People can lie or imbellish answers to certain questions asked in interrogation form. I prefer a more relaxed conversation revealing when I feel comfortable.

What do you do that makes you feel fulfilled?

What are your long term goals?

How happy are you with your life so far?

What's your credit score?

Do you have a savings account?

Did you know?

Did you see?

What about that?

Should confuse the f* out of them long enough for me to jack their wallet.

how are you? would you like to have dinner together sometime?
What do you look for out of life?
,,from there, it is more about time and gradually getting to know someone,, I Dont really want a social meeting to become a job interview,,,

Dating is different than a Marriage, I hope to marry and I am not marrying anyone with Debt. If it doesn't matter to You are any other woman, that is their choice not to ask a man. Men I date or either Retired or close to Retirment, they know the answer to where they will be in 3-5 yrs. They have Planned. It is not that unusal to plan for Retirement. They had No problem answering that for me.

Fiances are very important if a person marries someone. I can handle my Own...Praise God.! I definately do not want his Debt.

I ask questions for a potential Spouse,not just a man to date!!

I like to manage and stay out of Debt. I enjoy that much better......

Seems like with some women money is a very high priority when selecting a mate.

The two questions that I always ask are these:

"Are you working for the Alien Task Force?"

"How do you feel about being an accomplice?"

Just because you ask a bunch of questions doesn,t mean you are getting the truth ,so why bother?Time will tell.

Yeppiers you got that right...The way I see it as long as they work or have a income coming in and can take care of themselves and to go out once in a while and do things they like to to do then that is great...

Only time will tell you how they really are and what they expect out of life...

But if someone starts digging into my financial status I'm gonna think they are only out for what they can get.. I don't have much but it is mine and I can take care of myself and have for many years...

Heck I only knew my ex for 3 months before we got married and it lasted for 11 years... To me it is all about the connection and the way they treat you.. I mean yeah I want them to be able to take care of themselves financial for I don't plan on supporting anyone... Just because they have debt does not mean they do not handle it wisely...

I think I would have a harder time believing somebody that said they didn't have debt.Nowadays I think most people have some sort of debt.

Why would you worry about their credit score or savings account if you plan to keep your funds separate from anyone you're with?

If I was dating someone and they asked me those questions, I would be freaked out! I would probably tell them to slow down and NO I am not going to marry them any time soon so relax.
I think I might just start out the conversation and ask if they were ever married and then just work from there. I have never went on a date with a plan to ask different questions. If I did I think it would stress me out....all I want is stress free things in my life!

I met a couple of men in person, nice looking nice guys and had two ex wifes that really helped cleaned them out of funds and they living in Apts trying to make it and want to find a woman to partner with. Many People in Big Debts these days and would not make good spouse. No thanks, I moved on.

We all have our wants. Remember some people are seeking a life long spouse makes a Huge difference in the question I would ask.
Most women like to spend money. You don't have to Agree.

Are you going to contribute money to the house or spend all of mine on shoes?
How many "assult rifles with hi cap mags have you worn out at the range?

I would ask..
IF their relationship is over? I got the crazy girlfriend/ wife phone call

Why did it end? I got the abuser who believed women were out to get him

Are they ready for a new relatiopship?
I got the guy who cried and lamented the ex all night on our date!!

One of the things I usually like to ask is:

What is your name?

I agree, this seems to be a good question

If I were looking to get hitched, these are answers I'd want to know.



And this is why I'd ask. I have some debt, but I'm also making all my payments, on time every time. I'd want to know if she is too. It's part of being a responsible adult.

I don't understand why it would be so hard to believe that someone can live within their means and be responsible with their spending. Maybe it's just because that's the way I do things.

On the converse, as the subject is questions asked when you first meet someone, a person asking about my financial status within the first few questions raises big red flags. That tells me this person is either looking for someone help take on their debt load or just a "sugar daddy" in general. Call me old fashioned, but inquiring about someones income and debt load is a little further down the line, IMO.

I read this thread as what questions you'd ask to someone you just met. And I thought you never wanted to get married again? Isn't that what you've been saying?