Occasional stuff, work it out.
I rarely see anything worked out on a (met in middle) term.
Purposeful, continued pissing off, I can forgive and not have them in my life.

When people piss me off, the first place I go for common ground is my own back yard....If I find understanding there, the problem takes care of itself...If I am invested, even slightly, I will pay closer attention to them, listen and learn, and keep my heart open..It takes a lot to make me burn a bridge and I learned about impulsive behavior the hard way....

I had to burn the bridge with 2 stepbrothers and one stepsister. After my stepfather died. Will s hit.
The third stepbrother when I took him in and he was nothing who he claimed to be and was the same con and liar he always was.

I forgave them and, don't care for them in my life.

More times than not, I have been the one the friends, wives and girlfriends have had to forgive and/or forget.

((((( C )))))

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DITTO

I have learned that if I am to expect or hope for forgiveness from others, I myself must be willing to forgive them. Forgiveness, in my humble opinion is not FOR THE BENEFIT OF THE OTHER PERSON...it is for the benefit of our own beings so we don't weigh our own spirits down and lose our ability to love or deal with others in our lives. Forgiveness does not mean you continue to allow these people to "walk all over you". Forgiveness, to me, means not closing ourselves off from displaying good character qualities, like kindness, humility, love and sincerity. I also agree with what Funky says that it does irritate the other party involved because they cannot comprehend why the other person has forgiven them. I simply choose to be a vehicle for love and not hate. No one, not even we ourselves, are perfect. Again JMHO.

For me, forgiveness does not require that I stay in a relationship or friendship. Yes I forgive the person, but I may not wish to associate with them. For instance, if a person chooses to begin regular use of methamphetamine, they have my sympathy and forgiveness for the damage they may have done; however, I am not willing to sustain a relationship with them.

Over the past decades I have encountered most of the listed items in relationships at one time or another. I was usually somewhat tolerant as they became evident, but became intolerant of some of them – even to the extent of terminating relationships.

I have little time left. I refuse to spend any of it with;
A-holes, self-righteous A-holes, A-holes who think they know
everything, A-holes who think they know more than anybody else,
narrow minded A-holes, inconsiderate, impolite, down right rude
A-holes, self important self aggrandizing A-holes, conceited A-holes, lying A-holes, A-holes who won't give up a seat on the bus to little old ladies, and any other kind of A-hole you can think of.

Be wary of mirrors.

No man is an island...

j/k, sorta...

Sometimes there is no middle ground, but you can agree to disagree and respect eachother's opinion even if its different then yours. Accepting eachother's differences is just as important as compromising.

...Sometimes even more important...Great post!!

..... but for some reason just recalled...

"My wife wanted a puppy. I did not want a puppy. So we compromised and got a puppy."

I don't mind people having different opinions than mine. I am willing to hear their side and try to make a compromise .
Its when they assume to know what I am thinking or feeling without asking me that I get pissed off.
Making judgements is different from differences.
But even then I would be willing to try and work it out, at least not hold a grudge.

This.

Is that bitterness I smell?....

It really depends on how they piss me off. most of the time I avoid people who make a habit of pissing me off. I have a wee bit of a temper and I really don't like being angry. They say the easiest way to avoid sinning is to avoid the near occasion.

Told in 1st person for effect.