Ladies, is it really necessary for a man to "love dogs, kids and god" to be your friend?

Forgot the Watermelon-Wine!

Nope. But it'd be nice if a guy loved cats, coffee, and books.

I love cats ... fried , baked, sauteed, etc.

One day, Kitty is going to claw your eyes out.

Humm well since my kids are adults now and have kids if they don't like kids then they must not have any of their own. Or either don't like them...

As far as the dog well I have a Cocker Spaniel and if they don't like dogs then it could be a downer since my dog is a inside dog and very spoiled...

As far as God I don't judged what one believes in or not believe in...

But.....I assure you if they can't get along with my kids or my dog then most likely they are heartless and need to move on....

I am more turned off by the word "MUST" than usually what follows. Someone has a big list of preferences I can deal with it but they start dictating how I MUST feel, behave, think well I will have the burning desire to hot foot it out of the door without even one look back.

I'm suspicious about it. What's wrong with their kids or dog or god that a guy would have to love those things to date them? I've got a dog but I don't need to ask women if they love them. It's enough that my dog loves people I think and the only person that I know that doesn't want my dog around him has a phobia. I dated a woman recently that wasn't keen on dogs actually and even she said that she's a good dog.

On the other hand, my dog is a pretty good judge of character. I dated a woman a while ago that claimed to love animals but she said that she didn't like the way that my dog kept looking at her.

They probably mean 'dogs, kids and goddesses.'

I am with PacificStar, they would lose me at "must."

Good point. If the animals and offspring are pleasant and likeable, there is no need to demand "love them."

On the other hand:



Why be judgmental about the issue?

Is it critical that friends "love" your kids or grandchildren? Will you be taking them along for chaperones? Do you require that friends interact with your family?



Will you be taking the dog along too?



Good point -- many ladies seem to require that a man be "god fearing"



You imply that unless they "get along with" your kids and dog they are "heartless."

That seems like a rather narrow and exaggerated use of the term "heartless" which is defined as: A person that doesn't care what they do to hurt someone, or Devoid of compassion or feeling; pitiless, or unfeeling; unkind; unsympathetic; harsh; cruel.

Is it "heartless" to have no desire to interact with a spoiled dog (or spoiled children when that is the case)? If a woman did not care for my offspring --�� which is not an issue (or animals if there were any), should that eliminate her from friendship, companionship, spending pleasant time together?

Funny,this Thread reminded me of this Song by Tom T.Hall.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVA1hbF-pz4

Tom T. Hall- Old Dogs, Children, and Watermelon Wine (With Lyrics)

I would imagine if they're setting those restrictions, they're talking about more than friends. But, do all ladies think this way? Of course not.

Some of us have much more refined culinary tastes for sure!

No....

Agreed -- or some might confuse what is required of friends vs. what is required for coupledom.

When I see that in a profile (which is surprisingly often), no matter how appealing it might be otherwise, that is as far as I read



Agreed -- thankfully

depends upon the person and what they value in their life

IF I have kids that I value, we probably wont be compatible if you don't really care for kids

same with pets or faith


it is a wonderful way to keep people from wasting their time in situations with a high potential for incompatibility

I love God and dogs and my kids

I might place it as a 'must' just to ween out the possibility of those who are hateful, or impartial towards them,,,,

but its probably more fruitful to put it down as something we love and hope others are reasonable enough to decide whether its a compatible value in their life or something they are compatible with

I had some food delivered tonight and when I opened the door my dog ran out to welcome the delivery guy, just like she does with everybody. The guy totally shat his pants and told me that he was nervous around dogs because he had been bitten by them. I told him that no way would my dog ever bite anybody and that's what I don't get about these people; any fool can see that she's just trying to be friendly.

As far as friends or girlfriends go, if they want to come into my house, they're going to have to be around my dog and yeah, she's an attention seeker and will want them to pet her. If they don't want to do that though, they can just tell her to get off, or push her away, or I willl. I don't see the problem and it's not like I'm forcing my dog on anybody, or asking them to take her out for walks or anything.

I had a girlfriend that did like dogs and she even had one of her own but she still didn't want me to bring my dog around to her place and she got angry with me if I wanted to take the dog anywhere with us. I didn't think that she was being very reasonable about that but I put up with it. Just wasn't worth arguing about, even if she wanted to argue about it.

John, I'm not a woman thats obvious but here are some things I have come across.Kids are forever so it would be important for a woman to know how you view her children. If she is a pet owner with a inside animal I'm sure a woman would at least want you to be tolerant of her pet. The Faith thing would bother me because its private to me and I don't push my views on others and if a woman requested me to be of a certain faith I would have to pass on dating her. I agree with the others so far on the word " must" I think for a relationship to be healthy there has to be a bit of give and go.

Well, there you go. You answered your own question.

OH I like kids...... I just never had any because I like vacations more