not my job.

suck it up buttercup.
this one's on you.

jaix i can lend you my extra special needle and thread, mom gave me years ago. while it is not fast, it does work one stitch at a time. like duttoneer and joey said.

and don't forget to go out and keep living life instead of dwelling on the mending

The brains for sure, besides beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Having

Have to admit, that for me, intellect before beauty. I find it much more stimulating. Personality does come into also

Come to me, and my first and most important question will be, do you actually WANT to "mend your broken heart"? I've found that a lot of people, including the ones who are spending the most time gazing at the moon and making wishes on stars, actually want to stay broken hearted.

Not because it's a wonderful feeling, or because they like being alone, but because their broken heart acts to prove that the love they felt, was truly of value. And they are afraid that if they feel better, that that will prove that their lost love wasn't all that great after all. And of course, some people just enjoy that tangy feeling they get from being depressed.

If we get past that, and you really do want to get better, then there are difficult, but effective things you can do. Nothing magic and fun, sorry. But effective.

Most important and direct: inspect your wounds more closely. Instead of standing back from yourself and feeling the agony and the pain, look closely at each small part of it.

The part that comes from the loss of time with the other person, is often the easiest to get rid of. That depends on your belief that they love you, which you can clearly know is now false (regardless of why you are heartbroken). They are GONE. So of COURSE they don't love you NOW. Therefore do you really, right now, want more time with the person who doesn't love you? I didn't think so. throw that piece of the pain in the trash, and look for the next piece.

Sort through your "plans for the future together" bin in your soul, and take each fantasy out one at a time, and look at it closely. Again, realize that it's attached directly to a picture of that person who left you. Replace each of those fantasy tomorrows, with something better.

The hardest part comes, when you begin to address and face your own sense of personal failure to hang on with the person who's gone. Going over everything in detail, you can realize in retrospect, where you DID actually screw up, and where you did everything right, but it turned out that you were incompatible, so what was right for you, MADE things wrong with them, and vice versa. It hurts the most to do this work, but every part of the mess that you DO identify and sort through, will start to heal as you sort it out, and will act to reduce your fear that you will mess up again with the next person.

That's about it. I can't heal you, I can't help you heal yourself. I can only say that this kind of thing can help and can work.

The best part of it is, you don't have to wait for someone else to happen along, before you can start making progress with it all. You do it all yourself.

Never give up on your creams...

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