I have this topic that I am interested to see what people have to say about it. This just recently happened to me so I like to hear what y'all feel about it. If a ex that you haven't seen nor talked to in say 20 or 30yrs finds you say on Facebook and he or she broke your heart back then would you be willing to talk to them again if of course your single knowing that they may not have changed and they could break your heart again?

I won't talk to my ex wife again. Bad enough I have to see her in the courthouse

Talk ? Yes absolutely and then some. She broke my heart alright but we did have a blast when we were together.

I feel like people can change, especially from their youthful years to their more mature ones. ANY one, a stranger or an ex could break your heart, so why not give it a shot, but take it slow with awareness of what COULD happen based on past experience, and see what happens.

I am not so desperate for companionship that I would get back together with an ex.

An occasional comment on Facebook might be tolerable, but nothing else.

Few are the same person they were 25 years ago.
At least one of you might be mature enough to find out how much.
Unless, of course, he was a mean-spirited, greedy, selfish, stupid
loud-mouth who blames everyone but himself and now votes accordingly ;-)

Its not important what I think, I don't live behind your eyes.

I have talked to old GFs and sadly my X and not only have they changed, so have I.
While some things I didn't like may or may not still be evident in their personality, what is significant is that my preferences (which made me choose them in the first place) has also changed.
While I have no issue tolerating them now, I have no desire to enter into an intimate relationship with them again.
I am still friends with many of my xGfs. I do not want to be friends with my X-wife, no matter how different she becomes. Some poor choices are nothing but a mistake any way you look at it.

Yes, I would talk meet for coffee or lunch, just to see what they have been doing in so many years. I am sure I had gotten over them Years ago because I move on , " Next ! "

That would be a VERY short list for me, and for everyone who would be on mine, the answer is no. The particular women involved were VERY thorough in what they did to "break my heart," so I can't imagine anything short of a complete shift in the space-time continuum, making it worth my time.

If you expanded things to include women who just disappointed me in some small way, then of course.

Knowledge is power. I’d talk to them but not agree to anything that friends would not do, regardless of whether or not the door is open for a future relationship.

Playing devil's advocate , It depends on why they broke your heart?

If they moved because of family, job or financial reasons due to ambition, perhaps we could chat, grab a cup of java or drink if they are close by.

But if they they cheated or involved in things that eats at my core values... not a chance.

My ex came home after 20 years when our son was sick. He swore he had changed. He said isn't 20 years enough time for me to forgive him. He turned out to be exactly the same. Then I had to struggle putting him out.

I have no problem meeting anyone from my past.. Does not mean I would want a relationship with them.. At times just remaining civil is the key to moving on~~~ But if you met them and decided you enjoyed their company then go for it.. Life is better with no regrets or what if's~~~

But if one decides to go there and it does not work out the 2nd time then there is no what if's and move on..

No as perspective has changed on that person and its not a positive one. It is better to move on.

Yes, i can talk just greeting and Well wishes But not for relationship anymore. Although some may have changed. If anyone like to retake a relationship with such ex, him or her must be sure that the ex has changed from the past bad habbit.

I think it depends on why you broke up, and what stage the relationship was at too, and maybe even if you were friends or not first.

I still talk to one of my ex's, we very good friends.

We started as friends, it turned into more, 1st time she cheated I forgave with clean slate, 2nd time I walked...

So to me was only the partnership that got destroyed, not the friendship, now if I'd of given a 3rd 4th and 5th chance then most likely the friendship would of been destroyed too.

Would I give it another try if opportunity presented itself?
Yes, but I would make it an open relationship and I'd be faithful, and see if she could be too, even though opportunity to go with others is there on a platter.

Whilst i remain friends with some exes.
The very notion of recycling any relationship
is like moving backward through life.

I've run into X's from time to time.
Not a one hash betrayed my confidence or trust.

Because we are either still "friends" and have mutual respect for each other. Or whom ever they were met with an unfortunate demise.
Seriously three persons I was very close to passed away from natural causes.
One was in a really bad traffic accident involving multiple cars. Another got shot by another boyfriend or girlfriend in a love or passion triangle power play (I was nowhere in the neighborhood), and a third chose to expire because she had a cancer that would of wrought havoc on her health. So she went to a state that allowed self determination, in dignity.

It ish really better to be remembered in kind thoughts, fondness or compassionately.

I'm not purrrrrfect, I have a few grudges with guys I can't bury the proverbial hatchet with.

In my opinion, it's better to leave the past in the past, you have moved on, you are better than that and you deserve better. What's his game, a trip down memory lane, he broke your heart the user, forget him.