Topic: Dark thoughts...
prashant01's photo
Mon 12/05/11 05:54 AM







A poem studied in school days is well in remembrance.

When I born
only I was crying
everyone else around me
was happy & smiling.

When I died
only I was happy
everyone else around my dead body
was sad & crying.

flowerforyou

There were many great saints in india who ended their life silently without any hesitation when they thought that the task for which they got this human life is completed.

Saint dnyaneshwar at his 21 enter into a state of "Samadhi" because he felt that the mission of his life was complete.



i don't think it even has to be this 'deep.'
not everyone has a purpose in life.
i'll never forget my sixth grade history teacher telling us how insignificant we are.
most won't make any change in this world.
i'm not saying that because we won't make a change life isn't worth living,
but if our lives don't matter why would our deaths?
i'm such a little ray of sunshine.
haha.


What you say makes sense. I look at it if I were to jump off a bridge tomorrow; what difference would my death make? Oh, my friends and family will grieve for a bit but within a few days; everything will return to normal. So, my life is truly insignificant and I would be arrogant to think my life or death would affect anyone or anything. My parents told me many times my birth was a mistake and so it does ponder a question is to why I am even here or why I bother to exist. As you say; its not like I am going to change the world.



changing the world starts one person at a time, and we all are important enough to affect at least one , who then affects another, and so on and so on, until we see the result of a changing world....


I often think the ones that will change the world are the ones that have something to contribute to help change it or those with money or those with the intelligence to invent something fantastic.

Well,those who considers "Life is for money"; can't ever change their or others life but those who understands that money is meant just for some convenience in life surely changes the world.

Intelligence of inventors has certainly changed our lives but those intelligent guys were born & brought up by some common men & women like us.

Mother teressa,nelson mandella,Mahatma gandhi,Abraham lincon,Jesus christ were neither rich nor any inventors but they changed & are changing even after their death lives of millions.

Neither money nor luxury but just our thinking is the one which can change our life.

Swami samartha says : Change your thinking to change your life.


I can't or won't speak for anyone else other than myself but I really don't feel I have made any contributions other than just adding to the population growth.


Do u have desire to contribute??

I have some ideas,just let me know if u r interested.



"Mother teressa,nelson mandella,Mahatma gandhi,Abraham lincon,Jesus christ were neither rich nor any inventors but they changed & are changing even after their death lives of millions."
Exactly my point about people having something to contribute. I never said anything about anyone being common when it comes to inventors; it doesn't matter who brought them up; these inventors again contributed. Money makes the world go around like it or not. If people didn't have money; they wouldn't have companies that employ people so they can survive. So, I stand by what I say. At my age; I have nothing to contribute to society; I wish I could but wishing doesn;t mean squat.


Yeah...exactly your point!!

It also means that YOU are wise enough to contribute something to the society & you are doing that.

KEEP IT UP!!

We need YOU.flowerforyou

prashant01's photo
Mon 12/05/11 06:41 AM

"Mother teressa,nelson mandella,Mahatma gandhi,Abraham lincon,Jesus christ were neither rich nor any inventors but they changed & are changing even after their death lives of millions."


This is absolutely true.

But of the five, only two or three will stand the test of oblivion by posterity.

Mother theresa was good, sacrificing her comfort for god and the poor, but there were many before her who did the same thing. Nobody remembers St. Elizabeth, Sgt. Hugnerot, and Father Shoshkowitch, who did the same.

Nelson mandela, I don't know, he went to prison a lot, and I am not sure he was tested by way of "if you say this or that then you will be released." He was a politically persecuted statesman, who brought about change with his genius. Will we remember him in two hundred years? I don't think I, for one, shall. Who remembers Mr. Meszaros, Mr. Clementsy, or Lady Jane now? You know, there were lots of genius politicians, who were tortured and jailed. Mandela, with all due respect, was one of them.

Mahatma Gandhi... well, he is going to be remembered. He was an inventor. An inventor of social movement, an inventor of a new way for the oppressed to fight for justice. He opened a new way of civil unrest, which was rather surprisingly very effective, nobody thought that it would be. He is going to be remembered for his inventing and testing the passive aggressive political tactic.

Abraham Lincoln? Nyeh, I don't know. We can't not get him out of our minds, and he was one of the early presidents of the USA who made a paramount decision to lead the USA into war against itself, but beyond that he was just another ordinary genius. He had another unusual feature, which was that he never lied. But this we can't test, we can only believe him when he said, "I've never uttered a lie." This could be a lie, but then we get to a paradox, and we had better not go there. At any rate, a politician who got to fill the White House with no prior dependency on lies is a singular miracle. But even miracles don't get remembered, mostly. Gandhi will be remembered, at least by historians, forever. Abe Lincoln will be forgotten the moment nobody remembers the USA.

And Jesus Christ... he was an inventor, all right, too. He invented "the helping god of the poor." Before him, there was no redemption of any kind for anyone, and especially not for the poor. The Greeks before him succeeded to put a human face on religion, but Jesus really humanized religiosity. It was a huge stroke of genius. And a a patentable theological invention.

The invention of Jesus's's going to be remembered forever.

Exactly Sir!!

That way anyone who has the desire & readiness to devote his/her life for the well being of society will be remembered always.

All above persons were just like us & were not well known until they performed.They were not "born well known"

Many people keep waiting for opportunities to perform.They says,"I wish to do many things but never gets opportunity!".
Where from this opportunity comes?Isn't it always there under our feet?

Instead of worrying about & waiting for BIG opportunities,one shall always believe in doing his daily tasks in the best possible way with continuous improvement in it ( for me it is an invention) & shall remain satisfied when it is up to the mark.

People who thinks that their lives aren't that important,they are not contributing to society & they are just adding to population are having serious inferiority complex.It is harmful for them as well as for the society too.They are negatively extremist.It is selfishness to work ONLY for getting popular / well known & many people just stuck there.

Before thinking of ending their life; they shall think of what maximum can they do for the betterment of society before laving this world.
I think,if anyone thinks like that he will never get time to DIE or even think of it.There are so many things to be done yet.


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Mon 12/05/11 07:51 AM


..i would have to say the man who stands on the bridge and doesn't jump..because he knows how bad he feels about the things that have brought him to this point ..and yet he turns to face them..rather than take the easy way out...spock

prashant01's photo
Mon 12/05/11 10:02 AM

Did you ever think that some of us born were nothing more than an accident and that we probably were never meant to be born?


So what...??

How do it limits one?

Do u mean to say that someone who is born accidently can't do gr8 things in his life?

It is not his/her mistake.

Why shall one feel guilty & down for whole life due to the mistake done by others?

Those who don't care first & latter even blame on innocent children are most cruel people.

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Mon 12/05/11 11:02 AM


Did you ever think that some of us born were nothing more than an accident and that we probably were never meant to be born?


So what...??

How do it limits one?

Do u mean to say that someone who is born accidently can't do gr8 things in his life?

It is not his/her mistake.

Why shall one feel guilty & down for whole life due to the mistake done by others?

Those who don't care first & latter even blame on innocent children are most cruel people.


You've a good heart and mind Prashant... I love the way that you care about people.

Teditis's photo
Mon 12/05/11 11:05 AM



..i would have to say the man who stands on the bridge and doesn't jump..because he knows how bad he feels about the things that have brought him to this point ..and yet he turns to face them..rather than take the easy way out...spock

Tomb... do you really think that jumping off a bridge is an "easy" decision?
Suicide isn't always an easy way out... I wish people would get off that stereotype.

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Mon 12/05/11 01:32 PM

Tomb... do you really think that jumping off a bridge is an "easy" decision?
Suicide isn't always an easy way out... I wish people would get off that stereotype.


Agreed Ted..

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Mon 12/05/11 01:54 PM
Edited by navygirl on Mon 12/05/11 01:59 PM


Did you ever think that some of us born were nothing more than an accident and that we probably were never meant to be born?


So what...??

How do it limits one?

Do u mean to say that someone who is born accidently can't do gr8 things in his life?

It is not his/her mistake.

Why shall one feel guilty & down for whole life due to the mistake done by others?

Those who don't care first & latter even blame on innocent children are most cruel people.



I am not saying that someone can't do great things in life if born by accident but some of us never have and never will. I also agree that my parents were cruel to blame me but it doesn't change how I feel about not being able to contribute or why the heck I am even here. Anyways after hearing about the death of a friend this morning I am even more convinced how life sucks as its possible he was murdered. I am sick to my stomach about this.

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Mon 12/05/11 02:23 PM
Edited by Ainjel on Mon 12/05/11 02:24 PM

Yes, I can say that I have not changed a person's mind; I have given my ear but never changed someone's mind. I would never do that as I am not a trained professional and I would feel horrible if I gave someone the wrong advice. Why do you think you're parents never told you that you were an accident? Probably because they loved you. My parents were angry that I was born and my dad in particular said he should have drowned me at birth because I would amount to nothing. So, what would make me think that I was a planned event? It was sex and nothing more; my parents had no plan to have another child.


I hear ya Navygirl...You are lucky you made it to adulthood, and even though your parents were honest about your being born, truly sad..

Here in New Zealand, babies/toddlers are being beaten black and blue, or to the death weekly, by deadbeat arsewipe parents who didn't want the child in the first place..

People like those crap parents only thought about having sex, no thought was put into creating or wanting a baby..


navygirl's photo
Mon 12/05/11 02:57 PM


Yes, I can say that I have not changed a person's mind; I have given my ear but never changed someone's mind. I would never do that as I am not a trained professional and I would feel horrible if I gave someone the wrong advice. Why do you think you're parents never told you that you were an accident? Probably because they loved you. My parents were angry that I was born and my dad in particular said he should have drowned me at birth because I would amount to nothing. So, what would make me think that I was a planned event? It was sex and nothing more; my parents had no plan to have another child.


I hear ya Navygirl...You are lucky you made it to adulthood, and even though your parents were honest about your being born, truly sad..

Here in New Zealand, babies/toddlers are being beaten black and blue, or to the death weekly, by deadbeat arsewipe parents who didn't want the child in the first place..

People like those crap parents only thought about having sex, no thought was put into creating or wanting a baby..



Yep, my parents used me as a punching bag too. If I hadn't ran from my dad the one time he went beserk; he would have beat me in the head with a baseball bat. So, I probably would have been yet another statistic.

TBRich's photo
Mon 12/05/11 03:38 PM
Sometimes, when you look into the Zero and see it, you can get it- another chance.

navygirl's photo
Mon 12/05/11 03:42 PM

Sometimes, when you look into the Zero and see it, you can get it- another chance.


What does that mean?

TBRich's photo
Mon 12/05/11 04:43 PM


Sometimes, when you look into the Zero and see it, you can get it- another chance.


What does that mean?


different things to different people; to me- you don't find redemption via forgiveness, you don't fight your demons by collaborating with them, you do it by getting back to you, who you are.

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Mon 12/05/11 08:39 PM
"Life is too short to start your day with broken pieces of yesterday, it will definitely destroy your wonderful today and ruin your great tomorrow!"

prashant01's photo
Tue 12/06/11 08:58 AM
Edited by prashant01 on Tue 12/06/11 09:35 AM


Here in New Zealand, babies/toddlers are being beaten black and blue, or to the death weekly, by deadbeat arsewipe parents who didn't want the child in the first place..




Yep, my parents used me as a punching bag too. If I hadn't ran from my dad the one time he went beserk; he would have beat me in the head with a baseball bat. So, I probably would have been yet another statistic.



That's horrible!

Me & my 4 (FOUR)siblings were also beaten sometimes by our parents,but it was never due to being UNWANTED.

In fact;I always get sad now by remembering how naughty I was during my childhood & how badly I troubled always to my mom.sad2


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Tue 12/06/11 08:58 AM
Edited by prashant01 on Tue 12/06/11 09:37 AM
Never heard such kind of exploitation of children here in india.

Sorry,I'm generalizing;but I think this difference is definitely there.
May be it is due to difference in family system.

In india,families are usually living together for whole life.



Indian hindu ladies pray to god for getting same husband for next seven lives!!!bigsmile

We Indians are bound together firmly at all levels by traditions.

In the pic above indian married women are binding thread to banian tree as a part of tradition which means they are praying for long life of their spouse & for affectionate bonding with him for whole life.

May be due to this reason,children here seldom have to face that kind of cruelty as they are seldom UNWANTED.

Of cource some exception are there,especially poor girl children have to face inferior treatment in some families,but we are improving on that front & there are many indian ladies who are performing outstandingly as a result of that positive change.

As this is a dating & match making site,I wish to make a humble appeal to you all,"please follow indian family system;I'm sure ur future generation would not be facing the same pain as u did!!"

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Tue 12/06/11 11:13 PM
Do everyone in this thread realize they affected a change in life just by speaking on this topic.

Look at how many people read through this and responded...

This is a Season of Joy and Giving... Let yourself believe you do matter... ESPECIALLY TO afriQueen22 who started this Topic

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Tue 12/06/11 11:20 PM

Do everyone in this thread realize they affected a change in life just by speaking on this topic.

Look at how many people read through this and responded...

This is a Season of Joy and Giving... Let yourself believe you do matter... ESPECIALLY TO afriQueen22 who started this Topic
flowers Can I give you a hug,,and say AMEN....:wink:

amaria90's photo
Tue 12/06/11 11:49 PM
Thank you... I accept the hug and return it to you as well flowers
but it's not just me I spoke only from what I felt in my heart

insangel's photo
Tue 12/06/11 11:56 PM
standing alone in the rain,
wirh nothing for shelter except my pain.
the icy water chills my bones
and lets me know im all alone.
a foggy haze of fear and grief,
come to offer no relief.
my broken heart has turned to mush
then misery gives the final push.
i fall into the dark abyss
in defiance i blow a goodbye kiss...


everyone has a breaking point..i see neither as a coward just people that needed the right words at the right moment