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Topic: GRRRR
Ladywind7's photo
Thu 06/28/12 05:06 AM
Relationships are fantastic when they are stress free. But inevitably conflict will happen. How do you deal with your anger? What do you do with anger once you start feeling its grip taking hold of you?

LovahBwoi's photo
Thu 06/28/12 05:49 AM
you can either look for ways on how to relase the anger or my favourite . you can turn the tables and take grip of the anger twice as bad as it got hold of you and when the right moment comes you relase it at the right pace where it does not harm but rather good! :)

Kaleijoscope's photo
Thu 06/28/12 06:16 AM
this always works for me...when i feel im starting to be pissed..i would always excuse myself,walk away and zip my mouth until my anger cools down..i've had some nasty lesson on anger and that is, you can never erase hurtful words you've said when you're angry..

no photo
Thu 06/28/12 07:05 AM
I take a breath and think things through fully, and try to figure out what exactly I am getting mad about, and the real reason for it and what it all means in the grand scheme of our relationship. I have seen people get into full blown wars over the most ridiculous things, really more with the intent to actually fight, than because of any particular reason.

I do not believe there is anything so bad, that is should break into an all out fight between us, because of we each take stock of ourselves first with the situation, and then communicate with each other on the problem, we can avoid all of that nonsense.

shandi69's photo
Thu 06/28/12 07:13 AM
two ways i handle with my anger cause of blacking out n knocking him out, i bought a punching bag and i found working in the garden helps but the punching bag and kick bag helps so so much.... And everyone stays away from me when they hear the bag being hit and music loud...

Christinacospgs's photo
Thu 06/28/12 07:21 AM
Handcuffs work nicely...laugh

no seriously though, communication is one of the keys to a truly great relationship. This includes being able to fight well, letting the other person know calmly what it was that frustrated or hurt you. Don't just blurt out - take a cool off if you need it. You will speak so much better...Contrary to popular belief, guys can't read our minds, which is probably a good thing. I think females can read females at times though. lol.

jemare's photo
Thu 06/28/12 07:40 AM
Depends on the situation. A little bit of anger, I walk away and keep busy with something else, or drive around for a bit till I calm down. ALOT of anger, well I have a loud shrill voice bigsmile But I yell what it is that's bothering me and I don't think I've ever said anything that I regret too much as it isn't out of meaness or wanting to hurt someone back, it's just what's bothering me. If it's a real shouting match, I leave to calm down and pick at it later in smaller doses so that it doesn't end up in a shouting match againlaugh Good thing I don't yell alot because it gives me a headache :laughing:

Jesally's photo
Thu 06/28/12 08:37 AM
Being silent & keeping calm in a very bad situation helps in a way,:smile: We all know that anger fuels anger, so the calmer you can remain, the quicker your partner’s anger reduces. Shouting at a partner in a rage escalates her anger, and joining a passive aggressive partner in sulking can make the situation continue for ever.

If this anger is heated up & you feel like fighting, then give yourselves space, go somewhere to cool off and later come back and talk.


TexasScoundrel's photo
Thu 06/28/12 09:19 AM
I try to get at the root of the anger and eliminate the problem. I've worked very hard over the years to create a stress free life. Anything that upsets it I kick to the curb.

msharmony's photo
Thu 06/28/12 09:22 AM

Relationships are fantastic when they are stress free. But inevitably conflict will happen. How do you deal with your anger? What do you do with anger once you start feeling its grip taking hold of you?



I rarely rise to the occasion of anger

when I have though, I usually take some deep breaths and seperate myself physically from the situation to focus on something else for a while,,,,

soufiehere's photo
Thu 06/28/12 09:26 AM
Learning how to deal with stress can save your life.
This does not often occur to you, until you are older.

Start young, define what angers you, deal with the
triggers.

Save yourself :-)

oldhippie1952's photo
Thu 06/28/12 09:50 AM

Relationships are fantastic when they are stress free. But inevitably conflict will happen. How do you deal with your anger? What do you do with anger once you start feeling its grip taking hold of you?


I don't have anger, especially against someone I am supposed to love. If I do feel anger Jesus is there to shoulder the burden for me.

happy

Ladywind7's photo
Thu 06/28/12 03:33 PM

Learning how to deal with stress can save your life.
This does not often occur to you, until you are older.

Start young, define what angers you, deal with the
triggers.

Save yourself :-)
:thumbsup:

oldsage's photo
Thu 06/28/12 03:55 PM
NO need for anger. YOU should FIRST have the respect of eachothers thoughts/opinions. Agreeing to disagree with respect is a major key to keeping the relationship going. Learned that the hard way, but it does really work. JUST TAKES MAJOR DESIRE TO KEEP THINGS TOGETHER. All win when you can find a COMPROMISE.

OPINION LEARNED THE HARD WAY

1SOPHIAIUX's photo
Thu 06/28/12 05:41 PM
flowerforyou
Relationships are wonderful when there is mutual acceptance to be who you really are.

If you are a giver keep giving.
If you enjoy receiving keep receiving.

If there is a balance without control and expectations -- just enjoying the NOW...that's the best.

Commitment is a wonderful match...there is magic...and it does happen.
:banana: :smile: love :heart:

Totage's photo
Thu 06/28/12 05:53 PM

Relationships are fantastic when they are stress free. But inevitably conflict will happen. How do you deal with your anger? What do you do with anger once you start feeling its grip taking hold of you?


I just try to avoid getting hit by a flying boot.

Ladywind7's photo
Thu 06/28/12 08:46 PM
Or caught in the slamming door. Retreat I say!

Totage's photo
Thu 06/28/12 08:47 PM
Oh yeah, and avoiding brooms, that's pretty important too.

Ladywind7's photo
Thu 06/28/12 08:52 PM
Witches and warlocks are amusing to watch. They love to manipulate, dominate and intimidate. And when they have no control they just get angry, gotta love them though.

Totage's photo
Thu 06/28/12 08:59 PM
I was turned into a black cat once by these three witches. They made a movie about it.

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