I got a kiss blown at me today so I clicked on the profile. It was 4 minutes since it was sent and I figured there was a good chance she had deleted her profile already. But no, not deleted yet. She looked a little odd but in the personal info, "she" said she was 6 foot 5. A typo or what?

I've heard from or seen a few profiles with women over 6' which is very very rare. 6' 5" is pretty much unheard of. Could it be a tranny? Is there a problem with that here? I have no objection to the way people dress or what they call themselves. But on a dating site where people are very specific about what they are looking for, it simply is not right. Opinions?

Should we have a section for transexual people or those who identify that way?

This is a social site so no, it does not discriminate,
we bring people INTO the fold, not push them out.

The forums are for discussions..and all are welcome.
In a perfect world, a profile would hit all the
pertinent points.

I'm not looking for discrimination just clarity. Wouldn't a section in addition to the ones we have now perhaps a section for transvestites who want to meet the same be a good idea? As it is now they are discriminated against since the choices now are man or woman looking for man or woman

By not allowing them their own identity and choices, the site is forcing them to either pretend or to put it in the profile. There are those who look for TS people but no way to find them.

soufiehere, if you were still looking would you be pleased to spend time conversing with what you thought was a man, make a date or two and later find out you were dating a woman when that was not your intention?

Curious why some men especially are so territorial and threatened by sexual identity .

If a male identifies as female that is their right . They cannot be forced to accept a label that society chooses for them .

The majority of people identifying as transsexual are very transparent about their sexuality . They do not attempt to hide or deceive .

If this is causing you issues .,, You could always screen potential dates by asking if they are transsexual .,

Mingle is a “free” social site .. and as soufie said ., all are welcome . If you want a dating site that caters more for your needs then there are several to choose from thumbsup:

I don't think it has anything to do with being threatened, Blondey. I think your alternative is unrealistic. How would you feel, knowing you are a biological woman and have someone ask if you were a transexual? Tell me that MOST women would not be offended just by the question being asked - or reject the guy just because he asked the question for whatever other reason, if not insulted.

All are welcome, I agree - It is unreasonable to not expect them in the forums, but as part of the dating aspect of the site there should be certain expectations. I think he was looking to separate by biology in the dating part of the site, which is not an unreasonable request.

I also disagree that transexuals are transparent - I think to expect a guy to take that as face value is also unreasonable. If the transexual believes they are a woman, why would they identify themselves as something else?

Well bob .... I have never been asked that question . ... honestly I am unlikely to be offended .. but then I am not MOST women . I would ask with amusement why they thought that .

Of course there is risk with asking a woman if she is transsexual . ....Asking a straight man if he is homosexual .,
asking a large woman if she is pregnant .

Likewise there is a risk with doubting someone’s authenticity, or asking them to prove their non sexual identity .

Rejection is a big part of online dating and it happens for lesser reasons than asking if someone is transsexual ., it comes down to how tactful and respectful communication is . , if one of your first questions to someone online is ., do you or have they ever had an std ... potentially offense could be taken . There is a process to successfully getting to know someone online.

As a woman.. in most cases it is obvious to me when someone is transsexual ., Not just In their presentations but also mannerisms and communication .... Perhaps some men are not as observant or are blinded by the prospect of intimacy .

Sexual Transparency does not seem to be an issue in the forums . . In spite of the response some members receive . Of course that is very individual and cannot be generalised .

A question or two for you ., but no pressure to reply ..,

how many transsexuals have approached you online??

Compared with scammers and fakes which is more problematic ???

Is sexual identity more important than identity in general ??

How realistic is it to have “expectations” on a free social / dating site that deception (Of any kind ) is not going to be an issue ??

That's 3 questions and an essay!

1) 2 have
2) They aren't problematic in that I just ignore them both equally - but there are far more scammers out there to ignore
3) I'm not sure what you mean...important as far as what aspect?

Essay: The same kind of "expectations" anyone should be able to expect given the capabilities of the site. I'm sure it would be nice for you ladies to come in here expecting the men not to be married, sexual deviants, parolees, etc. If you put it to a vote, I'd be down with a category for married people as well - it's not unreasonable. Not so sure the sexual deviants or people on parole would be honest, but to give them a category so that they have nothing to hide, would be good, no? The more transparency, the easier it is to navigate in my opinion

.@bob ... laughing ., sorry I quoted you . Then deleted your post

I have lots of ideas of what would enhance the mingle experience but I have accepted it is what it is ...

how would member information be validated ??? Who pays for that process ??

Married men on dating sites often hide their status even though there is an opportunity for them to make that distinction . Transparency is moral dependent .

There is no obligation for this site to validate member information . Knowing that is the reality ..,I would not hesitate to ask any questions I felt were important . Even if the consequence of asking was rejection :/)

As for my question re importance of sexual identity vs general identity I was referring to the process of online interactions .. what is appropriate to know and the timing of that knowledge . For example ., In the real world . You see someone you find attractive . You summon the confidence to approach , chat and flirt . All going well you ask them on a date ... .,

In this scenario .., how likely is it that you asked for confirmation of their sexual identity “before” the date lol

I think the op is hoping it is a tranny.

Don't get me started on morals...

I know there's no obligation for mingle to validate, that would be super shItty for them to do because I'm sure a few would slip through the cracks, and some lunatic would hold them liable. I'm going to revert back to sugardaddy's request for a separation of biological women. If there was a category for them, then they can choose that category, and then you can filter like with age, sex, smoker, etc.

I would not ask any questions, if the woman has manly features that I'd have to ask - pass.

See above problem resolution ^^
or ask her too show you her boobs?

.....in addition

I'm almost certain there is more men compared to women for you to have that nonchalant attitude to be ok with the rejection..... there's only 500 more dudes at the door to go through.

Married men might hide their status, but at least there's an option for him there to announce his intent, there's none there for a transexual to chose from in sugardaddy's case - so it's not only dependent on morals, there are lack of options.

I'm sure it's all monday morning quarterbacking - we're all not talented enough to create our own site, but yet we have all the answers. I was just saying his request was not unreasonable and took umbrage to your suggestion that men are threatened.

naughty boy!!! ., your tinfoil hat is blocking your masculine features .., can you confirm your gender in case I want to ask you on a date

I think tinfoil wants to beat sugar daddy to the tranny

to be fair ., I believe I said some men feel threatened ... nor did I imply that was applicable to the op . . If I did .. I would leave no question that I was referring to him specifically . .

That is a fair statement, and I know what words you chose. I was responding to squish the thought that made you question it in the first place and it being your first thought about it, after him can elude to an insinuation. Sure there are some, but there is some of everybody everywhere.

Another possibility is the profile was quickly written without much thought.
The person may have just threw numbers to get it written.

Also, very likely a scammer just filling in data to hook you. Same reason scammers might throw you that kiss.

Then there is observational awareness if the profile has photos.
You can look and see if the height corresponds to the stuff in the picture. You can also look for an Adam's apple or other facial tells.

The final test is a test of your intent. When a profile is questionable, why would you waste time on it? Are you desperate or searching for the right person for you? If she/he is not what you seek, most people would just move on to the next profile, delete the kiss or delete the email.

The significant point is the fact of you seeking more information so something about the profile appealed to you but you failed to maintain your resolve when you continued to look after you found something which didn't look/seem right.

I have seen several profiles where they have openly said they are transexual, I would think that it needs to be said up front so no one is misled, if it was not mentioned in the profile you read it's more likely to be a typo error in my opinion, since very few women are that tall. Should there be a separate section, I would have thought there are to few to require one.

Imagine, a 6ft 5inch tall woman, I need to sit down my knees have gone a bit wobbly.

I had a 6.5 foot girlfriend once ,I am 5.8 foot ,I had to jack it in

I've seen profiles from women claiming to be seven foot tall. Most of the time, I put this down to carelessness or unfamiliarity with feet and inches.

First of all, all these nudges and kisses ... are they even from real people? If people don't make an effort to post in the forums (which none of these kissers and nudgers do) I block them as a principle. Never mind how small or tall they are. I don't even check their profile