I agree that over time.. one has the chance to better know another, their quirks and yes even glimpses to their darker side.. it's great you found your match with him though! I used to be a quiet, unassuming person (outwardly) as well, but age has decidedly pushed my more outgoing personality to emerge.. although it seems it's a personality that is less attractive to many men.. but who knows.. maybe one day I'll be as lucky in finding my best friend too..

You say you have not been married, so you are on the outside looking in so to speak, and you may be wearing rose coloured spectacles.

Sadly many marriages do fail for a variety of reasons, however, would I marry again even though it is a woman's world? Yes dear.

Good that you've grown and evolved through the years...I've gone through many different stages too...And some men have this same desire to grow and evolve and come into their "own" too...My husband wasn't looking for a "teenie-bop" type of woman when we met because he was at a different level and stage in his life...He had achieved goals he set for himself in his career. And he knew how to amuse himself in his "off-hours." He had tons of interests and personal goals that he created and developed for himself...He didn't live in fear of being anihilated or "wiped-out" by a woman or anyone else...He had "sure-footing" and a solid foundation of his very own when we met. So he welcomed having a life partner who was on a "growth path" too.

You are correct. I have not been married. I do know many couples who are happily married, though. I'm sure there are quite a few bitter, angry ones out there as well, though. However, the happily married couples do not seem to have your attitude toward marriage. I guess that's the secret.. not being so bitter.

No need to call me dear.

I do not understand why you think I am bitter towards marriage, past or future? I am giving an opinion on the OP's comments, which I believe hold some truth, why on earth should I be bitter about it?
Marriage is what we make it to be.

I was just going by what you've said. That's all. If you say you're not bitter, ok.

Why are women so dominant after ????

Because we CAN MUAHAHAHAHAH!!!

True. And often times, people want to tell others all about Marriage, yet they have no personal experience of ever being Married. Experience is the best teacher.

he sounds like an amazing guy.. how lucky to have found him you were.. as I said before.. I can only hope to find mine.. one day but in the meantime.. I'm living life and enjoying it's pleasures AND adventures lol

not only is that ridiculous. husbands are men not children - I daresay perhaps the ones you are referring to needed parenting?


also think about it - I doubt the attitude toward females displayed in your post is going to help you win women....

If you find yourself struggling too much in a relationship, you're probably with the WRONG person.

Amen. We were given the survival instinct for a reason.

What a crock.

I have the same exact question about men.

As soon as you marry them, they think they own you.

Those yes men, should just leave their wife once and for all. What are they so afraid of? He could seek help from his family and friends if she came looking for him after they divorce. I know they're bound by contract, but no point wasting your life with someone who is bossing you around.

the only thing I would agree with is that what others do is none of your business.

If you attempted to influence my decision I would not permit it (because I agree with very little of what you say, I would not solicit your opinion)

the decisions others make about their relationships are no one else's business - nothing personal just mho

First of all, I didnot ask this question for the sake of others and not to win women. I asked it for me since i see the kind of r/ship I see around me are frequent as the one I mentioned earlier.
Second, believe me I am not married and havent faced that kind of relationship.
Third, yeah you are right, people like that need parenting or more than parenting.
Last, are you that kind of person(meaning the one who needs parenting? I would be happy to do that)

Hey everybody. Thanks for the contributions. I really enjoyed it, specially the responses of singmesweet to duttoneer

You never saw my ex's. They put on weight, got bossy and expected obedience Hmm perhaps I should have been the man.

But really I think the problem is that before people are married they dont really show who they are. Whether its a woman or a man, you tend to be more attentive and accepting of things before you actually live together and realities set in.
Its not until later that you really get to know a person and their character.

Marraige is hard work and without both are able to accept the other and love them for who they are, you are in big trouble.

I agree...Some people just aren't a good "fit" or "match" for us...I don't think we should "bail" without trying to discuss things first...But if we run into "deaf ears" or defensiveness or a lack of caring or consideration towards us I think we should walk away and get-out before we run into "quicksand" that starts to bury us alive. (Or weigh us down.)

For reference to this question, check out Bob Burr on Youtube, routine entitled "the Epidemic of Gold Digging Whores"