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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sat 01/28/12 04:34 PM
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As much as i hate to say it, women are always being degraded. Whether it's the media doing that, or the porn industry. I think women have basically had enough of feeling like they have to be a energiser bunny. Nobody ever talks about it. With some men, they're like "Oh, if a woman doesn't sleep with me on the first night meet her, i dump her". I just wish women WOULD talk about it more. Not saying men never feel degraded. Just that it happens with women moreso. Ignore me, i'm just ranting. lol. Maybe we meet completely different kinds of men. I don't feel degraded. I don't meet men who tell me that if I don't sleep with them on the first night that things won't go any farther. I guess you are lucky. I meet guys whose first question is what kind of sex positons do you like; how often do you like sex; etc. I do feel degraded when asked those questions. For once; I would like to meet a guy that doesn't use sex as his main subject. Oh wait; I have met men like this but these are just my good friends. and who also understood the importance of the relationship OUTSIDE of the the bedroom and how that can affect what happens in the bedroom (or where ever we were doing it that day....  )
also just as quick postscript- both males and females can have a sexual dysfunction but that makes up a very small percentage of men & women there are plenty who are also just bored with each other |
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It seems to me that perhaps you might consider that statistics are a huge turn off Really? Then I feel sorry for statisticians and pollsters. Poor guys must never get laid. AND any man who is part of a couple who blames his spouse for her "lack of a sex drive" needs to examine his own ability to please her So the problem is always in his ability to please her in bed? Not according to the statistics (sorry, I know you just got turned off by me mentioning statistics). It seems a bit unreasonable to reject the statistics simply because they are a "huge turn off". You seem to not care if they are accurate, just that you don't like hearing them. |
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Female Sexual Dysfunction: Evaluation and Treatment Estimates of the number of women who have sexual dysfunction range from 19 to 50 percent in “normal” outpatient populations3–6 and increase to 68 to 75 percent when sexual dissatisfaction or problems (not dysfunctional in nature) are included.5,7 Yet, one review of physicians' chart notes revealed a recorded sexual problem in only 2 percent.5 In another review, physician inquiry of patients in a gynecologic office setting about sexual problems increased reported complaints about sexual dysfunction sixfold.3 This discrepancy demonstrates a need for physician education in this area. Maybe you ladies were all lucky enough to be born with a healthy sex drive, but 19-50 percent of women weren't. Yes, sexual dissatisfaction ups that number to 68-75%, but 50% is nothing to sneeze at. Unless you ladies have been spending a lot of time dating and having sex with other women, it seems to me that men would have a better perspective on this. I was married to my husband for sixteen years and our marriage dissolution had nothing to do with our sex life. |
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Okay, fine. I'll sign the contract. But, it has to be upped to 3 times a week. And, if he doesn't put out then I want monetary compensation!
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It seems to me that perhaps you might consider that statistics are a huge turn off Really? Then I feel sorry for statisticians and pollsters. Poor guys must never get laid. AND any man who is part of a couple who blames his spouse for her "lack of a sex drive" needs to examine his own ability to please her So the problem is always in his ability to please her in bed? Not according to the statistics (sorry, I know you just got turned off by me mentioning statistics). It seems a bit unreasonable to reject the statistics simply because they are a "huge turn off". You seem to not care if they are accurate, just that you don't like hearing them. this isn't about lesbians and yes it is often his inability to please her and when a man has difficulty getting a woman to continue a sexual relationship with him that is generally why and if he is smart he will learn how to please her if he doesn't she will assume eventually that it is because he does not care enough to learn (only cares for his pleasure) as she should also learn to please him this is why taboos and negative thinking about sex can be so damaging I think it is foolish to bring statistics up because you can prove about anything you want with them if you find someone who will actaully believe them. Personal expereince and the expereinces of friends are more meaningful and that is what I refer to for my opinions here. There are a myriad of reasons why stats in sexual research are extremely flawed |
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Female Sexual Dysfunction: Evaluation and Treatment Estimates of the number of women who have sexual dysfunction range from 19 to 50 percent in “normal” outpatient populations3–6 and increase to 68 to 75 percent when sexual dissatisfaction or problems (not dysfunctional in nature) are included.5,7 Yet, one review of physicians' chart notes revealed a recorded sexual problem in only 2 percent.5 In another review, physician inquiry of patients in a gynecologic office setting about sexual problems increased reported complaints about sexual dysfunction sixfold.3 This discrepancy demonstrates a need for physician education in this area. Maybe you ladies were all lucky enough to be born with a healthy sex drive, but 19-50 percent of women weren't. Yes, sexual dissatisfaction ups that number to 68-75%, but 50% is nothing to sneeze at. Unless you ladies have been spending a lot of time dating and having sex with other women, it seems to me that men would have a better perspective on this. There are many reasons a woman will say no to sex. Most of the time it has nothing to do with a dysfunction. It could be she is tired..or feeling unappreciated...or stressed..or she just doesn't want to (the list goes on). Just because a guy is ready to jump into her pants and she says no it falls under that? No. |
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Female Sexual Dysfunction: Evaluation and Treatment Estimates of the number of women who have sexual dysfunction range from 19 to 50 percent in “normal” outpatient populations3–6 and increase to 68 to 75 percent when sexual dissatisfaction or problems (not dysfunctional in nature) are included.5,7 Yet, one review of physicians' chart notes revealed a recorded sexual problem in only 2 percent.5 In another review, physician inquiry of patients in a gynecologic office setting about sexual problems increased reported complaints about sexual dysfunction sixfold.3 This discrepancy demonstrates a need for physician education in this area. Maybe you ladies were all lucky enough to be born with a healthy sex drive, but 19-50 percent of women weren't. Yes, sexual dissatisfaction ups that number to 68-75%, but 50% is nothing to sneeze at. Unless you ladies have been spending a lot of time dating and having sex with other women, it seems to me that men would have a better perspective on this. I was married to my husband for sixteen years and our marriage dissolution had nothing to do with our sex life. ...I wasn't commenting of divorce or blaming a lack of sex drive for divorces. Just read my post, don't try to imagine what else I am thinking. Look through the thread at all of the women saying that "if the sex is good, there will be plenty of it". Sorry, but that's not true. There are lots of reasons why women lose their sex drive that has nothing to do with their partner's performance. Medications, low testosterone levels, stress, etc. Sometimes the lack of sex is due to the behavior of the partner, but there isn't a 1:1 relationship between "lack of sex drive" and "lousy lover". |
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Female Sexual Dysfunction: Evaluation and Treatment Estimates of the number of women who have sexual dysfunction range from 19 to 50 percent in “normal” outpatient populations3–6 and increase to 68 to 75 percent when sexual dissatisfaction or problems (not dysfunctional in nature) are included.5,7 Yet, one review of physicians' chart notes revealed a recorded sexual problem in only 2 percent.5 In another review, physician inquiry of patients in a gynecologic office setting about sexual problems increased reported complaints about sexual dysfunction sixfold.3 This discrepancy demonstrates a need for physician education in this area. Maybe you ladies were all lucky enough to be born with a healthy sex drive, but 19-50 percent of women weren't. Yes, sexual dissatisfaction ups that number to 68-75%, but 50% is nothing to sneeze at. Unless you ladies have been spending a lot of time dating and having sex with other women, it seems to me that men would have a better perspective on this. There are many reasons a woman will say no to sex. Most of the time it has nothing to do with a dysfunction. It could be she is tired..or feeling unappreciated...or stressed..or she just doesn't want to (the list goes on). Just because a guy is ready to jump into her pants and she says no it falls under that? No. Oh, another woman who disagrees with the facts. Color me surprised. At least you admit that a lack of sex drive is occasionally not the man's fault. |
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Female Sexual Dysfunction: Evaluation and Treatment Estimates of the number of women who have sexual dysfunction range from 19 to 50 percent in “normal” outpatient populations3–6 and increase to 68 to 75 percent when sexual dissatisfaction or problems (not dysfunctional in nature) are included.5,7 Yet, one review of physicians' chart notes revealed a recorded sexual problem in only 2 percent.5 In another review, physician inquiry of patients in a gynecologic office setting about sexual problems increased reported complaints about sexual dysfunction sixfold.3 This discrepancy demonstrates a need for physician education in this area. Maybe you ladies were all lucky enough to be born with a healthy sex drive, but 19-50 percent of women weren't. Yes, sexual dissatisfaction ups that number to 68-75%, but 50% is nothing to sneeze at. Unless you ladies have been spending a lot of time dating and having sex with other women, it seems to me that men would have a better perspective on this. I was married to my husband for sixteen years and our marriage dissolution had nothing to do with our sex life. ...I wasn't commenting of divorce or blaming a lack of sex drive for divorces. Just read my post, don't try to imagine what else I am thinking. Look through the thread at all of the women saying that "if the sex is good, there will be plenty of it". Sorry, but that's not true. There are lots of reasons why women lose their sex drive that has nothing to do with their partner's performance. Medications, low testosterone levels, stress, etc. Sometimes the lack of sex is due to the behavior of the partner, but there isn't a 1:1 relationship between "lack of sex drive" and "lousy lover". I think the learning to read would be good advice as I never mentioned divorce nor have I imagined what u are thinking - I doubt I could EVER imagine that as usually you make no sense to me - it has EVERYTHING to do with his (in)ability to please her and there is no such thing as a "performance" in sex so my suggestion is perhaps you learn a bit about sex - somewhere have a good evening - no worries from me - I won't assume anything about how u think 
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Female Sexual Dysfunction: Evaluation and Treatment Estimates of the number of women who have sexual dysfunction range from 19 to 50 percent in “normal” outpatient populations3–6 and increase to 68 to 75 percent when sexual dissatisfaction or problems (not dysfunctional in nature) are included.5,7 Yet, one review of physicians' chart notes revealed a recorded sexual problem in only 2 percent.5 In another review, physician inquiry of patients in a gynecologic office setting about sexual problems increased reported complaints about sexual dysfunction sixfold.3 This discrepancy demonstrates a need for physician education in this area. Maybe you ladies were all lucky enough to be born with a healthy sex drive, but 19-50 percent of women weren't. Yes, sexual dissatisfaction ups that number to 68-75%, but 50% is nothing to sneeze at. Unless you ladies have been spending a lot of time dating and having sex with other women, it seems to me that men would have a better perspective on this. I was married to my husband for sixteen years and our marriage dissolution had nothing to do with our sex life. ...I wasn't commenting of divorce or blaming a lack of sex drive for divorces. Just read my post, don't try to imagine what else I am thinking. Look through the thread at all of the women saying that "if the sex is good, there will be plenty of it". Sorry, but that's not true. There are lots of reasons why women lose their sex drive that has nothing to do with their partner's performance. Medications, low testosterone levels, stress, etc. Sometimes the lack of sex is due to the behavior of the partner, but there isn't a 1:1 relationship between "lack of sex drive" and "lousy lover". I didn't say you were......I was just saying we had a great sex life right up until the end..... |
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I think the learning to read would be good advice as I never mentioned divorce Oh the irony. Thank you, it's delicious. nor have I imagined what u are thinking - I doubt I could EVER imagine that as usually you make no sense to me Once again, color me surprised. - it has EVERYTHING to do with his (in)ability to please her Science, medicine and psychology be damned!
and there is no such thing as a "performance" in sex According to every other single organism on that planet that reproduces through sex, there is. so my suggestion is perhaps you learn a bit about sex - somewhere Is this a come on? have a good evening - no worries from me - I won't assume anything about how u think
Great to hear. Maybe next time you could read the post and see that I'm replying to another person? Mmmkay? Thanks. |
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I didn't say you were......I was just saying we had a great sex life right up until the end..... Sorry, my mistake. Divorce or simply breaking up with a long term significant other is terribly painful. Hopefully you took away some pleasant memories and learned some life lessons. |
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I didn't say you were......I was just saying we had a great sex life right up until the end..... Sorry, my mistake. Divorce or simply breaking up with a long term significant other is terribly painful. Hopefully you took away some pleasant memories and learned some life lessons. I have no idea what u are talking about but thank you I think I have had something positive from all my relationships - regardless of who ended it - and wish them well |
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I didn't say you were......I was just saying we had a great sex life right up until the end..... Sorry, my mistake. Divorce or simply breaking up with a long term significant other is terribly painful. Hopefully you took away some pleasant memories and learned some life lessons. I have no idea what u are talking about but thank you I think I have had something positive from all my relationships - regardless of who ended it - and wish them well I now know why you said "usually you make no sense to me ". I was replying to Seakolony. I quoted her post. I wasn't talking to you. That's twice that I've written a reply to her, clearly quoted what she typed and you decided I was replying to you. What was it you said...oh yeah: "I think the learning to read would be good advice". |
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Female Sexual Dysfunction: Evaluation and Treatment Estimates of the number of women who have sexual dysfunction range from 19 to 50 percent in “normal” outpatient populations3–6 and increase to 68 to 75 percent when sexual dissatisfaction or problems (not dysfunctional in nature) are included.5,7 Yet, one review of physicians' chart notes revealed a recorded sexual problem in only 2 percent.5 In another review, physician inquiry of patients in a gynecologic office setting about sexual problems increased reported complaints about sexual dysfunction sixfold.3 This discrepancy demonstrates a need for physician education in this area. Maybe you ladies were all lucky enough to be born with a healthy sex drive, but 19-50 percent of women weren't. Yes, sexual dissatisfaction ups that number to 68-75%, but 50% is nothing to sneeze at. Unless you ladies have been spending a lot of time dating and having sex with other women, it seems to me that men would have a better perspective on this. If you meet a lot of women like this, that sucks. That doesn't mean you should assume most women fall into this category, though. I don't think men need to speak for women on why they're losing interest in sex. Try asking those women instead. |
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His marriage and last relationship ended because both women lost interest in sex. He says he wants an undertaking that before he marries any woman, they would have to agree to have sex at least twice a week, unless one of us is ill or away. Would you sign a contract that states you have to have sex/make love to your partner twice a week? I have a dilemma with this because I wouldn't sign a contract like this if it was a condition of him marrying me and in principle, I object to a contract that would effectively take away the spontaneity...I also don’t think sex and how often it occurs can be legislated by a contract....IDK...I kinda disagree but agree in a weird way. ..that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard of. I'd smack the chit out of her with that paper and leave. However, may be different on the flip side, but if a woman brings that to me? lmao I'm down 24/7. Just let me know when, where, and if I should bring some KY. I'll bang you so hard when you have a child, that child will already be pregnant. Cause that's how I roll. |
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It seems to me that perhaps you might consider that statistics are a huge turn off Really? Then I feel sorry for statisticians and pollsters. Poor guys must never get laid. AND any man who is part of a couple who blames his spouse for her "lack of a sex drive" needs to examine his own ability to please her So the problem is always in his ability to please her in bed? Not according to the statistics (sorry, I know you just got turned off by me mentioning statistics). It seems a bit unreasonable to reject the statistics simply because they are a "huge turn off". You seem to not care if they are accurate, just that you don't like hearing them. this isn't about lesbians and yes it is often his inability to please her and when a man has difficulty getting a woman to continue a sexual relationship with him that is generally why and if he is smart he will learn how to please her if he doesn't she will assume eventually that it is because he does not care enough to learn (only cares for his pleasure) as she should also learn to please him this is why taboos and negative thinking about sex can be so damaging I think it is foolish to bring statistics up because you can prove about anything you want with them if you find someone who will actaully believe them. Personal expereince and the expereinces of friends are more meaningful and that is what I refer to for my opinions here. There are a myriad of reasons why stats in sexual research are extremely flawed I also think it's in the woman's best interest to discuss these issues with the guy. Bring up ways that will make sex better. Let him know exactly what she likes. If she doesn't speak up, he may assume that things are ok. |
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I didn't say you were......I was just saying we had a great sex life right up until the end..... Sorry, my mistake. Divorce or simply breaking up with a long term significant other is terribly painful. Hopefully you took away some pleasant memories and learned some life lessons. I did three lovely children, a great friendship, and a new wife (my husbands new wife and stepmother to my children)......at first he made it difficult because I decided to end the marriage, but it was best for us both.....and the children have more people to love them then before.....my oldest is having a child in May....a boy...so grandparents we become now |
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I think the learning to read would be good advice as I never mentioned divorce Oh the irony. Thank you, it's delicious. nor have I imagined what u are thinking - I doubt I could EVER imagine that as usually you make no sense to me Once again, color me surprised. - it has EVERYTHING to do with his (in)ability to please her Science, medicine and psychology be damned!
and there is no such thing as a "performance" in sex According to every other single organism on that planet that reproduces through sex, there is. so my suggestion is perhaps you learn a bit about sex - somewhere Is this a come on? have a good evening - no worries from me - I won't assume anything about how u think
Great to hear. Maybe next time you could read the post and see that I'm replying to another person? Mmmkay? Thanks. no it will never be a come on  no worries
it was advice go head and believe what u will I tend to trust my expereince over that of experts - and I know how men are - I;ve been around them all my life it's not that some women can't also be selfish, but the OP was about a man sorry I replied to the wrong post - I am kinda busy - ripping a bunch of music and making beef stew so no I didn't read the whole thread- I seldom do it's seldom worth it I will just be sure to not respond to you again, my mistake BUT any man (anyone) who thinks sex involves a "performance" is sorely mistaken and not someone I want to discuss sex with anyway 
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Female Sexual Dysfunction: Evaluation and Treatment Estimates of the number of women who have sexual dysfunction range from 19 to 50 percent in “normal” outpatient populations3–6 and increase to 68 to 75 percent when sexual dissatisfaction or problems (not dysfunctional in nature) are included.5,7 Yet, one review of physicians' chart notes revealed a recorded sexual problem in only 2 percent.5 In another review, physician inquiry of patients in a gynecologic office setting about sexual problems increased reported complaints about sexual dysfunction sixfold.3 This discrepancy demonstrates a need for physician education in this area. Maybe you ladies were all lucky enough to be born with a healthy sex drive, but 19-50 percent of women weren't. Yes, sexual dissatisfaction ups that number to 68-75%, but 50% is nothing to sneeze at. Unless you ladies have been spending a lot of time dating and having sex with other women, it seems to me that men would have a better perspective on this. If you meet a lot of women like this, that sucks. That doesn't mean you should assume most women fall into this category, though. I don't think men need to speak for women on why they're losing interest in sex. Try asking those women instead. 
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