more skeptical of all the women on the site. When you have had four or five women try to scam you on one site you tend to be a little more skeptical when someone sends you a "hey your cute I think we should talk type" message. You want to know more before committing anything to them at all. Personally I hate it, but have learned this is the way of internet socializing and dating. Have to work around it.

It just happens. Just had one try to get to me too. Profile says they were from Marietta Georgia. They really from Africa. Just the way these scammers work. They can also get pics from any social website, save the pic then upload it claiming it is them.