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Topic: Twice Weekly Sex Contract...Would You Sign One?
InvictusV Joined Sun 11/23/08 Posts: 5282	Sun 01/29/12 11:44 AM
It isn't the strangest thing I've heard of. I know a woman that requires a financial disclosure statement and does a criminal background check before she goes on a first date..

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 01/29/12 11:54 AM Edited by singmesweet on Sun 01/29/12 11:56 AM
It isn't the strangest thing I've heard of. I know a woman that requires a financial disclosure statement and does a criminal background check before she goes on a first date.. Maybe she and the contract guy can hook up. Nothing like a little paranoia to start out with in a relationship.

InvictusV Joined Sun 11/23/08 Posts: 5282	Sun 01/29/12 12:00 PM
It isn't the strangest thing I've heard of. I know a woman that requires a financial disclosure statement and does a criminal background check before she goes on a first date.. Maybe she and the contract guy can hook up. Nothing like a little paranoia to start out with in a relationship. I'll email her the link..

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 01/29/12 12:01 PM


42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 01/29/12 01:03 PM
lucky its not me it would be lackluster sex 4x a week And I'm sure she'll be walking bow legged with a big smile on her face

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 01/29/12 01:06 PM
It isn't the strangest thing I've heard of. I know a woman that requires a financial disclosure statement and does a criminal background check before she goes on a first date.. WOW...all that for a first date! Makes you wonder whether she'd require a full health screening before consenting to a good night kiss

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 01/29/12 01:11 PM
I don't disagree with you. I just looked at it from the perspective that some couples when in relationships don't always communicate especially when it comes to sex (or bad sex). I just think maybe he needed a means to communicate and came up with a stupid contract. A contract isn't going to help him communicate when it comes to sex, though. So rather than having to communicate, he wants to tell her that she must have sex with him twice a week no matter what. You never know...weirder things have happended. If you think about the ridiculousness of the contract, I doubt that it would be legally enforceable so why else would someone even think about having a contract like this if not for another purpose?

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Sun 01/29/12 01:12 PM
lucky its not me it would be lackluster sex 4x a week And I'm sure she'll be walking bow legged with a big smile on her face lackluster mean ill get off but it will suck for her

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Sun 01/29/12 01:16 PM Edited by markc48 on Sun 01/29/12 01:16 PM
His marriage and last relationship ended because both women lost interest in sex. He says he wants an undertaking that before he marries any woman, they would have to agree to have sex at least twice a week, unless one of us is ill or away. Would you sign a contract that states you have to have sex/make love to your partner twice a week? I have a dilemma with this because I wouldn't sign a contract like this if it was a condition of him marrying me and in principle, I object to a contract that would effectively take away the spontaneity...I also don’t think sex and how often it occurs can be legislated by a contract....IDK...I kinda disagree but agree in a weird way. What would I do on the other 5 days

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 01/29/12 01:24 PM
lucky its not me it would be lackluster sex 4x a week And I'm sure she'll be walking bow legged with a big smile on her face lackluster mean ill get off but it will suck for her I'll think twice about thinking that you're some sort of sex god in future

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 01/29/12 01:24 PM
His marriage and last relationship ended because both women lost interest in sex. He says he wants an undertaking that before he marries any woman, they would have to agree to have sex at least twice a week, unless one of us is ill or away. Would you sign a contract that states you have to have sex/make love to your partner twice a week? I have a dilemma with this because I wouldn't sign a contract like this if it was a condition of him marrying me and in principle, I object to a contract that would effectively take away the spontaneity...I also don’t think sex and how often it occurs can be legislated by a contract....IDK...I kinda disagree but agree in a weird way. What would I do on the other 5 days Have more sex..the contract stated a minimum of two days a week. If they wanted to have more sex, they could.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 01/29/12 01:26 PM
I don't disagree with you. I just looked at it from the perspective that some couples when in relationships don't always communicate especially when it comes to sex (or bad sex). I just think maybe he needed a means to communicate and came up with a stupid contract. A contract isn't going to help him communicate when it comes to sex, though. So rather than having to communicate, he wants to tell her that she must have sex with him twice a week no matter what. You never know...weirder things have happended. If you think about the ridiculousness of the contract, I doubt that it would be legally enforceable so why else would someone even think about having a contract like this if not for another purpose? You're right. It is ridiculous. I'm not sure what you meant past that, though.

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Sun 01/29/12 01:29 PM
lucky its not me it would be lackluster sex 4x a week And I'm sure she'll be walking bow legged with a big smile on her face lackluster mean ill get off but it will suck for her I'll think twice about thinking that you're some sort of sex god in future cmon im on a roll lately

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 01/29/12 01:30 PM
I don't disagree with you. I just looked at it from the perspective that some couples when in relationships don't always communicate especially when it comes to sex (or bad sex). I just think maybe he needed a means to communicate and came up with a stupid contract. A contract isn't going to help him communicate when it comes to sex, though. So rather than having to communicate, he wants to tell her that she must have sex with him twice a week no matter what. You never know...weirder things have happended. If you think about the ridiculousness of the contract, I doubt that it would be legally enforceable so why else would someone even think about having a contract like this if not for another purpose? You're right. It is ridiculous. I'm not sure what you meant past that, though. I was going back to my 'other means of communication' thing. I don't think a contract of this nature would be legally enforceable in the same way that a pre-nup is so why have one in the first place if it didn't serve another purpose i.e. as a way to discuss any problems with their sex life.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 01/29/12 01:38 PM Edited by singmesweet on Sun 01/29/12 01:39 PM
Why not just discuss things rather than have a contract? It just seems like a sign of problems in the future. Especially if it's because of two failed relationships he's already had.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 01/29/12 01:40 PM
Why not just discuss things rather than have a contract? It just seems like a sign of problems in the future. Especially if it's because of two failed relationships he's already had. The guy wants to introduce a contract...does that not scream that he has issues

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 01/29/12 02:06 PM
Right. That's what I've been saying. Glad we agree on the issue.