calm, humor, ask questions - sometimes that way he will draw his own conclusions

when you do talk - make it about how you feel not what he has "done" or not done

emphasize that u care & love him



and some problems just can't be resolved. women take the responsibility for solving the problems in relationships far too often

if there is an issue between you, it is his issue to resolve , his responsibility also as well as yours - that is what being a PARTNER in relationship is all about

and if it gets to the point that he is not helping to resolves things or there are just too many issues that are ongoing, you simply may not be a good match

most men will not want the relationship to end if they have gotten into it in the first place (they delve differently) - so I think phrased in that light...that the issues have to be resolved, most guys cooperate and most women are just happy as heck to know he's open to that

Are you saying that communication about these subjects is too much, or that they're the wrong subjects? It seems to me that these would be very important things to have communication about.

Communicating "too' much does happen, it is real...If someone is being obsessive about a subject sometimes you just have to be blunt and tell them you have reached your saturation point with the subject, that it's been talked to death...and just stop participating and move on...

When a subject is sensitive for your partner and you know this but feel strongly that it still needs to be discussed, sometimes I find this works. I tell my guy I know it is a sensitive subject for him, but we both know it is something we need to discuss and resolve.....When you are ready, lets talk about it.....This doesn't always work, but it works enough to make it worth trying....

Thanks; I made all the costumes that I have on my profile actually. Its a little hobby of mine along with my music.

As for the touchy subjects; with me I have to be willing to talk about it and it can't be forced. If someone tries to force it out of me; then I will pull away as I would feel too much pressure. I also would not push a partner to talk about something that he wasn't comfortable with. I think if the topic of the subject has no bearing on your relationship; then why push the other person to talk about it? However; this is just how I personally feel about this.

You mean for example:

Would you mind pulling your pants up? I am really tired of walking around with your plummer butt syndrome.

Did you run out of floss, mouthwash and toothpaste? I am on my way to the store in a few minutes. I can pick it up for you. How about some shampoo?

Those kinds of things??

if you are with somebody and personal hygiene becomes an issue
then there is no amount of talking that will take care of that...



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Oh okay. I get it you are talking about being house trained. Yeah. The ex did a good job on that already.