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| Topic: Twice Weekly Sex Contract...Would You Sign One? | |
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Okay, fine. I'll sign the contract. But, it has to be upped to 3 times a week. And, if he doesn't put out then I want monetary compensation! If he doesn't live up to his part of the contract, you can divorce him and take him to the cleaners 
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I didn't say you were......I was just saying we had a great sex life right up until the end..... Sorry, my mistake. Divorce or simply breaking up with a long term significant other is terribly painful. Hopefully you took away some pleasant memories and learned some life lessons. I did three lovely children, a great friendship, and a new wife (my husbands new wife and stepmother to my children)......at first he made it difficult because I decided to end the marriage, but it was best for us both.....and the children have more people to love them then before.....my oldest is having a child in May....a boy...so grandparents we become now Congrats grandma 
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what a hell , who will sign this kind of contract , sex twice a week , men likes to do sex twice a day , how can man live without sex for 5 days... this is bull **** ............
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I don't believe in a sex contract - that's just stoopid!
If she didn't want to have sex at least daily I would not even be dating her!! After marriage, it would be whenever either of us wanted to have sex. And if the frequency dropped off then it would just signal a little less interest or relationship troubles. |
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People change, $hit happens...life happens.
Asking for a promise, to avert a potential situation down the road is just silly. Love asks nothing, no demands, no expectations, no promises, it just IS! This is the biggest problems in relationships, we ask from each other what love would never ask....then wonder why things didn't work out. |
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Maybe..but what's wrong with a guy making it clear that sex is important to him in a relationship. Sex is important to guys? Like really, really important? Who knew! *sarcasm* Speaking in general terms, women already know that sex is of the utmost importance to most men, and men should realize that women already understand that it's very important to them. There's no newsflash here, folks. That said, any man who needs a contract on it has a screw loose somewhere. HUGE ol' red flag of things to come. |
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The woman should want to have sex she shouldn't have to sign a contract? I've told my Girlfreinds if they don't have sex with me I'll go someplace else to get it.
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what a hell , who will sign this kind of contract , sex twice a week , men likes to do sex twice a day , how can man live without sex for 5 days... this is bull **** ............ It usually helps if you read the message from the beginning...that isn't what it is say... |
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After marriage, it would be whenever either of us wanted to have sex. And if the frequency dropped off then it would just signal a little less interest or relationship troubles. I don't disagree with this. |
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I know that statistically, women tend to lose interest in sex more than men that is why in principle I object to the contract but not to the message behind it. I dont think you see the message at all. The message says that he expects her to lose interest in sex with him at some point....he expects her to not consent to sex. He is trying to make a contract so that he can forgo her consent. Do you see what that means? I can see where you would think that he expexts her to loose interest - in my mind, this is based on his previous relationships..I can also see how someone would think that he is trying to make her forgo consent..We are just going to have to agree to disagree...I don't see 'that' at all. I guess it just boils down to interpretation.. |
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Maybe..but what's wrong with a guy making it clear that sex is important to him in a relationship. Sex is important to guys? Like really, really important? Who knew! *sarcasm* Speaking in general terms, women already know that sex is of the utmost importance to most men, and men should realize that women already understand that it's very important to them. There's no newsflash here, folks. That said, any man who needs a contract on it has a screw loose somewhere. HUGE ol' red flag of things to come. Can't say that I disagree with this either. |
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People change, $hit happens...life happens. Asking for a promise, to avert a potential situation down the road is just silly. Love asks nothing, no demands, no expectations, no promises, it just IS! This is the biggest problems in relationships, we ask from each other what love would never ask....then wonder why things didn't work out. Very true.. |
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No way. lol. I would never be in a reationship that involved a contract. I find it quite degrading. We're humans with feelings, not toys. I think making love should come naturally. Instead of being forced to feel it. I would think any relationship involving such a contract, isn't real love. Sounds like an excuse to have a sex slave, to me. I know that I’ve leaving myself open for a grilling by the ‘sisterhood’ but I don’t think that the contract is degrading women. IMO, there’s nothing wrong with a guy saying that sex is important in a relationship and that he’s not willing to remain in a sexless relationship. Maybe he could have found a better way of saying it but I personally don’t have a problem with honesty. In the here and now, I don't think I could be in a sexless relationship! Honesty is great, as is sex. I wouldn't want to be in a sexless relationship, either. But, a contract would be forcing sex and that's not a good thing. |
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The woman should want to have sex she shouldn't have to sign a contract? I've told my Girlfreinds if they don't have sex with me I'll go someplace else to get it. I'm torn between outrage and admiration for your honesty
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His marriage and last relationship ended because both women lost interest in sex. why..... he should work on that Playing devil's advocate...why should HE work on it..he doesn't have a problem with his sex drive! Oh, but there's so much more to great sex than just a high sex drive. I agree but I said sex drive...not high sex drive!
And I'm just saying perhaps there were other issues that were going on which caused the lack of sex. Making a woman sign a contract to have sex twice a week would be a huge red flag as to problems that may happen in the future. Maybe..but what's wrong with a guy making it clear that sex is important to him in a relationship. I know how I would feel if I met a guy and he said...sex is really important to me and if at any time, you lost interest, I would try and work through those issues with you but if it meant that we no longer had a sex life, then I would end the relationship. I don't think I'd be thanking him for his honesty...
I never once said there's anything wrong with making it clear that sex is important. |
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sun 01/29/12 08:56 AM
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I know that statistically, women tend to lose interest in sex more than men that is why in principle I object to the contract but not to the message behind it. I dont think you see the message at all. The message says that he expects her to lose interest in sex with him at some point....he expects her to not consent to sex. He is trying to make a contract so that he can forgo her consent. Do you see what that means? I can see where you would think that he expexts her to loose interest - in my mind, this is based on his previous relationships..I can also see how someone would think that he is trying to make her forgo consent..We are just going to have to agree to disagree...I don't see 'that' at all. I guess it just boils down to interpretation.. In the United States he would go to jail for that (forgoing consent) |
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No way. lol. I would never be in a reationship that involved a contract. I find it quite degrading. We're humans with feelings, not toys. I think making love should come naturally. Instead of being forced to feel it. I would think any relationship involving such a contract, isn't real love. Sounds like an excuse to have a sex slave, to me. I know that I’ve leaving myself open for a grilling by the ‘sisterhood’ but I don’t think that the contract is degrading women. IMO, there’s nothing wrong with a guy saying that sex is important in a relationship and that he’s not willing to remain in a sexless relationship. Maybe he could have found a better way of saying it but I personally don’t have a problem with honesty. In the here and now, I don't think I could be in a sexless relationship! Honesty is great, as is sex. I wouldn't want to be in a sexless relationship, either. But, a contract would be forcing sex and that's not a good thing. I agree. I don't think that a contract to regulate the frequency of sex is a good thing either but I do understand where he is coming. from. |
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sun 01/29/12 09:06 AM
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No way. lol. I would never be in a reationship that involved a contract. I find it quite degrading. We're humans with feelings, not toys. I think making love should come naturally. Instead of being forced to feel it. I would think any relationship involving such a contract, isn't real love. Sounds like an excuse to have a sex slave, to me. I know that I’ve leaving myself open for a grilling by the ‘sisterhood’ but I don’t think that the contract is degrading women. IMO, there’s nothing wrong with a guy saying that sex is important in a relationship and that he’s not willing to remain in a sexless relationship. Maybe he could have found a better way of saying it but I personally don’t have a problem with honesty. In the here and now, I don't think I could be in a sexless relationship! Honesty is great, as is sex. I wouldn't want to be in a sexless relationship, either. But, a contract would be forcing sex and that's not a good thing. I agree. I don't think that a contract to regulate the frequency of sex is a good thing either but I do understand where he is coming. from. and I don't at all - having been in a long term marriage - where sex really wasn not one of the issues, and a 5 tr on & off again relationship where sex was an issue for me (he was clueless), and having had a couple of other shorter term boyfriends....I definitely think it's him - something he is doing...especially if it's been more than one woman. so I have absolutely no sympathy...sorry - doesn't mean I don't wish him the best - but with that attitude (he is "owed" sex) and an apparent lack of skills for keeping her interested LT, he doesn't sound like much of a prospect.... |
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I know that statistically, women tend to lose interest in sex more than men that is why in principle I object to the contract but not to the message behind it. I dont think you see the message at all. The message says that he expects her to lose interest in sex with him at some point....he expects her to not consent to sex. He is trying to make a contract so that he can forgo her consent. Do you see what that means? I can see where you would think that he expexts her to loose interest - in my mind, this is based on his previous relationships..I can also see how someone would think that he is trying to make her forgo consent..We are just going to have to agree to disagree...I don't see 'that' at all. I guess it just boils down to interpretation.. In the United States he would go to jail for that (forgoing consent) Not just in the US..I was disagreeing with klc's interpretation not justifying rape. |
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Why do I get the feeling drawing up contracts reminds me of arranged marriages? Just get that vibe.
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