Everyone knows about communicating too little, but what about communicating too much or about the wrong things? What subjects are sensitive and how should you approach them so you don't wind up pissering your partner off instead of finding out how to make a situation work better for the both of you?

Is there something in particular on your mind? Some subject, perhaps, where conversation ventured to the relationship's peril?

Touchy subjects like those involving intimacy or when a partner doesn't believe the other is pulling their weight when financial strains are present. Or even topics about personal hygiene with a couple when one is concerned that certain health aspects are being ignored or those subjects where one partner feels degraded by something the other says and just doesn't realize how it makes the other feel.

Define pissering.

I think that would be the act of using a pisser?

I think good conversation is staying calm, and not blaming or accusing anyone of anything, that way no one is going to get angry and defensive. Pissering? you guys are funny.

I know that no actual boyfriend wants to hear about past boyfriends or even male friend friends. Women don't like to hear about other women either but it depends on the context. If a guy is saying how cute or funny another female is BAD. If he is saying that he collected female opinions on what to buy her for her birthday, GOOD.

I was thinking maybe it had to do with how far you can make your piss go. Pissering contest...but then again...that is the act of pissing, so perhaps we are both correct.

I am usually pretty blunt. "you stink! take a shower!" yep...blunt works for me.

I'm the same way. I dont sugar coat nothing. But, I have been finding out lately that most people like to have thier ears tickled so they can feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I'm a very direct and to the point kind of man. LOL, most likely why I am still single.

I know this is going to sound bad but I base what I can talk about to a patner on how their life is based. For example if a guy had a wonderful childhood, then I won't talk about the hell my parents put me through. I feel its something I need to sort out myself so why bring it up? I find with men I have dated; they take it as a burden or feel they have to suddenly treat me with kid gloves. I know we should be able to talk openly with a partner about anything but lets be honest; you bring this stuff up and they they think there is something wrong with you. So, I totally understand and respect when a guy or girl says I don't want to talk about it.

IMO, there’s no such thing as “too much communication”. If you are part of a long term relationship with someone that you are having sex with, no subject should be sensitive or off limits.

If an issue, whether it's financial, psychological or sexual, was adversely affecting my relationship, it would get talked about as I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone that I couldn’t talk to or have to tiptoe around...obviously, you have to pick the right moment...after sex generally tends to a good time for some strange reason .

Too much communication is talking for the sake of it or talking through my progammes/movies etc is what seriously pisses me off. Like companionable silence is a bad thing

I really don't wanna hear about your past sexploits.

It just make you look like a ho.

I guess thats where you and I differ. There are just some things I will not tell anyone and will take to my grave. I also think unless it was affecting my relationship in someway; why bring up the issue. I think that is where the too much communication comes in. I think you have to find that happy medium of what you can and can't talk about.

I guess thats where you and I differ. There are just some things I will not tell anyone and will take to my grave. I also think unless it was affecting my relationship in someway; why bring up the issue. I think that is where the too much communication comes in. I think you have to find that happy medium of what you can and can't talk about.


No, we are still in agreement.




BTW...nice Zena costume

I was referring to the statement of "no subject should be sensitive or off limits". With me; there are certainly are. And thanks by the way. I wore that on Halloween. It took me a while to make but I liked how it turned out.

Ah..looks like you were right.

Can't believe you made that outfit...wow!!

In a strong relationship, there really should be a knowledge of our partners values and priorities which help us gauge how to approach certain topics.

It varies from partner to partner though. With my first husband, I could talk to him about anything except his friends. He couldnt hear an ill word against them without being upset. With my second husband, it was questioning his decisions that put him on the defensive. I learned to speak about the action instead of the person, with my first husband.

Instead of 'why doesnt your friend spend more time with his wife, instead of running the streets'

I would say 'I would be so hurt if you spent your time in the streets instead of at home.'

its not hard to make little tweaks when your relationship is a strong one.

I don't think there can be too much, there may be a thing or two to approach carefully, but you should still be able to talk about them..

I know for me I am sensitive about my kids, they are horrors and wild but always fun and loving, although at times some (teenage boys) can be grumpy.

But if anyone wants to talk to me about them , they need to tread carefully as i will chew then up and spit them out if they insult my munchkins. Well I know they are not perfect ( not even close) but nobody can put them down, or speak to them yuckily

Since everything generally pissed my ex off there were really no subjects unsafe to talk about. We would usually fight about it just like everything else.