Topic: Why do men do this?
SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 02/17/26 02:08 PM
Do more women have this happen quite regularly?

Men sending you a message that they like your profile or photo or something and then they continue to tell you it can't go anywhere because we live too far apart or some other reason.

That always has me thinking, mate, we have never even exchanged a single word, yet you assume that we potentially have something going because you have an interest in me?????
How bout sending a message like, "I really like you/am interested but dammit, we live too far apart. What a shame!"

I never know why men do this. Is it arrogance or simply being dim?

I also never know what to think of it. Get PO or find it hilarious. I lean towards the first because well... I am a Taurus hihi, and I do find it presumptuous.

Now it this happened with great guys... but it's always men I wouldn't even want if they were the last specimen with a penis on the planet, lol.

You girls have this happen as well?

TxsGal3333's photo
Tue 02/17/26 02:45 PM
Honestly... I have never had that happen..

Mainly due to I have my filters set for email, that unless your within 50 miles you can not contact me..

Solves that issue to a point..

Now I have had those that put in they live in my area.. but in reality they do not..

After I ask if they live in that area, at times I will get ohh well I'm in so and so now but will be there down the road.. Yea right.. Unless they are a truck driver or in that type of business where they travel a lot it's a no go.. And well if they are rich enough to do all that traveling they would not be on this site..jmo

My advice is set your email filters.. Anyone you have emailed will not be blocked by your filters..

Ehmad's photo
Tue 02/17/26 02:58 PM

Honestly... I have never had that happen..

Mainly due to I have my filters set for email, that unless your within 50 miles you can not contact me..

Solves that issue to a point..

Now I have had those that put in they live in my area.. but in reality they do not..

After I ask if they live in that area, at times I will get ohh well I'm in so and so now but will be there down the road.. Yea right.. Unless they are a truck driver or in that type of business where they travel a lot it's a no go.. And well if they are rich enough to do all that traveling they would not be on this site..jmo

My advice is set your email filters.. Anyone you have emailed will not be blocked by your filters..

I once had a relation with a woman of age 54. And I was so surprised to see the passion she had to fulfill her lustrous desires which was completely new for me. And I’ve learned a lot from her due to her experience in different acts. Now I want to know from u about the physical needs at your age. Am I wrong to expect that there’s a wild person still living in you but yeah with the great control over yourself due to maturity …?

motowndowntown's photo
Tue 02/17/26 03:15 PM
Edited by motowndowntown on Tue 02/17/26 03:17 PM





I once had a relation with a woman of age 54. And I was so surprised to see the passion she had to fulfill her lustrous desires which was completely new for me. And I’ve learned a lot from her due to her experience in different acts. Now I want to know from u about the physical needs at your age. Am I wrong to expect that there’s a wild person still living in you but yeah with the great control over yourself due to maturity …?







WTF?????

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 02/17/26 03:29 PM


I once had a relation with a woman of age 54. And I was so surprised to see the passion she had to fulfill her lustrous desires which was completely new for me. And I’ve learned a lot from her due to her experience in different acts. Now I want to know from u about the physical needs at your age. Am I wrong to expect that there’s a wild person still living in you but yeah with the great control over yourself due to maturity …?

WTF?????

I second that, WTF?????

Talk about presumptuous.

Zee's photo
Tue 02/17/26 03:32 PM
I reset my email filters and thankfully.. aren't getting any of that chit any longer.. which is a nice respite.. however.. that "send your likes" out crappy doo shud be banned.. I get the owners are pushing for connections but I'd be THRILLED if I didn't get a slew every freakin day..slaphead whoa

sorry.. sidetracked laugh
I agree with TxsGal (great advice she gave me too).. set'em for close by only.. if they're REALLY interested.. they'll send you a "nudge" then YOU can decide if they're worthy of your time or not.. if NOT? block'em pitchfork

Zee's photo
Tue 02/17/26 03:32 PM
Edited by Zee on Tue 02/17/26 03:34 PM

I once had a relation with a woman of age 54. And I was so surprised to see the passion she had to fulfill her lustrous desires which was completely new for me. And I’ve learned a lot from her due to her experience in different acts. Now I want to know from u about the physical needs at your age. Am I wrong to expect that there’s a wild person still living in you but yeah with the great control over yourself due to maturity …?







WTF?????


oops laugh 3rd that sentiment Mo'n Crystal.. noway

GravelRidgeBoy's photo
Tue 02/17/26 05:05 PM
I can see why a normal guy would write that, but then there are plenty of Ehmad's out there to knock the good guys down a peg or two...lol

Maybe he just wants to talk to you but he wants to be up front so there is no confusion or leading on?

He might also be fishing, like when someone says how ugly they are but they really want others to tell them how good they look, maybe he is hoping that you say that you travel near him?

Maybe he got cold feet while writing to you, so he is turning himself down before you turn him down?

I am sure there are other reasons but they all seem to be a lack of confidence on his part that I would guess, nothing to get pissed off about...lol Although I do not even get pissed off with all the scammers and fake profiles on here, it is just part of the online world that we have to deal with to be here I guess...

OldCoot's photo
Tue 02/17/26 11:55 PM
Edited by OldCoot on Wed 02/18/26 12:03 AM
I think Ehmad's "lustrous desires" aren't really what he's looking for - unless he wants sex with a disco ball or something.

Dictionary, dude - words have meanings and I, at least, have never met a shiny glow-in-the-dark (or anywhere, for that matter), woman - and the end result of any fulfilling of "desires" only glow under a UV light.

Wadda I know?
Maybe he wants sex with a disco ball in a dark room with only UV lights on, so he can see his "satisfaction" light up afterwards? slaphead

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 02/18/26 02:15 AM

I can see why a normal guy would write that, but then there are plenty of Ehmad's out there to knock the good guys down a peg or two...lol

Maybe he just wants to talk to you but he wants to be up front so there is no confusion or leading on?

He might also be fishing, like when someone says how ugly they are but they really want others to tell them how good they look, maybe he is hoping that you say that you travel near him?

Maybe he got cold feet while writing to you, so he is turning himself down before you turn him down?

I am sure there are other reasons but they all seem to be a lack of confidence on his part that I would guess, nothing to get pissed off about...lol Although I do not even get pissed off with all the scammers and fake profiles on here, it is just part of the online world that we have to deal with to be here I guess...

I also think there's something underneath it that has to do with lack of confidence. But then quite silly to make that worse by sending such messages?
The reason it kind of P me O is that I feel a sense of entitlement in there. Maybe not meant that way, but it feels like that to me. I guess that's my pet peeve. Based on women not having had a say in their love life for centuries. To then get a message that doesn't respect my free will & choice rattles my cage.
I do get such messages quite regularly. Really weird.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 02/18/26 02:31 AM

Honestly... I have never had that happen..

Mainly due to I have my filters set for email, that unless your within 50 miles you can not contact me..

Solves that issue to a point..

Now I have had those that put in they live in my area.. but in reality they do not..

After I ask if they live in that area, at times I will get ohh well I'm in so and so now but will be there down the road.. Yea right.. Unless they are a truck driver or in that type of business where they travel a lot it's a no go.. And well if they are rich enough to do all that traveling they would not be on this site..jmo

My advice is set your email filters.. Anyone you have emailed will not be blocked by your filters..

It's not on here and the reason used isn't necessarily always distance.
Sometimes it's their age or height or whatever.
I cannot set filters for distance on every site and if I can I don't want to set it to 50kms as then I'll only get men from the province I live in. I'm looking for men from outside that province so I have to set a wider perimeter.
It would be helpful to me if there was a setting like "between 50 - 80kms away".

And again, distance isn't the only excuse used in such messages.

Once on some dating site you could search with a ton of specific filters so you could narrow it down to what you really were looking for.
The end result was getting this message:
You're looking for a unicorn!

Not kidding, hihi.

Sir's photo
Wed 02/18/26 06:48 AM
:thinking:.......🥶

GravelRidgeBoy's photo
Wed 02/18/26 08:18 AM

I also think there's something underneath it that has to do with lack of confidence. But then quite silly to make that worse by sending such messages?
The reason it kind of P me O is that I feel a sense of entitlement in there. Maybe not meant that way, but it feels like that to me. I guess that's my pet peeve. Based on women not having had a say in their love life for centuries. To then get a message that doesn't respect my free will & choice rattles my cage.
I do get such messages quite regularly. Really weird.

I have never been on the woman's side (except a few times when I am mistaken for a woman because of the hair...lol) but like most guys there is a confidence thing. Some guys never get over it, some guys over compensate, but guys on the internet I think feel safer...or there might have been some liquid courage involved there...lol

Don's photo
Wed 02/18/26 09:03 AM
I once had a relation with a woman of age 54. She showed me her room. Isn't it good Norwegian Wood...

Zee's photo
Wed 02/18/26 09:44 AM

I once had a relation with a woman of age 54. And I was so surprised to see the passion she had to fulfill her lustrous desires which was completely new for me. And I’ve learned a lot from her due to her experience in different acts. Now I want to know from u about the physical needs at your age. Am I wrong to expect that there’s a wild person still living in you but yeah with the great control over yourself due to maturity …?


to add to GravelRidgeBoy's list of possible reasons..

perhaps he's simply inquiring as to what "passion" feels like at a later stage in a womans life..

seems to me, now that I've re-read it, that he's asking if women older than 54 are AS passionate as a 54 yr old is, and MAYBE he'd be interested in dating even older women IF they are..

to answer that.. they don't call us COUGARS for NUTTIN pitchfork

unlike men.. we don't need a lil blue pill to start the engines bigsmile
laugh