I'm packing my silk boxers now.

I'm packing my silk boxers now.

We'll even give you a Texas Star!!

A Texas star???
Is that a male trollop?

no, it's just a good grade.

I made a bad grade!!

I can't do that with anybody. If I do not feel anything for them..I can not carry on such personal interactions with them.

I made a bad grade!!

A Texas star???
Is that a male trollop?

That's why it is called fwb...friends (who you have some feelings for imho) with benefits.

To me it is a lot like being a gf/bf pair. Just no expectations unless you grow more feelings. Some do, some don't.

Boy, I'm a little surprised at the answers. The people who are turned off to the concept are really turned off. Not sure I understand. I would think this type of thing would work well for a lot of folks.

Second thought, really a question. Do you guys think Pepper (my doggie) is using me for a good time?

from my perspective,, sex is an intimate thing, more intimate than a friendship

so friends with sex, is not an option for me, unless that friend is a 'boyfriend' or spouse,,,and someone who didnt quite view sex as special as I do would not be a good match,,,,

You didn't answer my question about Pepper.

I have never seen this arrangement turn out well for both sides. One or both eventually feel like they were short changed and that is not a good feeling.

While the FWB thing sounds like a pretty easy going no stress deal in real life it rarely works out that way.

Relationships that are that sloppily crafted are usually a second class relationship. Yea you might get lucky taking a two mile hike in your slippers the reality is your more likely to pick up a few stones in your shoes and end up in a lot of pain before you can get home and make a course correction.

My feeling is life is too short to to waste it coasting in a less than satifactory relationship that you don't really want to commit to are or them to you. COnsidering the risks involved it is just not worth it to me and not something I would waste my energy on.

If not a matter of respect for others it is a matter of self respect for me. I deseve better than being a sort of kind of mistress dressed up in the lie that someone is my "friend".

WOW, This seems to be a hot button topic I started here.

Well, The reason I started this thread was because as I said, I wanted to see what other people thought. Also, To kinda help me make up my mind. I was offered a FWB situation. It blew my mind really.

I've known this woman a little over a year. We did date at the start in a "romance" kinda way. We figured out early on that we liked each other. We were better off as friends. That's what we have been all this time. Even though we still go out with each other from time to time it was just two friends that were keeping one another from sitting at home on Friday night.

If she didn't have a date with someone she would call me and see if I had a date. If I had a date, OK, She stayed at her place alone. Same with me. But if neither one of us had a date, We kept each other company. We haven't even kissed since the last "romantic" date we had when we decided we were better off as friends. That's been close to 11 months ago. Maybe a little more.


Now, She drops this bomb on me this past Sunday night. Caught me so off guard, I must have looked like an idiot. I sat there with bababababababa falling off my tongue. My register tape ran out in my brain. I wasn't expecting it.

I got up and left. I haven't talked to her since. I know, I'm gonna have to face her. I just don't think I'm cut out for FWB. I'm not that type. I'm the type of man who if I start doing that my heart will get in it. Just seems like a good way to get your heart handed to you on a stick.

If someone asked you to be a F.W.B, Would you? OR, Would that be a turn off to you? Seems like a common thing now. I'm curious to how people in general really think about this subject.