I don't usually talk about these things in public.

I knew there was more to you than stoop settin'

I don't think that "no strings attached" equals "meaningless sex."

I see it like this: Just because we went out twice, sex or no sex, does not mean that either person has some kind of claim on the other.

Here is a problem women have. If they don't have sex with their dating partner, they are 'holding out' and if they do have sex then they are 'putting out.'

Once a person has sex with someone, then suddenly (sometimes) there are strings attached. It becomes a 'relationship."

Men don't pay a hooker for sex, he pays her for a good time and for 'no strings attached.'

I'm not saying no strings is the way to go either. But don't get out the handcuffs. A few strings I could handle. LOL I have scissors.

I hope you are not referring to me and my uniform.

It can mean that they like spending time with you when it suits them but they aren't going to give you any commitment. If you go along with it then you are both guilty of using each other for sex really.

It isn't the same thing as paying a prostitute. Prostitutes just do it for the money.

Some relationships just don't work but people that can't get on with each other in a proper relationship can still sometimes have great sex together. The problem with it is when one of you wants more than that and then you just have to make up your mind if it's worth it or not.

you have a fascinating way of inventing a parallel reality

first - no strings is definitive of meaningless sex - that is the point of it

second - men defintely pay hookers for sex - again definitive - raison d'etre

third -there is always a relationship - when 2 people communicate or interact that is a relationship - how it evolves is definitive and varied

fourth - no one ever has a "claim" on another in terms of ownership, but there are always strings & sometimes chosen commitments

sometimes sex is involved in a relationship - sometimes a commitment is also - but even if no commitment there are still strings. we are one - humanity - we can't escape our collective soul...like the proverbial ripples on a pond

no strings is simply denial speak for "I do not want to take responsibility for my actions"

I can't agree - men who want truly meaningless sex (if there is such a thing) need to line up and pay. anything else risks the involvement of feelings - and men who do not care about that do not deserve a decent woman with feelings. she'd be wasting herself on such a man.

This is true of some people but there is such a thing as having a casual relationship. There are also people that will tell you that they just want to be friends, even though you keep ending up in bed together. There might be a "relationship" but it's on their terms.

"No strings" can mean a lot of things but if they are "just using you for sex" then they are likely to be seeing somebody else and not getting enough from them, or they are a player telling them the same story about how they are just a friend. You may say that that doesn't make someone a player but it is playing people off against each other and leading them on to think that they do have feelings for you that they just don't want to admit to.

Why would any one want to have a relationship or friendship with someone on their terms? I guess I go by the quote I DON'T WANT MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY THAT ONLY MAKES ME AN OPTION.
I have never done the no stings attached thing...I think I have to much class. You either love me all the way or you don't!! If not...you can kiss my sweet *** goodbye!!!

If you are lonely you might go along with it because something is better than nothing for some of us. You might be prepared to go along with it on their terms because when you are together you do have a good time and maybe you think that it might be going somewhere if you just put up with all of their nonsense for a while. You might have history with that person that makes it hard to just let them go. You might genuinely be trying to at least salvage a friendship out of it but every time you try to do that feelings get in the way.

EVERYTHING in life, comes with strings. How tightly bound, depends on the ties in our mind. We all are our own judge & jury, none others REALLY matter. We just have to make peace with ourselves.

Also, some people just really like sex and it's quite possible to have a relationship with someone that's all about just having fun and not having to deal with all of the hard work that comes with a "serious relationship".

You go from being on your own and being able to do whatever you want to do to having someone making demands on your time and expecting you to jump through all sorts of hoops to prove that you are worthy of the great honour of being their boyfriend. You probably have to listen to a lot of other jazz about how you aren't really compatible but they keep coming back for more. That's almost a win/win situation if you really can't be bothered with all of the hassles but do want to have somebody that you can see from time to time for a bit of passion. You can also just tell them when they complain about habits of yours that they don't like that if they don't really want to be with you then it's not their place to tell you what to do.

For me, not possible.

there are always strings.. no matter HOW ya slice it.. even dialing 1-800-hookers for an order of meaningless sex has strings.. you still have to give her your credit card!!

Oh wow. Hookers that take credit cards. Now that is classy.

yup.. they call 'em Escorts..

The problem with relationships is that people assume too much about them. Assumptions and misunderstandings are the problem.

If people were honest up front about what kind of relationship they are willing to engage in (strings or no strings, casual or courting for marriage etc.) then there would never be a problem.

But mostly people are not completely honest about what they want, and even if they are, things do change in relationships. There should be no guessing or game playing and the only way this can happen is to stop playing games and stop pretending to be someone you are not.

If a guy just wants sex and nothing else he should say so. If she wants the same thing, they might be a good match. If he wants exclusivity he should say so, and this should be clear so he must be true to her also.

Men who just want sex should consider paying for it rather than becoming a dishonest pick up artist that goes around lying to women just to get them into bed for free and with no strings.

Paying for sex comes in all guises. What do you think a sugar daddy is? How about a rich wealthy (cougar) woman who has a young stud on her arm? It does happen.

Women who fall victim to a lying pick up artist thinking she is going to snag a husband with her looks and sexual talents should not be too surprised when he is not there in the morning and never calls her again.

Hope as you may.... your fears are confirmed....

And if the women become pregnant as a result . . .

That's why you need to be sure of who you are sleeping with.