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Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Fri 02/10/12 04:41 PM
Yea, I think the guys a real douche...

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 02/10/12 04:48 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IOCFWKFZE2M This is the 8 minute clip of a father's response to a facebook posting of his 15 year daughter... where she is NOT happy with him. This is all over the place. Big discussions on it on facebook. Most think he deserves an award..very few think he's a douche. Is this good parenting or not? I think the daughters note was very disrespectful and deserved discipline for it. I dont agree with shooting the laptop although I would agree it should no longer be hers to use if the parents she claims she wont be there for paid for it. by the daughters choice to use such a venue to resolve her issues and the fathers choice to use a weapon to make a point, I dont think a good example of anger management is being set the family probably could use counsel on how to 'talk' with each other and find better ways to resolve things

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 02/10/12 04:50 PM
the family probably could use counsel on how to 'talk' with each other and find better ways to resolve things I think they tried that the first time she did it.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 02/10/12 04:50 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Fri 02/10/12 04:51 PM
Yea, I think the guys a real douche... He might be, but the daughter seems unappreciative and spoiled. I think family matters should be kept private and that includes the stuff the girl wrote on facebook whining about her chores. (Poor baby.) I think if it were me, I would have simply made the daughter delete her facebook account and grounded her from the computer for three months. Shooting the laptop was extreme and wasteful. It was also a bit frightening. (I wouldn't want to piss off anyone with a gun and hollow point bullets, even if he was my Dad.)

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 02/10/12 04:51 PM Edited by msharmony on Fri 02/10/12 04:52 PM
Being treated unfairly? She has her own maid lol. Exactly so why is she cleaning while her parents relax? Let the maid do her job. parents who are WORKING TO PROVIDE are not 'relaxing' , children need to learn a family is a unit where everyone CONTRIBUTES for the household to run smoothly if the parents are WORKING to pay the bills, the children(and by this I mean TEENS who EXPECT Everything handed to them) should be WORKING to maintain the other responsibilities in the home,,,

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Fri 02/10/12 05:05 PM
Yea, I think the guys a real douche... It was an immature, wasteful, violent and vengeful response to someone he is supposed to love and protect. If she is a spoiled brat he has only himself to blame for that. If this is his general reaction...in all areas, no wander she doesn't have any respect for him. Respect is earned. He can punish her for being 'disrespectful"... he cant force her to respect him.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 02/10/12 05:08 PM
If she is a spoiled brat he has only himself to blame for that. I think he suddenly realized that and is making up for that now. But she also needs to grow up a little.

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Fri 02/10/12 05:12 PM
He might be, but the daughter seems unappreciative and spoiled. No, he is a douche...even though she is 15 He is the adult and a father... Respect has to be earned not expected

DaddyTime Joined Wed 02/01/12 Posts: 530	Fri 02/10/12 05:12 PM
the family probably could use counsel on how to 'talk' with each other and find better ways to resolve things I think they tried that the first time she did it. Lol they point is the parents did not listen and start doing things equally. parents who are WORKING TO PROVIDE are not 'relaxing' , children need to learn a family is a unit where everyone CONTRIBUTES for the household to run smoothly if the parents are WORKING to pay the bills, the children(and by this I mean TEENS who EXPECT Everything handed to them) should be WORKING to maintain the other responsibilities in the home,,, The point is the parents were not contributing, they have work she has school, and it's their duty to support her. she should do no more then them.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 02/10/12 05:15 PM
the family probably could use counsel on how to 'talk' with each other and find better ways to resolve things I think they tried that the first time she did it. Lol they point is the parents did not listen and start doing things equally. parents who are WORKING TO PROVIDE are not 'relaxing' , children need to learn a family is a unit where everyone CONTRIBUTES for the household to run smoothly if the parents are WORKING to pay the bills, the children(and by this I mean TEENS who EXPECT Everything handed to them) should be WORKING to maintain the other responsibilities in the home,,, The point is the parents were not contributing, they have work she has school, and it's their duty to support her. she should do no more then them. have you ever worked to provide for a household and children before? lol I doubt she is doing 'more than them'

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Fri 02/10/12 05:17 PM Edited by Optomistic69 on Fri 02/10/12 05:20 PM
If she is a spoiled brat he has only himself to blame for that. I think he suddenly realized that and is making up for that now. But she also needs to grow up a little. Its a bit late for him to realize that he has been doing things wrong. She is a young woman for crying out loud. I would have invited my daughter out to dinner and discussed their relationship. He just showed more immature behaviour. Shall we adopt?

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 02/10/12 05:20 PM
He might be, but the daughter seems unappreciative and spoiled. No, he is a douche...even though she is 15 He is the adult and a father... Respect has to be earned not expected I agree, respect has to be earned. But even if it is earned, some kids don't give it. The problem in this case was a lack of communication. There is a certain age where sometimes children just will not communicate with their parents. They are fighting for their independence. (Teens) They simply think that their parents don't know or understand anything. This is when they need to learn that to get independence, they have to grow up and take some responsibility. To have nice things, they should get a job and stop expecting their parents to give them everything. If their parents do give them everything, they think it is owed to them. They don't appreciate it. It is a very tough time in both the parents and the child's life.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 02/10/12 05:22 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Fri 02/10/12 05:28 PM
If she is a spoiled brat he has only himself to blame for that. I think he suddenly realized that and is making up for that now. But she also needs to grow up a little. Its a bit late for him to realize that he has been doing things wrong. She is a young woman for crying out loud. I would have invited my daughter out to dinner and discussed their relationship. He just showed more immature behaviour. Shall we adopt? Yes his behavior was an emotional response. Frighting, as I said. I like your solution. Lets go out to dinner and discuss it.

DaddyTime Joined Wed 02/01/12 Posts: 530	Fri 02/10/12 05:22 PM
the family probably could use counsel on how to 'talk' with each other and find better ways to resolve things I think they tried that the first time she did it. Lol they point is the parents did not listen and start doing things equally. parents who are WORKING TO PROVIDE are not 'relaxing' , children need to learn a family is a unit where everyone CONTRIBUTES for the household to run smoothly if the parents are WORKING to pay the bills, the children(and by this I mean TEENS who EXPECT Everything handed to them) should be WORKING to maintain the other responsibilities in the home,,, The point is the parents were not contributing, they have work she has school, and it's their duty to support her. she should do no more then them. have you ever worked to provide for a household and children before? lol I doubt she is doing 'more than them' I am a single father of 2 who works very hard to provide for his children. Her parents relax while she cleans and fetches coffee, do they bring her coffee?

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Fri 02/10/12 05:28 PM
If she is a spoiled brat he has only himself to blame for that. I think he suddenly realized that and is making up for that now. But she also needs to grow up a little. She will, is. She's 15.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Fri 02/10/12 05:29 PM Edited by msharmony on Fri 02/10/12 05:30 PM
the family probably could use counsel on how to 'talk' with each other and find better ways to resolve things I think they tried that the first time she did it. Lol they point is the parents did not listen and start doing things equally. parents who are WORKING TO PROVIDE are not 'relaxing' , children need to learn a family is a unit where everyone CONTRIBUTES for the household to run smoothly if the parents are WORKING to pay the bills, the children(and by this I mean TEENS who EXPECT Everything handed to them) should be WORKING to maintain the other responsibilities in the home,,, The point is the parents were not contributing, they have work she has school, and it's their duty to support her. she should do no more then them. have you ever worked to provide for a household and children before? lol I doubt she is doing 'more than them' I am a single father of 2 who works very hard to provide for his children. Her parents relax while she cleans and fetches coffee, do they bring her coffee? does she take them to their functions? pay for the gas? work to earn the money to pay for the gas? work to earn the money to pay to be warm and to eat? does she prepare meals? does she budget the books so they can keep their home? in a tit for tat, most kids (including her most likely) are coming up really short on the 'work' part of the equation,,, they deserve time to 'relax' if they are making sure she has those things, and she deserves to be contributing as well beyond getting the education that is for HER OWN BENEFIT, but doing things that likewise benefit the HOUSEHOLD

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 02/10/12 05:29 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Fri 02/10/12 05:35 PM


Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 02/10/12 05:33 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Fri 02/10/12 05:34 PM
If she is a spoiled brat he has only himself to blame for that. I think he suddenly realized that and is making up for that now. But she also needs to grow up a little. She will, is. She's 15. I know how old she is. That is not really an excuse for her. In some countries women get married and have kids at that age. I had a friend who started having kids at age 14 and by the time she was 38 she had 8 children. She divorced her husband, and told him to finish raising the last two and then for the first time, she was free to live her life. She went wild for about a year then she got religious. I don't know what she is doing today.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Fri 02/10/12 05:34 PM Edited by Ladylid2012 on Fri 02/10/12 05:35 PM
If she is a spoiled brat he has only himself to blame for that. I think he suddenly realized that and is making up for that now. But she also needs to grow up a little. She will, is. She's 15. I know how old she is. That is not really an excuse for her. In some countries women get married and have kids at that age. I had a friend who started having kids at age 14 and by the time she was 38 she had 8 children. She divorced her husband, and told him to finish raising the last two and then for the first time, she was free to live her life. She went wild for about a year then she got religious. I don't know what she is doing today. Well, you said she needed to grow up!

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 02/10/12 05:39 PM
I just find a hard time relating to the teenage mind. I was never a teenager. I was 30 the day I was born. I'm serious. I have always felt like an adult in a child's body, even when I was five.