Topic: no strings
navygirl's photo
Wed 12/26/12 12:07 PM


Look up the definition of "no strings" and yes it means seeing others. What is wrong with legal ties? Perhaps I want something deeper than a sexual relationship; even a spiritual relationship that goes beyond love. I see life differently than you but it may because of the time I have spent and still spending in the military. I can't make you understand my needs anymore than I can understand yours. We have to find what is going to make us happy and your type of relationship simply wouldn't work for me. I guess we should just agree to disagree.


Alright, I looked it up and here's what I found;

"Doing something for someone without asking for anything in return."


The problem with legal ties is it opens you up to to problems if things don't work out. There are things that won't hold up in a pre-nup. No children is an example. If I maintain myself you she does the same I'll never have to pay her alimony. If I never share a bank account with her she'll never be able to empty it. By the way, not allowing her access to "family funds" is legally abuse. If we don't live together I'll never have to sleep on the couch because we argued.

What do you gain by getting married that you don't already have?


Pre-nups do hold up in court if you get the right lawyer and signed properly. I suppose it depends on each person. For example with me;children wouldn't come into it as I can't have children. If we are both working and a pre-nup is signed; why would I collect alimony? You can be married and have seperate bank accounts. I think what you are talking about is a woman that doesn't work. Why would I need access to a man's account when I have my own? We both can equally contribute to household bills without having access to someone ele's account. Why would I make a guy sleep on a couch over an arguement? I am not 18 years old and I have never had that issue with any man I was with. I am mature enough to sit down and talk as I simply don't argue. I spent most of my life seeing people die so this has had a profound effect on me which is why I simply won't fight with anyone. Again; its something you simply don't understand and I am not here to convince you otherwise. Anyways; I think we are at a stalemate and see no further need to discuss this. I have better things to do with my day. Have fun.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 12/26/12 12:07 PM
My point is you can have everything anyone claims to want in a relationship without having any legal ties. So, why have the legal ties?

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 12/26/12 12:19 PM

Pre-nups do hold up in court if you get the right lawyer and signed properly. I suppose it depends on each person. For example with me;children wouldn't come into it as I can't have children. If we are both working and a pre-nup is signed; why would I collect alimony? You can be married and have seperate bank accounts. I think what you are talking about is a woman that doesn't work. Why would I need access to a man's account when I have my own? We both can equally contribute to household bills without having access to someone ele's account. Why would I make a guy sleep on a couch over an arguement? I am not 18 years old and I have never had that issue with any man I was with. I am mature enough to sit down and talk as I simply don't argue. I spent most of my life seeing people die so this has had a profound effect on me which is why I simply won't fight with anyone. Again; its something you simply don't understand and I am not here to convince you otherwise. Anyways; I think we are at a stalemate and see no further need to discuss this. I have better things to do with my day. Have fun.


Yes, many things in pre-nups do hold up in court. But, there are some things that don't. And if a divorce does happen she'll have a lawyer doing everything he can do get her all he can. Here's how it starts, She says she doesn't want anything and her lawyer says Are you sure? You'd be giving up a lot of money that you're legally entitled to. Then she says really? how much?

Actually, once you're married having separate bank accounts doesn't matter. Both have an equal legal clam on all assets.

Maybe you cannot have children. But, we aren't talking about you. We're talking about strings. If I don't want a child and she does she can lie to me about taking birth control pills and oops I'm a daddy.

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Wed 12/26/12 12:26 PM


Pre-nups do hold up in court if you get the right lawyer and signed properly. I suppose it depends on each person. For example with me;children wouldn't come into it as I can't have children. If we are both working and a pre-nup is signed; why would I collect alimony? You can be married and have seperate bank accounts. I think what you are talking about is a woman that doesn't work. Why would I need access to a man's account when I have my own? We both can equally contribute to household bills without having access to someone ele's account. Why would I make a guy sleep on a couch over an arguement? I am not 18 years old and I have never had that issue with any man I was with. I am mature enough to sit down and talk as I simply don't argue. I spent most of my life seeing people die so this has had a profound effect on me which is why I simply won't fight with anyone. Again; its something you simply don't understand and I am not here to convince you otherwise. Anyways; I think we are at a stalemate and see no further need to discuss this. I have better things to do with my day. Have fun.


Yes, many things in pre-nups do hold up in court. But, there are some things that don't. And if a divorce does happen she'll have a lawyer doing everything he can do get her all he can. Here's how it starts, She says she doesn't want anything and her lawyer says Are you sure? You'd be giving up a lot of money that you're legally entitled to. Then she says really? how much?

Actually, once you're married having separate bank accounts doesn't matter. Both have an equal legal clam on all assets.

Maybe you cannot have children. But, we aren't talking about you. We're talking about strings. If I don't want a child and she does she can lie to me about taking birth control pills and oops I'm a daddy.


If you don't want children, get a vasectomy if you're afraid women are going to lie to you. Sounds like you have trust issues anyway.

Anyway, back to "no strings attached." It makes it sound like whatever is going on is as far from serious as possible.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 12/26/12 12:32 PM
Edited by TexasScoundrel on Wed 12/26/12 12:39 PM
Maybe I don't want children now, but want them later.

Trust issues? It's like owning a gun. You're just trying to protect yourself. Nothing to do with trust.

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Wed 12/26/12 12:39 PM

Maybe I don't want children now, but want them later.

Trust issues? It's like owning a gun. You're just trying to protect yourself. Nothing to do with trust.


Wear condoms?

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 12/26/12 12:44 PM

Wear condoms?


Personally, I always do unless trying to have a child.

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Wed 12/26/12 12:47 PM


Wear condoms?


Personally, I always do unless trying to have a child.


Well, there you go. :thumbsup:

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Wed 12/26/12 12:53 PM



I think this is an awesome idea! Many women could use some reducing and I don't have a problem with recycling and reusing other men's girlfriends.


sadly many men tote around a lot of excess.. yet they feel entitled to their desires no matter if they've achieved their own!?! noway however.. there's a LOT more to a person than just the outer shell..!

as far as the above statement is concerned though.. in my world, a person with this mindset would be considered a 'cad'..





or a jerk or even quite possibly an "alpha male"

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 12/26/12 01:08 PM



Wear condoms?


Personally, I always do unless trying to have a child.


Well, there you go. :thumbsup:


Fine, but we're about strings. Strings that many women insist on.

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Wed 12/26/12 01:10 PM




Wear condoms?


Personally, I always do unless trying to have a child.


Well, there you go. :thumbsup:


Fine, but we're about strings. Strings that many women insist on.


Right. No strings means nothing serious. Definitely not marriage. I think we're all in agreement about that.

rsxlover's photo
Wed 12/26/12 01:11 PM
I could never allow my weak mind to be in a situation of "no string attached" with anyone.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 12/26/12 01:19 PM

Right. No strings means nothing serious. Definitely not marriage. I think we're all in agreement about that.


While I agree that it means not getting married, I disagree that it can't be serious. Love and marriage are two very different things. You can have either without the other.

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Wed 12/26/12 01:20 PM


Right. No strings means nothing serious. Definitely not marriage. I think we're all in agreement about that.


While I agree that it means not getting married, I disagree that it can't be serious. Love and marriage are two very different things. You can have either without the other.


In my opinion, a "no strings attached" type thing is not going to involve love. That seems to be the way most others think as well.

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Wed 12/26/12 01:23 PM

In my opinion, a "no strings attached" type thing is not going to involve love. That seems to be the way most others think as well.


My point is that it could mean love, but without legal ties.

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Wed 12/26/12 01:25 PM
In no strings attached circumstances I tend to find a string and hang myself by the rafters with it.

I'm a fan of them though.

The NSA thing. Not the rafters and noose part.

Also, I just realized that if you were having a purely sexual relationship with someone who worked at the National Security Agency you could say that you're have an NSA relationship with a girl from the NSA.

I'm so easily entertained.

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Wed 12/26/12 01:33 PM


In my opinion, a "no strings attached" type thing is not going to involve love. That seems to be the way most others think as well.


My point is that it could mean love, but without legal ties.


Like I said before, it seems to be something that people have different ideas about. Just make it clear to the person you're with what it means to you.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 12/26/12 02:37 PM
Alright then, I'll accept the majority definition and ask an appropriate question.

If you enjoy the time you spend with someone, why does it matter what he or she does when you're not together? Suppose they had another lover, but you never found out about it. How would that be different than if they didn't have another lover?

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Wed 12/26/12 02:42 PM

Alright then, I'll accept the majority definition and ask an appropriate question.

If you enjoy the time you spend with someone, why does it matter what he or she does when you're not together? Suppose they had another lover, but you never found out about it. How would that be different than if they didn't have another lover?


I guess it just depends on what you're looking for. If you're looking for something casual and don't mind if they're dating someone else, go for it. If you're looking for something a bit more serious and exclusive, then it would matter if they're with someone else.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 12/26/12 02:47 PM

I guess it just depends on what you're looking for. If you're looking for something casual and don't mind if they're dating someone else, go for it. If you're looking for something a bit more serious and exclusive, then it would matter if they're with someone else.


But, if they were with someone else and you never found out about it how would that be different than if they were exclusive with you?