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its the lack of compassion from a desensatized humanity that allows judgement of those who find themselves in despair and hoplessness... only way to combat it is to offer kindness whenever possible.. The problem there lies in we think of ourselves first before offering kidness to others. The proof of that is the greed that we see at Christmas time. It truly puts me off on Christmas as people are so busy spending thousands of dollars on others of the hope of getting something in return that we forgot those less fortunate and even more so forget basic manners of being kind to one another. At least in my mind..No one will ever make me think about Christmas differently,,it IS,,simply a time for the WORLD,,to really care about another,,if not in helping them,,then in simply showing them,,YOU CARE..I live everyday, like this,,even IF,,I had a bad day..  And I'm NOT saying I'm special,,just REAL,with who I am... I try to pass that on as often asI get that chance to do.. I really wish more people think like you. I know of people that say not to buy them gifts as they would rather give than recieve but; you feel guilty so you are obliged to buy gifts for the person eventhough you are financially strapped for cash. Also; I have heard other people bashing someone that didn't buy them a gift after they bought them one. This is why I have done away with the buying of the gifts. Instead; I help out charities or help my friends and family out. Can't put a price tag on that. We do this year round so no need to really express this at Christmas. I am not here to change how you think about Christmas as that is entirely your choice but greed and gluteny has ruined it for me. I saw three fights over parking spaces in malls with name calling and the flipping of the middle finger. That is what you called Christmas spirit? |
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its the lack of compassion from a desensatized humanity that allows judgement of those who find themselves in despair and hoplessness... only way to combat it is to offer kindness whenever possible.. The problem there lies in we think of ourselves first before offering kidness to others. The proof of that is the greed that we see at Christmas time. It truly puts me off on Christmas as people are so busy spending thousands of dollars on others of the hope of getting something in return that we forgot those less fortunate and even more so forget basic manners of being kind to one another. At least in my mind..No one will ever make me think about Christmas differently,,it IS,,simply a time for the WORLD,,to really care about another,,if not in helping them,,then in simply showing them,,YOU CARE..I live everyday, like this,,even IF,,I had a bad day.. And I'm NOT saying I'm special,,just REAL,with who I am... I try to pass that on as often asI get that chance to do.. Gathering what you are saying, I'm glad to see there are at least two of us that are selfless the other 364 days out of the year. To me, Xmas is a commercialized spend-a-thon. Thats my take on this time and that feeling...BUT,,many who have MONEY in their hearts,,MISS this so SPECIAL GIFT!!! There are way worse things in life than being single at Christmas. My only thoughts about Christmas are for the homeless rather than feeling sorry for myself being alone. Those people truly have nothing and are also lonely. |
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Many people this Christmas,,CAN'T buy FOOD,,let alone gifts,,their beside themselves with fears and worries as to where their going to live or stay when their unemployment runs out at the end of this Month for THOUSANDS,,and already has ran out for many,many more than THAT...Its a Christmas that they will feel,know,and cry over,,many times in their lives as their children grow through these hard times,,and FAMILY LOVE,,is all they have to give each other,,YET "THAT" will feel their spirits and souls for their life-time
I have three plants I go into who have cut back workers,,and one looks like MOST of their workers shall be cut soon,,ITS A VERY HARD TIME NOW,,for the whole USA,,and IF,,the euro falls,,so shall Wall Street,AGAIN drop off the charts,,and MORE will be in this depression others are living in.. SO,,I smile,,joke,cry,and shake hands and give out,,MERRY CHRISTMAS's to them,,as some of their stories told to me,,make tears run down my face,,after I leave and drive away..BUT,,THIS IS CHRISTMAS TIME and SOME still know it as that and can still feel GOOD,,through all the misery,,for if NOT for that XMAS CHEER,,and the SMILES,, WHAT would there be to SHOW one another that LOVE and BEING HUMAN is STILL VERY MUCH ALIVE in this Country to feel... FOOD BANKS NEED FOOD and MONEY,,PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW SOMEONE CARES. My family is still holding there own,,but my son's job as a cop now,,worries me of his safety,,so I Pray and hope,,for all this life and its people to pull together and lift who needs raised,,and hug who needs to feel the love,,and heart for all of us to make life better. I know,,I write to damn much,,lol sorry |
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Many people this Christmas,,CAN'T buy FOOD,,let alone gifts,,their beside themselves with fears and worries as to where their going to live or stay when their unemployment runs out at the end of this Month for THOUSANDS,,and already has ran out for many,many more than THAT...Its a Christmas that they will feel,know,and cry over,,many times in their lives as their children grow through these hard times,,and FAMILY LOVE,,is all they have to give each other,,YET "THAT" will feel their spirits and souls for their life-time I have three plants I go into who have cut back workers,,and one looks like MOST of their workers shall be cut soon,,ITS A VERY HARD TIME NOW,,for the whole USA,,and IF,,the euro falls,,so shall Wall Street,AGAIN drop off the charts,,and MORE will be in this depression others are living in.. SO,,I smile,,joke,cry,and shake hands and give out,,MERRY CHRISTMAS's to them,,as some of their stories told to me,,make tears run down my face,,after I leave and drive away..BUT,,THIS IS CHRISTMAS TIME and SOME still know it as that and can still feel GOOD,,through all the misery,,for if NOT for that XMAS CHEER,,and the SMILES,, WHAT would there be to SHOW one another that LOVE and BEING HUMAN is STILL VERY MUCH ALIVE in this Country to feel... FOOD BANKS NEED FOOD and MONEY,,PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW SOMEONE CARES. My family is still holding there own,,but my son's job as a cop now,,worries me of his safety,,so I Pray and hope,,for all this life and its people to pull together and lift who needs raised,,and hug who needs to feel the love,,and heart for all of us to make life better. I know,,I write to damn much,,lol sorry You don't write too much; just expressing yourself as all of us do. I already got laid off during the first recession so I am nervous about the next fall. This is why I don't understand how people can run out and run up a laod of debt no knowing if they will have a job in the New year. |
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its the lack of compassion from a desensatized humanity that allows judgement of those who find themselves in despair and hoplessness... only way to combat it is to offer kindness whenever possible.. The problem there lies in we think of ourselves first before offering kidness to others. The proof of that is the greed that we see at Christmas time. It truly puts me off on Christmas as people are so busy spending thousands of dollars on others of the hope of getting something in return that we forgot those less fortunate and even more so forget basic manners of being kind to one another. At least in my mind..No one will ever make me think about Christmas differently,,it IS,,simply a time for the WORLD,,to really care about another,,if not in helping them,,then in simply showing them,,YOU CARE..I live everyday, like this,,even IF,,I had a bad day.. And I'm NOT saying I'm special,,just REAL,with who I am... I try to pass that on as often asI get that chance to do.. Gathering what you are saying, I'm glad to see there are at least two of us that are selfless the other 364 days out of the year. To me, Xmas is a commercialized spend-a-thon. Thats my take on this time and that feeling...BUT,,many who have MONEY in their hearts,,MISS this so SPECIAL GIFT!!! There are way worse things in life than being single at Christmas. My only thoughts about Christmas are for the homeless rather than feeling sorry for myself being alone. Those people truly have nothing and are also lonely. Ive been single a majority of my life. I think I only spent one xmas with someone. MY thoughts every day of the year is for others and less fortunate to be happy. Lots of families here lost their homes to the fire here in Reno a few weeks ago. Expensive homes and wealthy people, but I still went down to the shelter and offered my place for a family or two until they got on their feet again. |
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 Let me give YOU a thought here,,lol IF you knew you were losing your home,,done lost your job along with your spouse's job also left,,YOU have NOMONEY LEFT,,and BANKRUPTCY is NEXT to do,,,NOW-------------knowing the times ahead are unknown,, WOULD YOU NOT GIVE THE CRIDIT CARDS ALL YOUR THOUGHTS TO buy a CHRISTMAS for your family,,that their never forget? Because your already sure,,your beyond broke,,BUT the credits STILL there to be used.....  Because I THINK MANY are doing THIS NOW! And THATS WHY THE SPENDING IS SHOWING VERY HIGH,,,not because people HAVE IT TO BLOW,,but know,,its just a GREAT TIME NOW,,for all the bad times,,ahead to go through? At least I THINK many are doing this,,,,who knows? |
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Let me give YOU a thought here,,lol IF you knew you were losing your home,,done lost your job along with your spouse's job also left,,YOU have NOMONEY LEFT,,and BANKRUPTCY is NEXT to do,,,NOW-------------knowing the times ahead are unknown,, WOULD YOU NOT GIVE THE CRIDIT CARDS ALL YOUR THOUGHTS TO buy a CHRISTMAS for your family,,that their never forget? Because your already sure,,your beyond broke,,BUT the credits STILL there to be used..... Because I THINK MANY are doing THIS NOW! And THATS WHY THE SPENDING IS SHOWING VERY HIGH,,,not because people HAVE IT TO BLOW,,but know,,its just a GREAT TIME NOW,,for all the bad times,,ahead to go through? At least I THINK many are doing this,,,,who knows? Ch.7 is already been filed for me. After trying to struggle with my losses after Katrina. Still. It's way too much to bear. Bad times I'm going through, but not a loser by any means. I consider it a challenge that I will win in the end. I still have a smile when I get my Starbucks every morning. I look forward to going to work and put my problems on the back burner until I need to worry about them. Although, With no family and few friends IRL, I phone call is suffice enough for the people I know. They know me personally way too well to know that when I have the means, I treat them like kings and queens . |
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i think the first step in being a real compassionate person is to be impecable with your words...impecable means without sin..it means dont gossip, dont lie, dont feed the negativity of others, try to never say negative things and when others are being negative speak possitive words.
then the next step would be to quit putting assumptions on others...it allows them to be them without pressure from you.. then the next dont take things personal.. if someone is being nasty with you let them keep their poison its not yours,but it will be if you accept it:) as far as xmas goes personaly i dont feed into the hubbub of the marketing. everyday is a day to enjoy your loved ones and be kind and empithetic.. |
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Let me give YOU a thought here,,lol IF you knew you were losing your home,,done lost your job along with your spouse's job also left,,YOU have NOMONEY LEFT,,and BANKRUPTCY is NEXT to do,,,NOW-------------knowing the times ahead are unknown,, WOULD YOU NOT GIVE THE CRIDIT CARDS ALL YOUR THOUGHTS TO buy a CHRISTMAS for your family,,that their never forget? Because your already sure,,your beyond broke,,BUT the credits STILL there to be used..... Because I THINK MANY are doing THIS NOW! And THATS WHY THE SPENDING IS SHOWING VERY HIGH,,,not because people HAVE IT TO BLOW,,but know,,its just a GREAT TIME NOW,,for all the bad times,,ahead to go through? At least I THINK many are doing this,,,,who knows? Why does a nice Christmas have to be bought? Why can't I share the love and kindess with my family? Why does there always have to be a price tag attached to the "so called" Christmas spirit? |
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its the lack of compassion from a desensatized humanity that allows judgement of those who find themselves in despair and hoplessness... only way to combat it is to offer kindness whenever possible.. The problem there lies in we think of ourselves first before offering kidness to others. The proof of that is the greed that we see at Christmas time. It truly puts me off on Christmas as people are so busy spending thousands of dollars on others of the hope of getting something in return that we forgot those less fortunate and even more so forget basic manners of being kind to one another. At least in my mind..No one will ever make me think about Christmas differently,,it IS,,simply a time for the WORLD,,to really care about another,,if not in helping them,,then in simply showing them,,YOU CARE..I live everyday, like this,,even IF,,I had a bad day.. And I'm NOT saying I'm special,,just REAL,with who I am... I try to pass that on as often asI get that chance to do.. Gathering what you are saying, I'm glad to see there are at least two of us that are selfless the other 364 days out of the year. To me, Xmas is a commercialized spend-a-thon. Thats my take on this time and that feeling...BUT,,many who have MONEY in their hearts,,MISS this so SPECIAL GIFT!!! There are way worse things in life than being single at Christmas. My only thoughts about Christmas are for the homeless rather than feeling sorry for myself being alone. Those people truly have nothing and are also lonely. Ive been single a majority of my life. I think I only spent one xmas with someone. MY thoughts every day of the year is for others and less fortunate to be happy. Lots of families here lost their homes to the fire here in Reno a few weeks ago. Expensive homes and wealthy people, but I still went down to the shelter and offered my place for a family or two until they got on their feet again. That is wonderful and that is what Christmas should be about; being there for each other; helping others out; not running to the local malls and spending money. |
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i think the first step in being a real compassionate person is to be impecable with your words...impecable means without sin..it means dont gossip, dont lie, dont feed the negativity of others, try to never say negative things and when others are being negative speak possitive words. then the next step would be to quit putting assumptions on others...it allows them to be them without pressure from you.. then the next dont take things personal.. if someone is being nasty with you let them keep their poison its not yours,but it will be if you accept it:) as far as xmas goes personaly i dont feed into the hubbub of the marketing. everyday is a day to enjoy your loved ones and be kind and empithetic.. Absolutely, I treasure my friends and family year round. 
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The holidays, even as commercial as they have become, still seem to amplify the reality that Christ was not the only one of us born despite the fact that our birthparents did not plam us; or for that matter do much to nurture us or guarentee our survival; even at times seem driven to prevent it.
As a kid I used to feel bad for the baby Jesus being born on a trip to pay taxes, sleeping his first night in a cows feeding trough to parents who were evidently not doing so great themselves. I can't remember anyone saying he had siblings and didn't sound like he ever got any real job skills; hanging out with prostitues, criminals, and various other undesireables begging for food and basically being a transient up until he was betrayed by friends, tortured, and killed in a way that makes how most of us will pass seem pretty easy. Maybe it is because God is not only in the comfortable places and wanted those of us to be able to talk to him as a person who would buy what we feel and how we often live day to day. I have often wonder sometimes why the road seem so darn hard for some and others seem to have so much come to them in ease and comfort. Have to say I have mulled over the whole "merciful God" thing many times. And why I have sometimes felt like the forgotten one (watching from the outside), the one on the bottom of the heap, or the one who seems to be everyone's soft place to land then I land on the concrete. Seems like a lot of times when I am looking for someone to love, and love me, I land in the "friend zone". Them I think about it some more and I realize that for all the crap cards I have been handed in life I actually got a pretty good hand because since it wasn't so rosey I have an understanding of reality that the majority of the world actually lives with. Half the world goes to bed starving. I know what it feels like to be hungry, and that is a heck of a motivation to learn how to cook, grow a garden, and find the cheap stores; even the food banks. They say more kids are killed by their families than all other combined causes so I saw real fast that the only way to get away from my so called family was living long enough and a scholarship. One recruiter coming into our school motivated me to hit the books because anyone who reads my posts knows spelling is not my strong suit. Can you imagine my math skills? lol. So yea I dragged books around and much of my education is self taught. Amazeing what you can learn if you want to bad enough. Everyone seems to think the job market is to terrible but as a person with disabilities the militarty sent me home and I have never been given a job I didn't start out doing for free. Volunteering sounds all Polly Anna but don't kid youself if you have to have job experience and no one will give you a job you get your wheels in the door if you have to crawl in and drag them behind you. Forty years ago you had to do just that because there were no curb cuts, ramps, "short" buses, or computers. I used to wonder why if I had a disability why did I end up with kids with disabilities and then I realized that had they been "normal" their birth-father would have probably taken them (screwed them up like he did his other kids) if not any number of agencies who would have made coin off making them available for adoption. And maybe my kids did not turn out to be brain surgeons they do have wives, kids, and homes keeping the economy going. And it about killed me looseig my mate young I can not imagine trying to take care of him, which had he lived would have made him totally dependent by now, as my Dad will be before much longer. Do I always "frame" things so positive? No but you learn real fast "misery" does not want company. If a person is feeling bummed out you can pour love and sunshine over them and they are going to ignore it and tell how they feel until they get it out of their system. Don't kid yourself I have my boohoo moments. Heck I have more than moments but I have found the more you do it the harder it is to shake off. As I am getting older I think I just like the eaier road. If somone yanks my chain I really try to keep them out of my life as much as possible. It is maybe unfair but I think I have earned a time in my life where I don't have to carry anyone I don't want to. Yea once in a while I still loose a friend, and that sucks majorly so My sypmaties , but it is also why I try to keep my friends spread out as far as age, location, and interest. No one person is going to have enough variety to meet all my needs even if I actually find myself loving them. |
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The holidays, even as commercial as they have become, still seem to amplify the reality that Christ was not the only one of us born despite the fact that our birthparents did not plam us; or for that matter do much to nurture us or guarentee our survival; even at times seem driven to prevent it. As a kid I used to feel bad for the baby Jesus being born on a trip to pay taxes, sleeping his first night in a cows feeding trough to parents who were evidently not doing so great themselves. I can't remember anyone saying he had siblings and didn't sound like he ever got any real job skills; hanging out with prostitues, criminals, and various other undesireables begging for food and basically being a transient up until he was betrayed by friends, tortured, and killed in a way that makes how most of us will pass seem pretty easy. Maybe it is because God is not only in the comfortable places and wanted those of us to be able to talk to him as a person who would buy what we feel and how we often live day to day. I have often wonder sometimes why the road seem so darn hard for some and others seem to have so much come to them in ease and comfort. Have to say I have mulled over the whole "merciful God" thing many times. And why I have sometimes felt like the forgotten one (watching from the outside), the one on the bottom of the heap, or the one who seems to be everyone's soft place to land then I land on the concrete. Seems like a lot of times when I am looking for someone to love, and love me, I land in the "friend zone". Them I think about it some more and I realize that for all the crap cards I have been handed in life I actually got a pretty good hand because since it wasn't so rosey I have an understanding of reality that the majority of the world actually lives with. Half the world goes to bed starving. I know what it feels like to be hungry, and that is a heck of a motivation to learn how to cook, grow a garden, and find the cheap stores; even the food banks. They say more kids are killed by their families than all other combined causes so I saw real fast that the only way to get away from my so called family was living long enough and a scholarship. One recruiter coming into our school motivated me to hit the books because anyone who reads my posts knows spelling is not my strong suit. Can you imagine my math skills? lol. So yea I dragged books around and much of my education is self taught. Amazeing what you can learn if you want to bad enough. Everyone seems to think the job market is to terrible but as a person with disabilities the militarty sent me home and I have never been given a job I didn't start out doing for free. Volunteering sounds all Polly Anna but don't kid youself if you have to have job experience and no one will give you a job you get your wheels in the door if you have to crawl in and drag them behind you. Forty years ago you had to do just that because there were no curb cuts, ramps, "short" buses, or computers. I used to wonder why if I had a disability why did I end up with kids with disabilities and then I realized that had they been "normal" their birth-father would have probably taken them (screwed them up like he did his other kids) if not any number of agencies who would have made coin off making them available for adoption. And maybe my kids did not turn out to be brain surgeons they do have wives, kids, and homes keeping the economy going. And it about killed me looseig my mate young I can not imagine trying to take care of him, which had he lived would have made him totally dependent by now, as my Dad will be before much longer. Do I always "frame" things so positive? No but you learn real fast "misery" does not want company. If a person is feeling bummed out you can pour love and sunshine over them and they are going to ignore it and tell how they feel until they get it out of their system. Don't kid yourself I have my boohoo moments. Heck I have more than moments but I have found the more you do it the harder it is to shake off. As I am getting older I think I just like the eaier road. If somone yanks my chain I really try to keep them out of my life as much as possible. It is maybe unfair but I think I have earned a time in my life where I don't have to carry anyone I don't want to. Yea once in a while I still loose a friend, and that sucks majorly so My sypmaties , but it is also why I try to keep my friends spread out as far as age, location, and interest. No one person is going to have enough variety to meet all my needs even if I actually find myself loving them. You know Pacific Star; you are an amazing and intelligent lady. Everytime you post; you give me much to think about. You have been through a lot yet are still able to tackle what comes your way and I admire you for that. You truly are an inspiration to me. 
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The holidays, even as commercial as they have become, still seem to amplify the reality that Christ was not the only one of us born despite the fact that our birthparents did not plam us; or for that matter do much to nurture us or guarentee our survival; even at times seem driven to prevent it. As a kid I used to feel bad for the baby Jesus being born on a trip to pay taxes, sleeping his first night in a cows feeding trough to parents who were evidently not doing so great themselves. I can't remember anyone saying he had siblings and didn't sound like he ever got any real job skills; hanging out with prostitues, criminals, and various other undesireables begging for food and basically being a transient up until he was betrayed by friends, tortured, and killed in a way that makes how most of us will pass seem pretty easy. Maybe it is because God is not only in the comfortable places and wanted those of us to be able to talk to him as a person who would buy what we feel and how we often live day to day. I have often wonder sometimes why the road seem so darn hard for some and others seem to have so much come to them in ease and comfort. Have to say I have mulled over the whole "merciful God" thing many times. And why I have sometimes felt like the forgotten one (watching from the outside), the one on the bottom of the heap, or the one who seems to be everyone's soft place to land then I land on the concrete. Seems like a lot of times when I am looking for someone to love, and love me, I land in the "friend zone". Them I think about it some more and I realize that for all the crap cards I have been handed in life I actually got a pretty good hand because since it wasn't so rosey I have an understanding of reality that the majority of the world actually lives with. Half the world goes to bed starving. I know what it feels like to be hungry, and that is a heck of a motivation to learn how to cook, grow a garden, and find the cheap stores; even the food banks. They say more kids are killed by their families than all other combined causes so I saw real fast that the only way to get away from my so called family was living long enough and a scholarship. One recruiter coming into our school motivated me to hit the books because anyone who reads my posts knows spelling is not my strong suit. Can you imagine my math skills? lol. So yea I dragged books around and much of my education is self taught. Amazeing what you can learn if you want to bad enough. Everyone seems to think the job market is to terrible but as a person with disabilities the militarty sent me home and I have never been given a job I didn't start out doing for free. Volunteering sounds all Polly Anna but don't kid youself if you have to have job experience and no one will give you a job you get your wheels in the door if you have to crawl in and drag them behind you. Forty years ago you had to do just that because there were no curb cuts, ramps, "short" buses, or computers. I used to wonder why if I had a disability why did I end up with kids with disabilities and then I realized that had they been "normal" their birth-father would have probably taken them (screwed them up like he did his other kids) if not any number of agencies who would have made coin off making them available for adoption. And maybe my kids did not turn out to be brain surgeons they do have wives, kids, and homes keeping the economy going. And it about killed me looseig my mate young I can not imagine trying to take care of him, which had he lived would have made him totally dependent by now, as my Dad will be before much longer. Do I always "frame" things so positive? No but you learn real fast "misery" does not want company. If a person is feeling bummed out you can pour love and sunshine over them and they are going to ignore it and tell how they feel until they get it out of their system. Don't kid yourself I have my boohoo moments. Heck I have more than moments but I have found the more you do it the harder it is to shake off. As I am getting older I think I just like the eaier road. If somone yanks my chain I really try to keep them out of my life as much as possible. It is maybe unfair but I think I have earned a time in my life where I don't have to carry anyone I don't want to. Yea once in a while I still loose a friend, and that sucks majorly so My sypmaties , but it is also why I try to keep my friends spread out as far as age, location, and interest. No one person is going to have enough variety to meet all my needs even if I actually find myself loving them. You know Pacific Star; you are an amazing and intelligent lady. Everytime you post; you give me much to think about. You have been through a lot yet are still able to tackle what comes your way and I admire you for that. You truly are an inspiration to me. Star,,,YOUR a Christmas,,ANGEL,,all YEAR ROUND!!! Love ya girl,,,,,
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heat is energy, no? Brilliant girl! 
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