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Topic: dating on low income
George's photo
Mon 01/25/21 08:43 PM
why are there no sites for people on low income to find a partner All the ladies i have been in touch with stopped talking as soon as i said i am on a low pension any help would be appreciated :smile: :cry:

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 01/25/21 09:06 PM
Keep looking, be patient.
I'm on disability and I make 1/5th the money I used to.
I adjusted my living style and became realistic.
I found someone here who is not with me for money.
It happens but it does take time.

Freebird Deluxe's photo
Tue 01/26/21 02:19 AM
Edited by Freebird Deluxe on Tue 01/26/21 02:20 AM

why are there no sites for people on low income to find a partner All the ladies i have been in touch with stopped talking as soon as i said i am on a low pension any help would be appreciated :smile: :cry:

Sounds like you have been talking to gold diggers ,plenty of nice ladies also on low pensions who would love to share the cost of some things

George's photo
Tue 01/26/21 07:58 AM
I am sure there are plenty of women out there who are happy to date someone on low income but I am at a loss on where to find them hahaha

Tom4Uhere's photo
Tue 01/26/21 12:05 PM
Just like the real world, its trial and error.
Build wisdom, be patient and persistent.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 01/26/21 12:16 PM
Well, be realistic. Most people work or have worked and thus have more money. I'm in a similar situation as I'm on the lowest benefit there is.
It is a matter of what you do on dates, but before you get to that stage also looking at what people like to do. If I see a guy say he loves going on far away holidays, skiing, and other stuff like that, I know I won't be able to do these things with him.
Also what they say their job is or was is an indication.

So it's simply a matter of knowing that most will have more and your -and my- search might take a bit more work and patience.
And you could of course run into someone who doesn't mind. But then the question is: can you live with that?
As I've been there, man flat broke, me having a good income. But he didn't like me paying to do the things I could easily afford for the both of us. It was emasculating to him, even though he turned out to be a tight a-hole that fussed about spending a dime on me when the situation was reversed years later.

So patience, and knowing what you can live with without feeling emasculated.

Rock's photo
Tue 01/26/21 01:01 PM

why are there no sites for people on low income to find a partner All the ladies i have been in touch with stopped talking as soon as i said i am on a low pension any help would be appreciated :smile: :cry:


Might help, if you'd chat up the everyday women,
instead of seeking out the youngsters whose pics
look like super models.

no photo
Tue 01/26/21 03:02 PM
Mingle is free ....

Save yourself heartache and stay away from anyone who is more interested in gifts, financial support or citizenship .

Choose wisely waving

no photo
Tue 01/26/21 06:29 PM
What are the ideas for low income dating?

BeaumontBelle's photo
Tue 01/26/21 06:29 PM
to be honest, I am on SSI, which covers my rent, my bills, and my groceries, so I can definitely understand about being low income. When I tell men about this, they stop talking. I mean, come on now. Those of us who are on a limited income need love too

Bastet127's photo
Tue 01/26/21 07:15 PM
I agree, everyone deserves love!
But, I need someone who can afford
to put gas in my lamborghini.

bobtail76's photo
Tue 01/26/21 07:44 PM
I'm pretty certain people usually date in their same socioeconomic class. That's probably why Crystal believes she isn't able to date people that like going on extravagant trips and Bastet won't date anyone that can't afford gas money for her Lambo.

Sometimes people are looking for a trophy wife/husband and willing to pay for it; but for the most part, people usually tend to avoid a potential gold digging situation. And a place like here, where the scams are abundant - they SHOULD be extra cautious.

There are people that believe that socioeconomic class plays no part in their search, but they are few and far between.

no photo
Tue 01/26/21 07:57 PM
Edited by Unknow on Tue 01/26/21 07:58 PM

I agree, everyone deserves love!
But, I need someone who can afford
to put gas in my lamborghini.


Ha ha ha. My flatmate is buying a boat!!! Happy days 🤩

Duttoneer's photo
Wed 01/27/21 03:08 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Wed 01/27/21 03:25 AM

why are there no sites for people on low income to find a partner All the ladies i have been in touch with stopped talking as soon as i said i am on a low pension any help would be appreciated :smile: :cry:



Why even mention your income when in emailing conversation, you are sending out the wrong signals, it could cause them to think you are going to ask them for money, stay clear of discussing your financial position and you may do a lot better. If they are asking you for money, report them to the site because they are most likely scammers.

bobtail76's photo
Wed 01/27/21 09:45 AM


why are there no sites for people on low income to find a partner All the ladies i have been in touch with stopped talking as soon as i said i am on a low pension any help would be appreciated :smile: :cry:



Why even mention your income when in emailing conversation, you are sending out the wrong signals, it could cause them to think you are going to ask them for money, stay clear of discussing your financial position and you may do a lot better. If they are asking you for money, report them to the site because they are most likely scammers.


I disagree, it would be part of a natural progression of a conversation. It's almost one of the first things one would ask a stranger at a party, after knowing their name. "What do you do for a living?".......

After that natural question on getting to know anybody - what's your answer when she asks?

Lie?
Avoid the question?
Say 'none of you business'?
Tell the truth?

If there's an option I'm missing, by all means - clue me in. Out of all the options available that I see, if you are looking for something substantial, there's only one right option.


SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 01/27/21 11:16 AM

I'm pretty certain people usually date in their same socioeconomic class. That's probably why Crystal believes she isn't able to date people that like going on extravagant trips and Bastet won't date anyone that can't afford gas money for her Lambo.

Sometimes people are looking for a trophy wife/husband and willing to pay for it; but for the most part, people usually tend to avoid a potential gold digging situation. And a place like here, where the scams are abundant - they SHOULD be extra cautious.

There are people that believe that socioeconomic class plays no part in their search, but they are few and far between.

Hmm... Your statement made me think. But I don't actually date in the same socio-economic class. The only reason I am in my situation is because of my neck injury.
I am looking for someone at the same level of IQ & EQ.
I still have dreams and goals, and I may at some point take the leap of faith and go for that. It'd mean having my own business which is quite a scary step to take, especially when having a physical problem.
At the same time I'm not looking to date yuppie dudes who go on fancy holidays 3x a year etc.

no photo
Wed 01/27/21 11:46 AM
Learn from the rich: Don't disclose your income.

Look around you! Do you see a lot of wealthy people here?



But, I need someone who can afford
to put gas in my lamborghini.


I need someone who can afford my service fee.
























bobtail76's photo
Wed 01/27/21 11:55 AM
I wasn't speaking to your situation specifically, Crystal. I just used your statement as an example. I thought not to use it, I thought there would be no harm in using it.

Your statement on yuppie dudes kinda proves my point. There's nothing wrong with it. In fact, I think it makes sense actually because people gravitate towards like people - hence your same EQ and IQ deal.

I truly hope you get to realize your dreams and goals. I believe everyone should get what they want out of life as long it doesn't cause any harm to others. Maybe that leap of faith is gonna be that yuppie dude :wink:. The less doors opened, the less opportunity!

I think women have a slight advantage when it comes to dating though - as far as keeping same socioeconomic class. For the most part, as men get older their wealth is obviously higher than their counterparts - which doesn't leave them many options if they decide they are going to stay with their class. That, and chivalry also plays a part. Real men will pay for dates, vacations, etc if he's into the chick and they are in different income tax brackets. In my opinion, equality isn't about cutting things down the middle.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 01/27/21 12:11 PM

I wasn't speaking to your situation specifically, Crystal. I just used your statement as an example. I thought not to use it, I thought there would be no harm in using it.

Your statement on yuppie dudes kinda proves my point. There's nothing wrong with it. In fact, I think it makes sense actually because people gravitate towards like people - hence your same EQ and IQ deal.

I truly hope you get to realize your dreams and goals. I believe everyone should get what they want out of life as long it doesn't cause any harm to others. Maybe that leap of faith is gonna be that yuppie dude :wink:. The less doors opened, the less opportunity!

I think women have a slight advantage when it comes to dating though - as far as keeping same socioeconomic class. For the most part, as men get older their wealth is obviously higher than their counterparts - which doesn't leave them many options if they decide they are going to stay with their class. That, and chivalry also plays a part. Real men will pay for dates, vacations, etc if he's into the chick and they are in different income tax brackets. In my opinion, equality isn't about cutting things down the middle.

I don't agree on men automatically making more than women as this is not self-explanatory.
But the part I made bold I sure as hell do agree with! Also with women having a bit of an advantage because of it.

Me leaping for a yuppie dude... I don't see that happen. That type usually doesn't interest me that much.
I've lived that lifestyle when younger for a while... posh house, servants, driver, swimming pool etc. I can easily fit in, I'm the chameleon kind of girl, hihi. But it doesn't fulfil me. Too superficial and boring.



bobtail76's photo
Wed 01/27/21 12:42 PM
Edited by bobtail76 on Wed 01/27/21 01:15 PM
Statistically...

Men make more money after a divorce than their exes by 1/3. I'll cite the statistics when I come back - so that covers divorcees

Men make more money overall than women who tend to children after they give birth - that I don't think I need a stat for. Working less doesn't equal more money. If you need a stat, I'll get you one - so that covers mothers (women).

Men in general, take the highest paying jobs, the most dangerous jobs, and are more willing to put more hours in and re-locate than women - that's where the gender pay gap that all the feminists complain about, comes in - so that covers all the rest of the women.

Of course there's always exceptions to the rules, but I'm not gonna bet the farm on exceptions and what ifs.

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