Romance comes up regularly here, and it makes me wonder what you believe romance and being romantic entails. Because I think it can mean different things to different people.

Is it a candle lit dinner for two? A guy buying you roses? What exactly do you feel is romance and romantic acts/behaviour from both yourself and a partner?

Someone mentioned "romantic foreplay". What does that mean? The part before you get to the bedroom so to speak or (also) the foreplay once in the bedroom?

An abnormal (not everyday) gesture of communication the purpose, or motivation, of which is to convey personal romantic emotion and relationship bonding.


Depends on the people involved.
Every person I've dated I've felt differently about them, different emotions were triggered at different times for different reasons to different degrees.
So I've ultimately romantically behaved differently.

IMO if there are acts/behavior you think are romantic that you try to "use" on all your dates, then it's not all that romantic.
Little different than reusing sex toys and games with a new partner.

IMO romance is part of the learning to communicate process.

It shows that you're learning to communicate more complex and personal ideas and feelings to your partner in a way you know they will understand/know/interpret correctly.


I don't know. You would have to ask the person that mentioned it what they meant by it.
I can speculate it means behaving in a way that communicates personal sexual desire mixed with an attempt to manipulate a reciprocal response within the immediate future.

I do not live near the beach, nor do I possess a fireplace... But I have nipple clamps.

And? Does wearing them make you feel more romantic?

If it turns her on.. I will consider it.

Hmmm... interesting take.
But I'm not sure it will be all that different with various partners. Some things, yes, but not everything.

I think love is very much like nature in its spectrum.

Love can be intense and passionate like a tidal wave, but it can be soft and sweet like April showers, rainbows and the flowers of spring

For me , being romantic is about bringing out that softer , sweeter side of love ie the buoyant butterfly feelings...

For me, romance conjures up images of soft playful kisses , cuddling, walks on the beach or the park, stealing loving glances at each other and blushing at each other , holding hands, swaying to music together in a loving embrace, little love notes to each other, giggling over jokes that only the both of you understand or find funny, ....

Things like THAT!

And when some of those gestures precede sex, I call that romantic foreplay .

It's the part of love that makes you feel warm inside rather than HOT!

Romantic is when he stares and gets lost in your big brown eyes as opposed to your generous cleavage.
Romantic is when he holds the door open for you and then rests his hand gently on the melon cheeks for a moment just to guide you through.
Romantic is when he tells you your shoes are out of this world, and then lets the goosebumps take an elevator ride up your arm by saying his momma would probably love you.
I know guys. You're welcome

A man who serenades me. If he wants my attention, he's already got it.

Topic: What do you consider to be romantic?

When he stops annoying the neighbors, with screams ' Please lady unlock the cage door '

2nd Date...we're sitting on the couch talking before going out.
Her phone rings.....and rings....and rings while she never loses eye contact.
Me (getting a bit admittedly fidgety): "Are you going to get that?"
Her: "There is no one I want to talk to. YOU are already here."

Great thread Crystal...
Well to me Romance can be so many things.. A gesture.. a touch.. a small gift.. the dinner for two is great..

To be it boils down to the thoughtfulness behind... When he cares enough to show that he cares means the world to me.

Dont get me wrong big splashes of Romance is wonderful but if done all the time they loose the luster.


Honestly with that someone special the Romantic foreplay starts way before the bedroom or where ever comes into play. That can be a hug a look, a remark that could sit and simmer all day til time allows.

So I dont think there is a hard and fast answer for me.

All makes sense :)

But I still wouldn't really know what to answer when asked "Are you romantic?"
In a way, yes. It's really nice, can be great, but I'm quite erm... passionate. I spose cos my Venus is in Aries, dunno. Once on fire, it better get doused, or I get real cranky. And I mean real cranky
So I can seriously enjoy the romantic things, the looks, the special smiles, a really sweet (small) pressie, getting touchy-kissy, but if then he softly kisses me goodnight and leaves ...

*That is of course in a relationship or having dated a few times at least*

He pees all over me.
By this I mean, like a dog, marking its territory,
he pees on me by always holding hands when near.

Ever so romantic :-)

^^^^^ leave it to you S to have me spit coffee all over the laptop



See that makes sense I can't answer if I am romantic or not I have been told I am.. But I don't go in for the stereotype if showing Romance...


Ummm I am not going there when lead on and then nothing..
I am not a gemini for nothing...

On topic:

Carry out Chinese food
by neon light in a motel room,
has it's moments.

oooohkay look out here comes the redneck in me


when he takes my car in and gets four new tires put on it and a tune up


when he mows the lawn and does not run over my flowers


when he says " honey if you make a salad I will cook you a steak"

I agree with this 100% any little intimate thing that takes away the day to day demons life throws at you is romantic to me.It lets me know that she is with me and hey its about us and that makes me feel important and wanted to someone.

I actually love to do romantic things. Sometimes it can be a picnic at sunset at the beach. Other times it can be cooking a meal for her. Or it could be hitting Chuck E Cheese, acting like kids and then at the end of the night surprising her with a romantic boat ride. I believe in being creative with the romance....as long as it comes from the heart.

Romantic foreplay....to me....it's the stimulation that gets the mood just right. It can be through the eyes...she sees that you adore her and truly want to make her happy. It can be via the soft touches.....she feels that electricity coming from you which sends those vibes throughout her body. It can be going out dancing with one another. So many things can be considered romantic foreplay. Ya just have to decide which avenue to pursue.

I can dig it! Chuckie Cheese it is then! I love pizza :)