I’m gonna say something most people won’t admit…

Sometimes I wonder if we’re all just scrolling past each other looking for a feeling instead of actually getting to know someone.

Like… how many times have you matched or messaged someone and it started off great, then just slowly faded for no real reason?

No argument. No bad vibes. Just… gone.

I’ve had a few conversations on here that made me think, “okay, this could actually go somewhere,” and then out of nowhere, silence! And it makes you think… is it the app? Timing? Or are people just not as intentional as they say they are?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not expecting instant sparks or fairytale conversations. But I do appreciate consistency. Effort. Even something simple like “hey, I’m busy today but I’ll text you later” goes a long way.

I guess what I’m really asking is…

Are people here actually looking for something real, or just passing time until the next distraction shows up?

No judgment either way, just curious where everyone’s head is at.

And be real… what’s the main reason conversations usually die for you?

that happens quite often actually.. the longer you chat at times, the more you realize there's no real spark, no commonalities.. and the conversation simply fades away..



for me? I'm not looking for anything but friendship, possibly an activity partner, obviously someone local would be preferrable but that's hard to find so I've no expectations of finding anyone really.. as to finding a mate/partner/THE one? doubtful at this point in my life so.. figure friendship is the best way to go

as to what the main reason conversations usually die for me? lack of intelligent engagement on the other parties part.. simply put, I lose interest after awhile cuz they can't seem to keep a conversation going OR the conversations are all about themselves.. their needs, their wants & desires.. their past, what they hope for in the future, or it turns sexual before we've even met (total turnoff for me).. so again, lack of intelligent engagement.. I try encouraging the conversation by asking open ended questions, which would allow them to express themselves OR to even ask questions about me yet.. it doesn't seem to do much and at this point, I tend to move on