Is it so hard for a man to start feeling something, these days? Why is it just sex to most men? What are some of you scared of? Past relationships, being tied down, just want sex??? Tell me so I can find a decent guy... not a con artist.

Keep your head up , not all men are like that.

Contrary to popular belief, people are animals.
An animal is driven to reproduce.
Reproduction involves sex.
All the other stuff is added onto that drive to reproduce.
The baseline drive is to reproduce.
Hence, sex is the driving factor for anyone with a desire to reproduce.
Its addictive because it feels good.
It feels good because it is a natural animalistic urge ingrained in existence.

You asked why.

As an intellectually advanced species, humans have the ability to place value on things that exceed our need to continue our bloodlines.
Thus, we value relationships with the ones we have sex with.
However, as evident from experience, some are not as intellectually advanced as others.
Find someone that has control over their animalistic urges if you want something more than reproduction or physical enjoyment.

Maybe men are much more wary these days, because they have seen so many marriages fail, here in the UK it is fast approaching 50% of all marriages ending in divorce, which is not a very encouraging statistic. It is men being cautious not scared in my opinion, and those of us that are divorced already have at least one failed relationship, so try having a little more patience towards men and hopefully you will find the right guy for you.

There are a number of factors that affect an older man and his openness to a "relationship":

1. The extreme high cost of divorce to someone who was the main income provider.
2. The level of relationship many women desire requires a change in lifestyle for the man. If you are happy with your existing lifestyle, you are not very open to changing it.
3. One of the main complaints of older men is a lack of sex in their life.
4. As a woman, the initial judgement of you by a man will be based on his life experiences and what he reads/hears. If he has had several bad experiences and reads of negative attitudes toward men, he becomes only interested in you for the sexual part.

You have to create an image of you other than the negative one he expects if you are going to find someone for a more serious relationship. I think most men would not mind an actual relationship if it was a relationship that fit who they actually are and the lifestyle they are comfortable with. As long as your expectations of a relationship are different than his, most older men will pass. The few that will be interested are the ones who need someone to look after them!

Speaking personally, I'm not too eager for sex, mainly because of its addictive nature.
I don't want to make rushed decisions, and find myself in a year or 5 years in an ill considered relationship.

Separation is such a pain..

Some days, I think of the old days and how it was. Simple dates, to find out if there's a connection between us fist. Being online doesn't really work because there's a wall of truth or false words. Sex is fun, and it's magical between two people. But anyone can have sex and push them away like it was nothing. I met a guy and we chatted before we met in person. It wasn't my intention to have sex, but it happened anyway. I gave up on finding that right guy for me, so I gave in. There's no love, some communication.... wish there was more to him. Maybe, I deserve this and nothing else. It's a trend now, and better then nothing.

If you are still legally married to someone, then a decent guy might not want to get involved with you.

Hard to complain about some guys just wanting sex when you have done the same....

Life is what it is... dating is a game... if you go in giving all, then what else do you expect?? Believe it or not guys really do go off of the idea if a women will sleep with them on the first date,instead they are thinking who else does she do this with?? They are not going to turn it down shshshsh. And yes men don't really count those times.. But... if I was a guy heck I would not turn it down either if with someone I wanted to have sex with...

But it will make a factor if there is a 2nd date, or just a booty call later down the road~~


We get what we give...Most guys actually are up front with what they want...

And it all depends on the Connection between the two..

When meeting/chatting make it clear what your looking for.. Guys that just want a booty call will move on to the ones that are all for it..

Ohh and to be honest if I was a guy and saw a women with a pic of her laying in bed on a site... what do you think they are going to think??? Booty Call ~~

I may have done alot of things with married women.
Committing to a relationship, wasn't one of them.

A fling is a relationship.


No more than it ever was.


Why not?
What's the reward for looking for more?
What's the consequence to not?


FOMO. A lack of instant gratification. Negative arbitrage; putting in time and effort but leading to lack of success.
Other than that, it's mostly people have overcome their fears.
Fear of being single, fear of being alone, fear of being judged "bad" for not marrying or having a spouse or kids or family or whatever.


Why do you want a relationship?
Is there a direction and purpose you are going to in your life where a partner would actually be meaningful?
Or are you ultimately looking for an ongoing source for your own emotional validation?
Or are you going after a guy, for a relationship, just because you think it will lead to some deeper meaning and value in your life, or IOW just because you think you're supposed to?

Deserve has nothing to do with anything.
Deserve is a childish concept.

Getting divorced, isn't bad thing. People just fall out of love for each other. If men don't like me for that reason, why bother me then? David....

The word Separated doesn't mean Divorced.
Separated means that one is legally married but not living with one's spouse.
So, which word appears in your profile under Marital Status?

To each, their own. I have my reasons for not understanding men, my road has taken me over hills with craters. And the man that I thought was the right one, was my imagination. Ok, no one is perfect, nor I. There is more to life then men, I failed in that department. Better for me to find myself and open my heart to others. I'll be keeping my eye out for someone and my happiness.

Maybe the guy I'm seeing, might open his heart. And no, I havent slept around like some of you think. It's been a long time, since my stbx. This guy is the only one and dont plan on giving anyone else a booty call. We still have a long ways to go before feelings might show up, if zny on his part. He knows that I don't go sleeping around with Tom, Dick and Harry.

Um yeah, lets classify all men under the same label because one guy did us wrong and we feel jaded and need to vent.

yes bt depend the relationship
how can menage
u dont bleme only man ok pretty girl

Yes Bro
It's truth

As a 24 yr guy...I can say that ....Most of the girls feel the same way..They date the guy..Use them... When.. The guy is empty from his pocket..They try to get over the guy.. To find another one.. That's how it goes... So guys tend to think.. Why not have sex.enjoy life...It's not only girls problem.guys also face problem due to lack of love

Past relationships.