Hi...I usually hearing this topic always, men blame women and women blames man.. I want to make a survey who is who is the cause.

Definitely the woman





He was having an affair with

here are some survey results on reasons for the ending of a relationship including a marriage...your task is to say which of these reasons is gender specific; that is, which is due to being a female or a male...good luck...you can start NOW!

Married too fast.
Communications breakdowns.
Cheating and infidelity. ...
Bedroom boredom. ...
Loss of autonomy. ...
Money and financial issues. ...
Alcohol and drugs. ...
Lack of romance.

The this vs that never works

Generalizations never work. Not one side or the other

When someone learns that, makes life easier

its because men wanna ruled the world and women want do the same. Men created patriarchs history trough religion, war, Industry, education, love and many more, all that patriarch culture make women feel unwanted, uncomfortable, forgotten, powerless so they trying to fight back. But men dont want give up easily, so they keep defending patriarch culture too, and thats why men and women are often blaming each other.


its already become strong culture its hard to change this situation

Both~~~~~~

Your obviously not going back far enough! It was nature that determined that between spices, and it was evolution that changed it.

there is no 'always'

usually, somebody violates a trust of some sort, and in the days of womens lib where women try very hard to be just like men, that means they are just as likely to violate a trust as men are ...

so sometimes the man violates the trust and sometimes the woman, and it ALWAYS takes both to decide to work on what they have, and only one to decide to walk away ...

$hit thought you might turn up
Nothing to do with women's lib loss of trust goes well before that!

Why Women File 80 Percent of Divorces, 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce. 87% of men cheat on women and only 45% of women cheat on men.

I was married for 18yrs, my ex-was the Boss of a HVAC/R Casino. He was over worked under paid and had Mother issues 7miles away. Had a Wife and 2 kids. He was mad at his mother because she would not give him his part of the inharridence. So he got MAD, packed up his family put the house up for rent and put us in a RV for 2 yrs. Found a new job after driving from state to state but ended up in Oregon for the 7th time. A women came into his job, she kept coming back every day, they had lunch and after hours talks, while he had his wife and kids in a camping site. Pretty sad!

This was supose to be a adventure he said, traviling the states on home schooling, learning what is in the text books, going to all the land marks, painted desert, yellowstone park, grandcannon. ect. instead it was not what it seemed.

Well, one day my son saw his father across the street kissing a woman, he came and told me. I a few weeks later told my husband at the time I wanted to return home the kids missed their friends.

So we the Kids and I, returned home put them back in school and started a single parent lifestyle but still married for the kids. He returned back to Oregon and stayed for 5more months.

He returned saying the Job ended and he moved in with his mother 7 miles away.

What I didn't know was he brought his girlfriend with him and got a job in that town near her.

Funny what a wife does not know! Well, I packed up the kids after 12th grade and off to a new world 5 states away so my kids didn't have to be subjected to this women and her affair with their father.
I wanted him to be happy, and if that took us walking away then so be it.

So it took him 12yrs to divorce me or 12yrs with his mistress? I got married too early at 21, he was my best friend and roommate. I don't think he was ever in love with me "I know that for fact". I got pregnant he did the right [this by his father's words]. Marry her!

I sold the house and bought another one, putting the kids in college, for 10yrs I ran a daycare and paid for my kids college, they helped by working at the college getting 1/2 tuition.

Now they have great jobs and I am proud of that, we moved a few times until they found city and state jobs that will last for a long time. Not many people want to come and live in our town. it's way too hot.

So that is my life, my story, my hurt. I stayed married to him until my kids were out of college, I asked for nothing from him, I sold the house so he would never be in debt and I never spoke to him again nor has his adult children.

I guess God had a reason and its none of my business. He knew my life before I was born and he knows my life after my death. I have asked him for a New Husband so I can be a good wife again, have a house of my own, and walk and hold hands have that feeling of being in love again. Be a grandmother baking cookies and swimming in a pool.

So simple I am! maybe just a dream within a dream, that's ok it's my dream and I am happy dreaming it.

Problem is:
Trying to use public consensus to make a personal decision.
Using a "Blame Game" to justify action or inaction.

The person does not date Men or Women in general.

They date a man or a woman specifically.

It is how we specifically interact with each other on a personal (one to one) basis that establishes a pattern.
Depending upon how that interaction is comprehended, dictates our justification to make a personal assessment.
However, people tend to see things lop-sided.
It takes two to form and experience a relationship.
Many will 'blame' the other for everything and anything.
They don't have the ability to see their own participation as part of the problem.
The self is "Golden", the problem must be the other's fault.

If we apply generalizations to any group. Any one person can be perceived to 'fit' if we allow for inconsistencies.
If you see a specific woman as women in general,
you see a specific man as men in general,
you are failing to see the person that that man or woman really is.
Your expectations become the focus.

well, I am a woman, and I saw my 'kind' was part of the subject matter and voila ... here I am

lol

no doubt loss of trust was before womens lib. However, the thread is posting a comparison regarding men OR women being responsible.

And, in comparison, in my view, women USED to be much more likely to be loyal and monogamous than men , but with the era of being 'equal' to men started to feel just as selfish and self centered and are closing that 'who is more self centered' gap

just my observation over my lifetime though.

Your probably a little bit correct but it was a woman who led him into temptation but didn't deliver him from evil!

Common sense says each case is individual and different..

Exactly. 1st time was hers, 2nd time was mine..

If he had thought with his big mind instead of his little mind, there wouldn't have been a problem

Ah, but if she hadn't got in his little mind then he could have used his big mind

Who causes the separation..ummm
I'm always told it's me...lol..
But what do you expect women never point the dirty finger at themselves..
Lol.

It takes two - you can't make a generalization that it's always the women's fault or the man's each case is different & you'd probably get a different story from each person involved!