I am pretty sure when you say that to a person ...
seems like a easy out ... not sure in my past...
if I have said that in a relationship ...
or if I said it to just take the easy way out ...


But now I understand it more then ever ...

when or if I would say that ... it is me ...not them ...


maybe becouse I understand myself a little more ...


anyone ever use that line ... and did you really mean it ...
to be you or a easy way out ...

Humm... nope have never said that. I'm one that will voice my opinion and don't have a problem doing so..

Last one I was with it was him not me and told him that... he was more worried about having those beers every day after work and by the time he got home he was worthless.. 6 months of that and it was time to tell him to hit the road....

Don't get me wrong I do drink but not every day.. from noon on.. by the time he hit the bed he was worthless And well that gets old after a while...

See! The problem I have with it is everyone thinks it perfectly ok to make shite up. And they are more than eager to give you advice on how and what to say. Wow. Not feeling it. Honesty, honestly folks.

Technically, it is ALWAYS me because I am the only one whose actions I can control. I can choose what conditions to live with and what conditions not to live with, but it is ALWAYS my choice.

I have said "it is not you, its me," in order to drive home that there is nothing specifically 'wrong' with that person, but that it is just not a good fit for me.

There is always someone else who may be fine with something that I am not. So I dont see it as ever being the other person's issue. Im just not right for them based upon the choices they make that do not fall in line with my own.

Oh wait those are excuses. What was i thinking That's different than lying.

As I lean over and admire my own reflection in the water I must agree with Mystical and Ms.

There are certain things I agree with, disagree with, can put up with, compromise on, and rationalize.

Others I cannot.
That's just me. Not you.

I always thought George Castanza invented the "it's not you it's me" defense.

Not those words.

I don't try to lay blame.
I say "its not working between us" and leave it at that.
I do answer any questions honestly after its said.
What they do after that is their thing.

No, I said it is your fault not mine.

No.
It is always them.

I just think it is interesting ...
that my mind works in this way then seem in my life ...

sure there are things I would not put up in a relationship...

or even in passing ... but I mean the whole deal ... as one said
I don't feel it ... so that is why I say... its me not them ...

I have not felt like that in a long time ... to say I don't feel it ...
so guess I stay away from a relationships as to not hurt someone ...

I sometimes don't understand it myself ... but then I say I know what it is exactly with me ... why I don't feel it that way ...

It's me - I 'm not interested in you anymore !
Or
It's not me, it's you - you don't interest me anymore !

Either way it's the same, so just say it.
Get it over with quick and move on, time is a wasting.

The wording choices to limit hurt feelings all hurt in the end anyway, no matter how you put it. No need to beat yourself up over it, it just is.

I have been in relationships that yes, I have broke off and stated that it was me. For a variety of responses. I didn't feel the " spark", we had too much " not in common" or I felt smothered.

I had one very nice woman but I would talk to her and I would say " I'll call you later" and for whatever reason I couldn't, ( usually work related) she would question me on it.

And I got tired of that 3rd degree..

Men hate to be smothered... really do... most anyway.

not sure how to put this ... there are reasons the way I feel the way I do ... least I think that is it ... and would not really know unless I stopped doing what I do ... that seems impossible to know ...
and right now I am not ready to see if that is it ... I gain somethings but loose another... if that makes any since ...

Its just me saying I'm not willing to be what you want.
of course they will often want what they imagine you to be.
so it could be another way of saying I'm not your fantasy.

An easy way out?
Certainly easier than not being yourself.

+1.. I just assume everyone is a bot.... bots need love too.. ..