Morning fellow minglers. What are your thoughts on celibacy and holding out until you get to know someone?

Hi fishingnet

This board is specifically for rating profiles. You have to start this topic under the coffee and chitchat board or the dating and relationships board.

Its an interesting topic. :)

I know I am. I don't like the love them and leave them kind. Don't be fooled by someone who says "If you love me then you'll do it with me." True love does not force you to do anything you don't feel ready for or comfortable with doing right away. Also don't be fooled thinking that if you don't then you'll lose him/her. Remember it's up to you and you alone.

know thyself woman and more power to ya
if you want a man to love you as a person
not an object of lust
and that is what feels right to you?
keep on doing what you are doing

It's much easier when it's a "choice".

It's an individual choice but what happens when the day comes and they are no good?

My thoughts on it?
Some people do and some people don't.

Those that do go with those that do, and those that don't with those that don't.

You mean as opposed to banging someone you just met
at the grocery store?

I would have to know them as well as the Brussell Sprouts.

Breaking news, new York times, Russell sprout arrested for banging a carrot, when a carrot says no she means no

Couldnt put it better myself

Entirely personal, no right or wrong there. It depends on your own set of values and norms in life.
And also on your sex-drive and needs. You have to take into account that it may take years before you meet that special someone. Are you willing -and able- to go without sex for so long? If yes, just go for it.

hopefully he will taste better

My late wife and I did not have sexual intercourse until she and I were married.
Yet, she and I had a wonderful romance prior to getting married.

My immediate thoughts are:
- celibacy is not waiting for the best subjective time to have sex, it's making a conscious choice of abstaining from sex as well as any institutions or situations that may tempt you towards having sex. Celibacy is a lifestyle like teetotalism.

- people say 'get to know' a lot, but don't really have an idea of what the other person has to know, or how to measure the point where they've 'gotten to know' enough.
In practice, 'get to know' seems to mean 'I just want to feel like it's a good and safe idea, and feel like I have some sort of guarantee. Either of future behavior, or no regrets/remorse. Getting to know me means facilitating my rationalizing a false sense of emotional security that I hold the other person responsible for.'

- in my experience, in many cases, people that consider not having sex as 'holding out' see sex as something bad, negative views towards sex, like it's something 'naughty.'
Kind of like smoking and teens. 'Abstaining' from smoking until they're 18 and legal, maybe off to college, and experimenting. 'Holding out' until they feel they have social permission to do it and have some kind of rationalization for it.

Well My thought is.
It's too late for me.
So I pass on that.

the phrase 'get to know someone' - that is different for every one. Having sex is no guarantee of that someone you've 'gotten to know' will stay with you..
How well do you need to know someone before you 'give in'..?maybe depends upon your sexual libido.?
celibate - urban dictionary... says -
To go without sex, either willingly or not. Reasons include personal, religious, social, or bad luck. Only cure for a celibate individual is a slut or large amounts of alcohol to make the celibate person forget the aforementioned reasons.
Joe was scared of hell, so he decided to remain celibate.
Brian was fat, therefore he was forced to be celibate and instead frequently jerked off.
Due to Anne's many STD's, she laid off the pipe and went celibate.

my thoughts? I am not into being celibate, so I wouldn't hold out for too long..

This is 2years that I am going without sex,am still waiting for the right guy , haven,t found him as yet ,but I will wait a little more I believe that I will find him .

This is 2years that I am going without sex,am still waiting for the right guy , haven,t found him as yet ,but I will wait a little more I believe that I will find him .

Goes for both ..Prince or Princess

I don't see the relevance to the OP's question, but I love the picture!