Yeah I will keep the faith, cheers.
If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.

While I'm not that age yet I read a book recently that may ring true in certain aspects and possibly explain this phenomenon.

The book was called "The married Guy's sex life primer" it is by Athol Kay(he has a blog too, actually it think it started as a blog, but I digress)


In this book he talks about Sex Rank and the differences between men and woman, He states that it is pretty easy to figure out a woman's Sex Rank by just holding up a picture of her in a room to a group of guys and they will rate her based on looks, whatever that average is will be Her Sex Rank, so let's say she is a 7.

However, in order to figure out a man's Sex Rank the women would need to see more than a picture, something closer to a resume, Job Title, Salary, Has he been married, Is he good with Kids...and so on, based on these types of Questions, the woman than rate the Man's Sex Rank. So Let's say this guy is a 7 as well.

He then states that people of the same Sex Rank tend to pair of with each other, So as you can see by this example, A woman's sex rank, if just based on looks alone will decrease over time, while a Man's Sex rank can actually increase over time, Say he get's a better Job, Higher Salary, Get's in better shape, or any number of things, So let's say the Man is now an 8, however, he may see woman his own age as 7's, So he may look for a younger woman who he considers to be 8's or even 9's, he never had a shot at them before when he was a 7, but now that he is an 8 they are paying attention and he drops the 7.

Of course there are things that each sex can do to up their sex rank, However, it is going to a take a knockout 40yr old, to be equal to an average 20yr old woman. There is biology behind this as well, but that's a whole other chapter lol.

Good point, when generally speaking of women within mid 40's to mid 50's. On a personal level, however, menopausal mood swings was never a problem. The one serious problem was and remains that so many women I have met in their mid to late 50's are alcoholics. Some reek of booze, usually cheap gin. Perhaps some put it on as perfume by accident. Perhaps not...
Meeting someone new in any type of social context should be a positive experience, but not when they reek of booze or have 4 or 5 gin and tonics, or martini's to your perhaps 2 drinks...That just ruins the occasion altogether.

Sorry Isaac, that doesn't compute to me. Nor is it congruent with what many men said in the other thread "young men viewing older women's profiles".
I actually think that many men do not prefer a 20 year old over a 30/40 year old woman. Not every man is looking for a child, some are actually looking for a good looking but mature woman.

You women just need to deal with the fact that most of you are hawt,desirable and humpable...and the fact that y'all got no control over who wants to hump or desire you.

Must be tough.

Well, thank you for making me smile again

That's the key most people miss here baby doll...

This is supposed to be fun.
Dating is supposed to be fun.
Falling in love and being in love is supposed to be fun.

Everyone is wound up so damned tight with what they want and what they don't like...they forget that this is about having a good time to be enjoyed.

I can't do all of you gals...But I will do my best to make you birds smile.

:)

There's certainly some truth to the thing about guys wanting to boast to their friends about nailing an older woman if they are kids. Most older women don't want a boy and that makes it a challenge I guess.

All I've said in this thread is that I think that a woman in her forties is a bad bet if you want a serious relationship and believe me, I've tried with them. A casual relationship is a different matter though and your average younger guy isn't really ready to settle down with anyone yet anyway.

Very true. For exactly that reason I stopped actively/forcefully searching for tha right partner (online).

Oh yeah and that's another thing. Most of them have stopped actively looking, so what's the point anyway?

Interesting; I have met lots of guys in their 50s that are alcoholics. Too bad as they are decent guys when they are sober.

Brute force and massive ignorance...it gets the job done.

Took me years of being too stubborn to quit before I accidentally found love.

Women being picky or hard to get is no excuse.

Eye of the tiger.

Love warriors don't quit.

Fair enough. I suppose that I would have agreed with that a few months ago before a younger woman took a fancy to me but a bird in the hand is worth more than any number of picky hard to get types I reckon.

what would i do with a twenty year old? just kids, don't have time for the silliness that goes with them...

"good looking" I think is a key point in this sentence, not every man is seeking a relationship either, i'd also be willing to bet that a recently divorced man in his mid to late forties, given a choice on sleeping with an attractive 20yr old, or sleeping with an attractive 40yr old will probably choose the younger the one, for the simple fact that he may know she isn't seeking a serious relationship either.

baby can you give me a chance in your heart for you to no me better

Speaking for myself I prefer women my age,I'm done with all the crazy soul searching years and learned to accept myself as is.I can't worry about who I was or what I could physically do then., and I'm looking for someone who understands this and wants to move forward. Life is good!

Nicely put.

What a great guess. Makes lots of sense to me.
Right on.