For reference to this question, check out Bob Burr on Youtube, routine entitled "the Epidemic of Gold Digging Whores"

mine was pretty good for awhile, but I think we both felt a little bit like "Strangers in the Dark" during the last few years. Thing that is a little unsettling about that is that we had been together for 20 years. I felt that way anyway, very lonely but never alone...

So much of it seems to be about "blame" and "playing victim." And painting the opposite sex as "evil" or "bad" or ???..And lots and lots of generalizations and stereotypes etc...I had 2 "failed" marriages earlier in life and relationships that didn't work out..But I didn't want to "blame" and hate ALL men just because I ran into problems with a "few" men...I tried to take a more "wholistic view" about why I encountered problems earlier in life...I realized that I had a lot of "growing-up" to do myself. And I needed to stop looking for love in the "wrong places."...Later in life I met a "different" kind of man because I'd become "different" myself. (And grown and changed through the years.)

When I gave my heart, I did not give permission for it to be abused, I gave it with the trust that it would be cared for.

Honestly...do we ever know our mate? I was with my ex-husband 6 years before I married him and it was like he changed over night. It is not only women that change...I stayed the same because I loved everything about our relationship. THAT IS WHY WE SHOULD NOT HAVE RUINED WHAT WE HAD AND GOT MARRIED!!!!
I think if someone can change that fast, they were just showing you their good side so you would stay with them and keep moving forward. I guess your partner never really comes out and says...LOOK OUT, I LOVE TO HAVE A LOT OF WOMEN AT ONE TIME. SO IN THE END YOU REALIZE THAT YOUR MARRIAGE WAS A BIG LIE AND SO WAS THE WHOLE 6 YEARS BEFORE....YEP I LIKE SINGLE LIFE!!!

Look on the bright side its not everyday you get ,stephen king to write your marriadge vows..