About me First item, I'm a couple years younger than my profile says, (for security reasons). There is a lot to read here because I'm really trying to make this thingy work & the more you know about me the better the chances are that you'll try a little harder to get to know me Secondus: I'm not shelling out the bux to buy a membership here but I'm more than willing to converse with you, if you make the effort. Troisième: I'm deadly serious about wanting to start a new relationship with a woman near Madison, WI or willing to relocate here IF it develops enough. Moving for me would be very complicated - I'd have to sell the house, at least 1 vehicle, probably the boat, uproot my 2 sons who are living here for the moment, and leave behind the one true buddy I've kept for decades. I have a desire to love someone, or at least have a close friendship with abiding affection for that person. I miss having that in my life and someone special to care about and for. A long-distance relationship just won't cut it for long, I like the physical touches (don't worry about the $3x part, I'm not necessarily asking for that if you are not interested). It's the daily little trips & adventures, the taps, the hugs, the holding hands, that lift the heart. If that's what you are also desiring, and you can stand looking at me without saying "EWWWWW !!!", then take the initiative, reach out, and I'll try to work on a relationship - first by phone and if it's comfortable & secure enough, then finally in person somewhere public. Messages and emails just don't cut it. Call me, I'm ALWAYS willing to chat for however long you want. If you aren't willing to put in the effort no relationship is ever going to work. Where I feel the most at home: At home or on the boat, but I can feel at home almost anywhere, if need be. Things that I would never part with: My vision. The world is filled with beauty & if I lost my sight it would be unbearably awful. How I describe myself: I am a 3rd year widower still in the grieving process after losing the one & only love of my life & co-dependent partner of 18,910 days. It was literally love at 1st site for both of us & we were stuck on each other like glue, for good. I miss having her to touch, to smile at, to try & make her laugh, & to say "I love you" to. I'm not looking for a replacement exactly, that would be both impossible & unfair to place those expectations on another woman - but I am looking for a new sometimes companion to occasionally share moments of life with. If you are unseemly rich, or poor as a church mouse, I'm a fun date. What I do not like: Pious religiosity, hypocrisy, lying, greed & avariciousness. I don't do "complex", have never felt the need to "get rich", & am uncomfortable with those who possess those attributes too deeply. If I had one wish, I would wish for: The opportunity to make another person happy & laugh a lot. What makes me laugh: Silly things. I laugh a lot because I always try to see the silly in things. Things that are important to me: Love Laughter 2 adult sons (48 & 45) my wife gifted me (that occasionally move in & out) Retrospectively, what three things are you most thankful for? • My recently departed one & only love of my life. She re-made me into who I am as a person and most likely was the only person I ever met who had the patience and love to get the job done - even though it took half a century to "fix" me. • I can take care of myself & do not "need" someone to take care of me. • I am well-read & capable of figuring out & fixing most things by myself Dating What my partner should know about me: I am superficial & have an eye for beauty, but what I find beautiful isn't the typical "girl-next-door" or All-American Christie Brinkley blonde. I am attracted to taller women (5'•8"+) with black/red/deep auburn hair & aquiline noses with a Mediterranean/Slavic affect - (think Cher/Minnie Driver) - but find tall blondes like Christine Baranski attractive too. Tall, aquiline nose, and importantly, a face that shows life lived, are the things that I look for 1st, - BUT..those are only preferences, none are exclusive of anyone who doesn't look that way. I can find something attractive about almost any woman. The big question, for me, is can a beautiful woman who is clearly out of my league actually WANT to spend time with an overweight OldCoot who died once already in 2006 (why I'm overweight now-because I'm no longer physically that active)? In a relationship I am looking for: I don't know. Having been in only one for the past half century, I haven't got a clue as to what to expect in a new relationship with another woman. Right now I just want to meet "a new friend", maybe LOTS of "new friends". LMFAO Honestly, I really don't know how to start up again so, if you REALLY think you MIGHT be interested in a friendship or try for something even deeper, push me (hard) to respond to your message. I offer kindness, devotion, interest & attention, and exclusivity of my affections to a woman seeking those qualities. I've never really liked being a 1-night-stand kinda guy. My favorite pastime activities; Reading, watching movies & TV, & looking for interesting things in the world using the internet. Everyone has different passions, such as art, sports, music, family and faith & I love to explore them all. I really enjoy trying to drown worms & minnows from my boat but it's kind of a "group activity" & not so much fun all by myself now. If you like the idea of getting away for a couple days, make the effort to come visit (even bring a girlfriend, if you like), join me on my boat (weather permitting) & "veg out" with a little wine, cheese, & music (and maybe even a meal of fresh fish). What are you passionate about? Reading & visual art forms. Sharing knowledge. How I like to spend my free time: Reading a lot, watching TV & movies, fishing & sleeping on my 22' I/O cuddy cabin boat on the 4 lakes in Madison. (It sleeps 3 & I live a block off the water.) Inhaling a little 4/20 herb now & then, mostly for osteoarthritis pain, but getting a buzz is fine too since I really don't drink alcohol much.