Why is it when you tell a guy to go away ...I'm done they won't leave you alone???

Perhaps he likes a challenge... hmmmm....

if they don't leave you alone, just block them out

simply because you cant just get rid of him that easily. :)

Hey Downtoearthdebbie!!!
i dont know why some are like that its both sad and pathetic.
This is currently my dilemma too!

Good to see you posting here
maybe they are simply hoping you'll change your mind and settle for them.
ive only got my opinion... i had trouble letting go to all my long terms. But i gave up after a couple times trying to reconcile.

Men don't like to take no for an answer. If you tell them that you're not interested they will tell you that they just want to be friends. I've had gay guys try this with me. An old schoolfriend showed up at my door after over twenty years and then he kept coming back without even phoning first to ask if it was alright to come round. I even had him banging on my door one night and shouting through my letterbox and sticking a note through my door. It was really creepy. The guy was definetely gay and I don't want to be a homophobe but he had a massive crush on me and was being a total pest.

I guess some women do the same sort of thing but to be honest, I don't really mind if a woman chases after me and demands my attention unless she's completely mental. Women, in my experience, will get angry if they think that you are ignoring them instead of doing the "I'm okay with just being friends" thing.

I'm talking about in real Life!

It might be a control thing as the one gentleman said they just can't take no for an answer.

Insanity. He must be crazy about you.

Well, sometimes when a woman tells you to "go away" or whatever they are just being moody, so a guy will just call you again later and hope that when you are in a better mood you will be nicer to them.

Rejection is hard to deal with. It's a blow to the ego. If you tell a guy to leave you alone he can either say to himself "Oh well, I don't like her much anyway" and just leave it or he can get upset and feel bad about himself or he can just refuse to take no for an answer.

Also, many women really don't make it clear that they want a guy to go away and leave them alone. I've spoken to women in pubs that have complained about men pestering them when they were sort of leading the guys on a bit,, or at least still being friendly or polite when the guys talked to them. Kind of funny really. A woman comes up to me in a pub and says, "Do you mind if I sit with you because there's a guy in here that's pestering me?", which puts the idea in my head that she's using that as an excuse to talk to me because she's interested in me.

Because they are idiots. I have had to tell a few guys that myself. I told them if they didn't leave my alone; I would get a restraining order and on one of them I did. I don't play that game with them and they know I am damn serious when I tell them about the restraining order.

nope he was young & HOT, & he wanted me to take care of him.... I'm done raising kids& I. Ain't a Sugarmomma lol a Cougar to a point!!! Lol

I suppose many of us feel compelled to chase the ones that run away. I think it immaturity or insanity.

Because they like to think they know you better than you know yourself, and if they are persistent they can get you to change your mind. A man that knows your buttons and how to push them to get his way can be quite masterful in the art of seduction. So, if you are truly over him, then you need to make it clear by refusing his messages, stop responding to him in any way, because he will look at your generous spirit as being a weakness he can use to manipulate and control you... and no matter how much in like or love he thinks he is with you, when you outright ignore him constantly, he will finally get tired and move on... you just have to be as diligent as he is in his pursuit of you... by being as equally stubborn in your rejection of him...

After reading your profile just now to acquaint myself with you, I get the feeling you already know the answer to your question...

Perhaps it's time to get that restraining order

Yep; they do work well and this tells the guy you mean what you say.

Some men think that is playing hard to get and some men like to chase women that they can not get easy. Most men love a challenge.
But often times, the woman really does not want him anyway, so he is wasting his time and ends up loosing out.

Men don’t like being told what to do, we are stubborn.
Men don’t like rejection, hurts our ego.
Men don’t like giving up, makes up look week.
Men may think you are just playing hard to get, makes use blind to the truth.

That is why a restraining order works. One way or another; you will leave her alone when you spend a few nights in jail.

I've always found that when I leave others alone, with a little direct speech and followed by my own action, they get the message.
(some call it burning bridges... whatever, they make-up definitions as they go along.)

For those few with some psycopathy-issues, there's legal action.

Don't wait for "them" to move on... you move on.
Sounds like you've already made a great start. GL.