when i got married, i thought i was happy, but i was fooling myself. i felt it was my job to take care of her, but she was thinking the same thing, even though she was full well able to do it herself, she chose not to. and ot wound up making me misarable. i setteled cause i though i was alone. i was more alone when i was married than i am now. thats saying something. i dont care if it takes forever, my happiness will come, and i have a small piece of it now. i have a beautiful little girl, as much as i cant stand my ex wife, i love my little girl, and wouldnt trade a damn thing for the things i have with her.

Even though I do not get any responses in here, I still feel that we all need to remember Rome was not built in a day and any relationship that has a chance needs to take time. There is no way a relationship will work if you don't take the time to get to know each other FIRST.

We all get fed up with people that cannot be themselves and portray someone they are not. To many, there is an mystery that comes with being online. They can be anyone they want to be. Its when they try to get involved with someone that the cookie crumbles because they have lied to get people to respond and the truth comes out eventually.

This is true in both men and women.

If people would just be honest from the get go, they would be happier and have a chance to meet and get to know mr or ms right.

That is my opinion and I'm sticking to it!

i agree tally, fully,, why lie,, it never works out fer ya

lying is not a game...think it borders on something called as "Sin"..well anyways...the only game I believe is in is "strip poker"...lol ok ok..i am ready to be crucified LOL

i'm not smart enough to play games

there are so many guys who dont play games... the problem is they are either taken or they turn out to be such a great friend that you dont want to date them and ruin it...

i agree with Tameka goes the same way with the women on here

Gee thats so true tameka...r u into reading minds...did once try dating my best friend..turned out to be a nightmare...u love them so much but end up pulling ur hair at their slightest mistake which u would normally ignore for anyone else..since then only one rule..Best friend stays best friend...romance with only mortal friends..lol

Hi. Over the course of good marriage and the better and worse of dating for a while now, my observations have sort of given me a few guidelines.

Number 1, honesty. Give it. Expect it back. And you know, honesty is not always a pretty flower.

Number 2, if a relationship affected you to the point that with in the first week of a new relationship, you are looking for flaws, maybe as an out, re-examine what level you want things to be at, IE dating now and then or is this the one. And discuss it. Then see number 1.

Number 3, get the big stuff on the table within the first two weeks. Doesn't have to be every detail, but if there are to be surprises, some folks don't like surprises. Did I mention I work for my ex? That kind of thing.

Number 4, if it seems too good to be true, at the very least be wary. Somethings are meant to be. Other things only seem like they were meant to be.

It isn't really hard to know that some people have different expactations (a new way to spell expectations)of a relationship. A relationship can last for years, my parents are in their fifty - first year of marriage, or a relationship can be as short as going to get the morning paper and saying hello for the first time to someone passing by on the street. Bear in mind that most people, especially the male ones, are more coward than lion, and this can make them controller or user types. it can also make them too timid to speak their minds.

I wish you the best of luck. Remember, have faith, believe in hope, don't forget to embrace the little parts of the day and enjoy it even when you are alone.

Hey sweetie. I think that like me I want someone to date, but I am not ready to settle down. It is not that I want to date many. I want to date only one man, but not be too serious. I am not ready for that. I met one man the other night that really is into me and it is scary for me. I am not playing games though. I just want to have a special someone that I do not feel obligated to. We are all the same and it just depends where we are in life. I would ask the man what his true feelings are about a serious relationship if that is what you are after. Most will be honest or hum ha around and that is basically telling you he is not into either you or a serious committment. Good luck cutie pie.

call Ms. Cleo for an answer.

What do men play on here?

Tameka has said it...

I found there are a few men out there.. that are just looking for someone that will cater to them... and so they say what they will... and sometimes it works for them... i hate this type of person.

They will also be the first to say to you... I can't believe you just said that? and try to place blame on you.. pitiful.

why is it men who ar ealways singled out


women play just as many games

Definately i will agree on that hupuppy.. I have some male friends that have gone through stuff with women as well...

well, i havent dated any women so i can only mention men. lol and i have yet to meet one that doesnt play games.

we have a penis,, we are always wrong. no matter how right we are,, how honest we are,, we are always the one that hurt em in the past, its our fault they got picked on, its our fault for everything bad that ever happens,

Yes?

im not talking about allllll men. just the ones i have met. i have extremely bad luck with dating.