Honestly...I get emails from really young men or men that could be my dad. I am not looking for another kid to raise and I had an amazing Dad and he could never be replaced.
I would like to think that I am a nice person and one day I will meet my best friend that I don't want to live with out. BUT if this does not happen, I am truly content with my life.
I do look at men around the age group you mentioned, I think there are several nice looking men around that age group. A few of those men have emailed me and I am talking to one who has actually became a very good friend. The other one..I don't know what will happen there but we are just friends for now and if it is just friendship, he seems to be a nice, attractive man.
Not everyone goes through a mid-life crisis, sure some do and they like to feel young again. I am happy to turn a year older every year, I guess when you go through a life threatening disease...you look at life a little bit different!!!

Taking an over simplified view. Assuming all men aged 18 to 75 years old that are looking to date, and all are equally likely/unlikely to be attracted to you , men in the age group 45 to 52 represent only 14% of this population. Therefore, you can only expect approximately 1 in every 7 men contacting you to be in the group 45 to 52 years old.

Ladies you just need to attract more men, perhaps including profile photos in your beach wear would help to achieve this, all the guys like ladies in bikinis.

Lol!
I second that motion!

Well I'm not in the age bracket you are talking about but I like reading all the posts anyway, and for me personally I would rather a man be attracted to me for my mind, heart and soul rather than my body. But that's just me. A man who is attracted solely because of a body, without looking at the "inner package" will soon find a better body somewhere to which he is attracted and move on. Not the kind of relationship I would WANT to attract.

Well played Señora. Well played.

It's certainly possible that a lot of guys are just looking at every woman's profile that comes up when they do a search. I used to unless they were old grannies. Just looking doesn't necessarily mean anything. Most people are on here because they are sitting at home bored with nothing better to do with their time.

I know there are times when I check out a profile thinking they look older then they really are, then I look and they are only in their 20's and 30's and I think HOLY CRAP!!!

?????????? Sorry don't understand this???

Neither do I Sounds like it's a tit for tat game, which as far as I'm concerned it isn't.


Yeah, but I got that with women a lot too. It's like the younger generation looks older at an earlier age?

Gilley's in Las Vegas have Bikini Bull Riding on Thursday nights...

All that I meant was that you made a good point. Next time I'll just say that instead.

Oh, okay!

i am 54

i think it all has to do with the heart

I think that the thing someone said earlier about how a younger woman is less likely to want a relationship is false. I mean, all these middle aged women on here say that they aren't that bothered and that they are supposedly happy anyway. This is a dating site but most of them just want to chat. It took me over two months to get a date with a forty something woman on here the last time I tried and she was a slapper. I can get a date with a woman in her twenties or thirties that is looking for a boyfriend in a matter of days.

Going by my own experience I found women in their 40s were more difficult to please. Obviously, a generality and anecdotal but both sexes appear to think they are more important than they actually are. During that time period most people are well established in life. They have obtained the lifestyle they sought. Career, health, finances….life has never been better so they think they’re “pretty damn good” and they want what they want, no compromise. They must be “special” because they’ve got exactly what they wanted. Of course, most people have got what they’ve wanted by that age so they aren’t so special. Again, generally speaking.

Also,there’s Isaac_dede’s post.

As Isaac_dede states a woman in her forties has a tough time competing with those considerably younger. If “looks” is a man’s priority he will choose a younger gal. If “looks” is not the only priority the man will choose an older lady as the older lady will have to have something more to offer. Also, they are more “accepting”.

When it comes to younger women if they are solely interested in “looks” they will choose a man around their own age. If they are seeking a more established man they will choose a man who appreciates them more and not one with a tone of arrogance.

Again, just my experience

That's not fair. I am 46 and I search for women in my age group all the time. Most of those women want someone younger.

I think it is a two way split as far as I am concerned.

Age doesn`t matter, most woman are stupid all their lives.

Being a man, but not 45-55 just yet, I understand what may be going on.

As men, statistically speaking, we mature later in life. That is not always the case though, just in general. Women tend to know what they want, and where they are going at a much earlier age. Given this age difference in a focus on life, men tend to get lost in thought and are more likely to readress their lives after 45.

With this, comes an interesting fact. We start thinking back to when we were younger, and the fun we did have or could have had. By the age of 45, most men are starting to think about their mortality. It concerns us a great deal. The realization that we are in the preverbial "over the hill", brings about a desire to fight the facts of life. Men tend to go after younger women. Not only to feel younger themselves, but in a way of saying that they are not too old. By younger, I mean 10 plus years younger than them. Our constant need to feel attractive and dominant drives this.

Now on the other spectrum, younger men go after older women. Why you ask? Simple. We are born of women. From the day we are born, we seek the affection and approval of a woman (our mother). Till the day we die, we will actually NEED that affection and approval from a woman. Since it is burned into us as children to seek the approval and appreciation of an older woman, we tend to do just that. Add in the fact that we typically mature later in life, and you have men 30-45 going after women older than themselves. Not to mention that typically, a woman 30 to 45 tends to be more focused on where she is going, and NOT on her man (which turns into a whole huge misunderstanding between genders, with the men screaming "what about me?", and women screaming "sh! t or get off the pot, cuz im fighting to get us somewhere, and your afraid im not here for you"). We gravitate towards an older woman who has it all together because she focused early in life, and has the time now.

This is not always the case. Just a typical idea. There are a lot of men who are MUCH more comfortable with women their age. Trouble is, that those men are secure with themselves, and typically are in what they concider a happy marriage. Though, I am sure that not all of them are in a relationship. Which means that there are guys out there looking for women their own age 45-55.

My best friend is a 25 year old Hot male with a Heart of Gold! We hang out almost everyday he...we go out a lot and he let's me be me.....he doesn't get irritated when I talk to other people! He even takes me out with his male friends! His friends are 23 to 30 they all love me.......older guy's don't let me be me! They always want to change me! I k ow age is just a number, but my personality is outgoing & I have not met many older guy's who enjoy hanging with me without being insecure or jealous ...... life is short I say do what ever makes u happy!