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No, nothing is wrong, it's just a bad habit.  Wellcome to Mingle2!  God made man and woman, not man and man or woman and woman. And there is no explaination on earth that can justify these act. It is from the pit of hell.  preach on girl... if everyone was gay, our species would die out... its not even that deep, if everyone was female we would die out too. Its just that the parts were made to compliment each other sexually, the male and female parts that is why the other are usually called 'alternative' because they arent in line with the NATURAL biology of the species... not to mention the heightened risks of sodomy and how it trickles down to the rest of society,,, i just consider it bad morals, not to mention bad judgement... I agree Mikey. I just disagree with defining 'who people are' as I believe we are ever changing and never just a STATIC identity uncapable of adaptation and change. I dont accept everything people choose to do or say but I dont define them by those things either. |
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No, nothing is wrong, it's just a bad habit. Wellcome to Mingle2! God made man and woman, not man and man or woman and woman. And there is no explaination on earth that can justify these act. It is from the pit of hell. preach on girl... if everyone was gay, our species would die out... its not even that deep, if everyone was female we would die out too. Its just that the parts were made to compliment each other sexually, the male and female parts that is why the other are usually called 'alternative' because they arent in line with the NATURAL biology of the species... not to mention the heightened risks of sodomy and how it trickles down to the rest of society,,, i just consider it bad morals, not to mention bad judgement... yes, more than once and i don't like it...you wanna be gay, be gay, it doesn't matter to me. but when you start trying to influence others to be gay, thats where i draw the line... if you're born that way, why do you need to influence others into it? |
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You're looping in your explanations.. They don't really make much sense. People are born gay, straight or anything in between or outside of it. It's been scientifically proven. If you are so strongly religious you should see that it is God who shaped us this way. Calling it a bad habit is just calling it something 'wrong', which is no different from calling it bad. On top of that, it suggests that it is something you 'learn' doing and can quit doing like smoking. You can hide it, but you'd only be lying to yourself. And if God really is non-judgemental, then you shouldn't be either, but I have ym doubts about your God's view as you keep saying judgemental things. That said, I guess the original poster got his/her answer... People dislike it because of what they're taught in their society. Not that it has to make sense. That means though, that you can realise they're way off and hope that they talk more sense in the next generation. Just enjoy yourself and be yourself, and nobody can do you any harm. no man is born gay, b'cos a man and woman can not have sex and gave birth to man atrect man, period! Scientist, are human which are good in definding with they like, besides, scientists are the most confused people. Every time the question "is gay wrong" comes up there is always somebody citing "their" religious beliefs as proof that it is wrong! Give me a break Joy, it's not a religious question, it's a moral question! If the OP is comfortable with her sexual preference then , for her, it is right..... What is wrong, IMO, is when someone, anyone, measure another by what they believe is right or wrong.....Live and let live! It's Hardwired! You'll destroy the Computer if you try to change it! Nothing to do with Ethics,Morality or Religion! AND FURTHERMORE!  Science HAS established homosexuality is neither an illness or a disability.. Mental health professionals HAVE established that homosexuality is NOT harmful, NOT undesirable, and DOES NOT require intervention! No one, repeat no one has the right to judge another...Conrad is absolutely right, it is hardwired. Even if you insist on going with preference Joy, you don't have a right to judge, read your bible.... so your saying she shouldn't say her feelings? she can judge, just like your judging her now... she has every right to her opinion, as you do... I am not saying she shouldn't say her feelings, I am saying I believe it is wrong to judge others. I'm saying I don't believe I, you, or anyone has that right. Now I am going to go one step further and say this...Talk the talk, walk the walk....The bible says "Thou shalt not judge" |
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You're looping in your explanations.. They don't really make much sense. People are born gay, straight or anything in between or outside of it. It's been scientifically proven. If you are so strongly religious you should see that it is God who shaped us this way. Calling it a bad habit is just calling it something 'wrong', which is no different from calling it bad. On top of that, it suggests that it is something you 'learn' doing and can quit doing like smoking. You can hide it, but you'd only be lying to yourself. And if God really is non-judgemental, then you shouldn't be either, but I have ym doubts about your God's view as you keep saying judgemental things. That said, I guess the original poster got his/her answer... People dislike it because of what they're taught in their society. Not that it has to make sense. That means though, that you can realise they're way off and hope that they talk more sense in the next generation. Just enjoy yourself and be yourself, and nobody can do you any harm. no man is born gay, b'cos a man and woman can not have sex and gave birth to man atrect man, period! Scientist, are human which are good in definding with they like, besides, scientists are the most confused people. Every time the question "is gay wrong" comes up there is always somebody citing "their" religious beliefs as proof that it is wrong! Give me a break Joy, it's not a religious question, it's a moral question! If the OP is comfortable with her sexual preference then , for her, it is right..... What is wrong, IMO, is when someone, anyone, measure another by what they believe is right or wrong.....Live and let live! It's Hardwired! You'll destroy the Computer if you try to change it! Nothing to do with Ethics,Morality or Religion! AND FURTHERMORE! Science HAS established homosexuality is neither an illness or a disability.. Mental health professionals HAVE established that homosexuality is NOT harmful, NOT undesirable, and DOES NOT require intervention! No one, repeat no one has the right to judge another...Conrad is absolutely right, it is hardwired. Even if you insist on going with preference Joy, you don't have a right to judge, read your bible.... so your saying she shouldn't say her feelings? she can judge, just like your judging her now... she has every right to her opinion, as you do... I am not saying she shouldn't say her feelings, I am saying I believe it is wrong to judge others. I'm saying I don't believe I, you, or anyone has that right. Now I am going to go one step further and say this...Talk the talk, walk the walk....The bible says "Thou shalt not judge" hmm.. your judging her... |
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You're looping in your explanations.. They don't really make much sense. People are born gay, straight or anything in between or outside of it. It's been scientifically proven. If you are so strongly religious you should see that it is God who shaped us this way. Calling it a bad habit is just calling it something 'wrong', which is no different from calling it bad. On top of that, it suggests that it is something you 'learn' doing and can quit doing like smoking. You can hide it, but you'd only be lying to yourself. And if God really is non-judgemental, then you shouldn't be either, but I have ym doubts about your God's view as you keep saying judgemental things. That said, I guess the original poster got his/her answer... People dislike it because of what they're taught in their society. Not that it has to make sense. That means though, that you can realise they're way off and hope that they talk more sense in the next generation. Just enjoy yourself and be yourself, and nobody can do you any harm. no man is born gay, b'cos a man and woman can not have sex and gave birth to man atrect man, period! Scientist, are human which are good in definding with they like, besides, scientists are the most confused people. Every time the question "is gay wrong" comes up there is always somebody citing "their" religious beliefs as proof that it is wrong! Give me a break Joy, it's not a religious question, it's a moral question! If the OP is comfortable with her sexual preference then , for her, it is right..... What is wrong, IMO, is when someone, anyone, measure another by what they believe is right or wrong.....Live and let live! It's Hardwired! You'll destroy the Computer if you try to change it! Nothing to do with Ethics,Morality or Religion! AND FURTHERMORE! Science HAS established homosexuality is neither an illness or a disability.. Mental health professionals HAVE established that homosexuality is NOT harmful, NOT undesirable, and DOES NOT require intervention! No one, repeat no one has the right to judge another...Conrad is absolutely right, it is hardwired. Even if you insist on going with preference Joy, you don't have a right to judge, read your bible.... so your saying she shouldn't say her feelings? she can judge, just like your judging her now... she has every right to her opinion, as you do... I am not saying she shouldn't say her feelings, I am saying I believe it is wrong to judge others. I'm saying I don't believe I, you, or anyone has that right. Now I am going to go one step further and say this...Talk the talk, walk the walk....The bible says "Thou shalt not judge" hmm.. your judging her... Nooooo, you're judging me... |
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You're looping in your explanations.. They don't really make much sense. People are born gay, straight or anything in between or outside of it. It's been scientifically proven. If you are so strongly religious you should see that it is God who shaped us this way. Calling it a bad habit is just calling it something 'wrong', which is no different from calling it bad. On top of that, it suggests that it is something you 'learn' doing and can quit doing like smoking. You can hide it, but you'd only be lying to yourself. And if God really is non-judgemental, then you shouldn't be either, but I have ym doubts about your God's view as you keep saying judgemental things. That said, I guess the original poster got his/her answer... People dislike it because of what they're taught in their society. Not that it has to make sense. That means though, that you can realise they're way off and hope that they talk more sense in the next generation. Just enjoy yourself and be yourself, and nobody can do you any harm. no man is born gay, b'cos a man and woman can not have sex and gave birth to man atrect man, period! Scientist, are human which are good in definding with they like, besides, scientists are the most confused people. Every time the question "is gay wrong" comes up there is always somebody citing "their" religious beliefs as proof that it is wrong! Give me a break Joy, it's not a religious question, it's a moral question! If the OP is comfortable with her sexual preference then , for her, it is right..... What is wrong, IMO, is when someone, anyone, measure another by what they believe is right or wrong.....Live and let live! It's Hardwired! You'll destroy the Computer if you try to change it! Nothing to do with Ethics,Morality or Religion! AND FURTHERMORE! Science HAS established homosexuality is neither an illness or a disability.. Mental health professionals HAVE established that homosexuality is NOT harmful, NOT undesirable, and DOES NOT require intervention! No one, repeat no one has the right to judge another...Conrad is absolutely right, it is hardwired. Even if you insist on going with preference Joy, you don't have a right to judge, read your bible.... so your saying she shouldn't say her feelings? she can judge, just like your judging her now... she has every right to her opinion, as you do... I am not saying she shouldn't say her feelings, I am saying I believe it is wrong to judge others. I'm saying I don't believe I, you, or anyone has that right. Now I am going to go one step further and say this...Talk the talk, walk the walk....The bible says "Thou shalt not judge" The bible actually says 'thou shalt not judge LEST ye be judged' If we simply werent to judge. The bible would not need any other sentence. |
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Does it really matter where you find happiness and satisfaction? Same sex relationships or heterosexual relationships? Absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, it is no different than being hetero or bi. Welcome to the site. |
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You're looping in your explanations.. They don't really make much sense. People are born gay, straight or anything in between or outside of it. It's been scientifically proven. If you are so strongly religious you should see that it is God who shaped us this way. Calling it a bad habit is just calling it something 'wrong', which is no different from calling it bad. On top of that, it suggests that it is something you 'learn' doing and can quit doing like smoking. You can hide it, but you'd only be lying to yourself. And if God really is non-judgemental, then you shouldn't be either, but I have ym doubts about your God's view as you keep saying judgemental things. That said, I guess the original poster got his/her answer... People dislike it because of what they're taught in their society. Not that it has to make sense. That means though, that you can realise they're way off and hope that they talk more sense in the next generation. Just enjoy yourself and be yourself, and nobody can do you any harm. no man is born gay, b'cos a man and woman can not have sex and gave birth to man atrect man, period! Scientist, are human which are good in definding with they like, besides, scientists are the most confused people. Every time the question "is gay wrong" comes up there is always somebody citing "their" religious beliefs as proof that it is wrong! Give me a break Joy, it's not a religious question, it's a moral question! If the OP is comfortable with her sexual preference then , for her, it is right..... What is wrong, IMO, is when someone, anyone, measure another by what they believe is right or wrong.....Live and let live! It's Hardwired! You'll destroy the Computer if you try to change it! Nothing to do with Ethics,Morality or Religion! AND FURTHERMORE! Science HAS established homosexuality is neither an illness or a disability.. Mental health professionals HAVE established that homosexuality is NOT harmful, NOT undesirable, and DOES NOT require intervention! No one, repeat no one has the right to judge another...Conrad is absolutely right, it is hardwired. Even if you insist on going with preference Joy, you don't have a right to judge, read your bible.... so your saying she shouldn't say her feelings? she can judge, just like your judging her now... she has every right to her opinion, as you do... I am not saying she shouldn't say her feelings, I am saying I believe it is wrong to judge others. I'm saying I don't believe I, you, or anyone has that right. Now I am going to go one step further and say this...Talk the talk, walk the walk....The bible says "Thou shalt not judge" hmm.. your judging her... Nooooo, you're judging me... lol...the only way i'm judging you is how cute you are... 
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I'm not at all afraid -- If I'm not mistaken, I'm the only one here who's still somewhat calm and collected without issuing direct attacks on people. I won't say anything about the brain's evolution -- that's true.
All I can say is about why people keep switching their labels. There's a lot to be said about social constructs and rules that people (subconsciously) feel they need to follow. Deep rooted fears of disappointing certain figures, or being abandoned by them are major examples of this. I for example first fought this attraction to men because it was out of the ordinary, and I've already had enough experiences by then to feel somewhat afraid of being unwanted. Then settled with bisexual for a while, and relapsed to straight again. However I seemed unable to really want a sexual relationship with women (even if I can care for them as much as for men). After a few lifechanging steps I finally stepped up and am an out-of-closet gay. It's the same for gay men. A lot of them have deeprooted fears or hatred towards women, and for reasons in the past, can't bear being cose to them (imagine having a lousy mother, or women around you always lashing out and hurting you). The list goes on. Do not think it is easy for anyone on this world to truly be themselves. Most aren't and are controlled largely by set rules and ideas to make their decisions for them. |
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We are always ourselves, we are just always evolving into the into the next moment,,
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I'm not at all afraid -- If I'm not mistaken, I'm the only one here who's still somewhat calm and collected without issuing direct attacks on people. I won't say anything about the brain's evolution -- that's true. All I can say is about why people keep switching their labels. There's a lot to be said about social constructs and rules that people (subconsciously) feel they need to follow. Deep rooted fears of disappointing certain figures, or being abandoned by them are major examples of this. I for example first fought this attraction to men because it was out of the ordinary, and I've already had enough experiences by then to feel somewhat afraid of being unwanted. Then settled with bisexual for a while, and relapsed to straight again. However I seemed unable to really want a sexual relationship with women (even if I can care for them as much as for men). After a few lifechanging steps I finally stepped up and am an out-of-closet gay. It's the same for gay men. A lot of them have deeprooted fears or hatred towards women, and for reasons in the past, can't bear being cose to them (imagine having a lousy mother, or women around you always lashing out and hurting you). The list goes on. Do not think it is easy for anyone on this world to truly be themselves. Most aren't and are controlled largely by set rules and ideas to make their decisions for them. your last sentence said it best... their are alot of people like me, and a lot of people like you...don't hit on straight people, and i'll never hit a gay... |
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You're looping in your explanations.. They don't really make much sense. People are born gay, straight or anything in between or outside of it. It's been scientifically proven. If you are so strongly religious you should see that it is God who shaped us this way. Calling it a bad habit is just calling it something 'wrong', which is no different from calling it bad. On top of that, it suggests that it is something you 'learn' doing and can quit doing like smoking. You can hide it, but you'd only be lying to yourself. And if God really is non-judgemental, then you shouldn't be either, but I have ym doubts about your God's view as you keep saying judgemental things. That said, I guess the original poster got his/her answer... People dislike it because of what they're taught in their society. Not that it has to make sense. That means though, that you can realise they're way off and hope that they talk more sense in the next generation. Just enjoy yourself and be yourself, and nobody can do you any harm. no man is born gay, b'cos a man and woman can not have sex and gave birth to man atrect man, period! Scientist, are human which are good in definding with they like, besides, scientists are the most confused people. Every time the question "is gay wrong" comes up there is always somebody citing "their" religious beliefs as proof that it is wrong! Give me a break Joy, it's not a religious question, it's a moral question! If the OP is comfortable with her sexual preference then , for her, it is right..... What is wrong, IMO, is when someone, anyone, measure another by what they believe is right or wrong.....Live and let live! It's Hardwired! You'll destroy the Computer if you try to change it! Nothing to do with Ethics,Morality or Religion! AND FURTHERMORE! Science HAS established homosexuality is neither an illness or a disability.. Mental health professionals HAVE established that homosexuality is NOT harmful, NOT undesirable, and DOES NOT require intervention! No one, repeat no one has the right to judge another...Conrad is absolutely right, it is hardwired. Even if you insist on going with preference Joy, you don't have a right to judge, read your bible.... so your saying she shouldn't say her feelings? she can judge, just like your judging her now... she has every right to her opinion, as you do... I am not saying she shouldn't say her feelings, I am saying I believe it is wrong to judge others. I'm saying I don't believe I, you, or anyone has that right. Now I am going to go one step further and say this...Talk the talk, walk the walk....The bible says "Thou shalt not judge" hmm.. your judging her... Nooooo, you're judging me... lol...the only way i'm judging you is how cute you are... Funny and nice, good job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   
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I'm not at all afraid -- If I'm not mistaken, I'm the only one here who's still somewhat calm and collected without issuing direct attacks on people. I won't say anything about the brain's evolution -- that's true. All I can say is about why people keep switching their labels. There's a lot to be said about social constructs and rules that people (subconsciously) feel they need to follow. Deep rooted fears of disappointing certain figures, or being abandoned by them are major examples of this. I for example first fought this attraction to men because it was out of the ordinary, and I've already had enough experiences by then to feel somewhat afraid of being unwanted. Then settled with bisexual for a while, and relapsed to straight again. However I seemed unable to really want a sexual relationship with women (even if I can care for them as much as for men). After a few lifechanging steps I finally stepped up and am an out-of-closet gay. It's the same for gay men. A lot of them have deeprooted fears or hatred towards women, and for reasons in the past, can't bear being cose to them (imagine having a lousy mother, or women around you always lashing out and hurting you). The list goes on. Do not think it is easy for anyone on this world to truly be themselves. Most aren't and are controlled largely by set rules and ideas to make their decisions for them. your last sentence said it best... their are alot of people like me, and a lot of people like you...don't hit on straight people, and i'll never hit a gay... Actually that's very tricky. You can't tell who's gay or not by just looking at them. Most of the time (yes, even if some people claim to have an innate gaydar). If you get hit on by a man don't take it personal ;) take it as a compliment since it takes most men a lot o courage to walk up to a fellow man and do it, so if that's ever happens you must've had something shiny going on. You can just kindly decline and say you don't swing that way. |
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Well the one thing we have shown here is we can diasagree in a civil way and not get overboard with our different opinions and I take my hat off to all of U that kept it mellow but yet made our points!!
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I'm not at all afraid -- If I'm not mistaken, I'm the only one here who's still somewhat calm and collected without issuing direct attacks on people. I won't say anything about the brain's evolution -- that's true. All I can say is about why people keep switching their labels. There's a lot to be said about social constructs and rules that people (subconsciously) feel they need to follow. Deep rooted fears of disappointing certain figures, or being abandoned by them are major examples of this. I for example first fought this attraction to men because it was out of the ordinary, and I've already had enough experiences by then to feel somewhat afraid of being unwanted. Then settled with bisexual for a while, and relapsed to straight again. However I seemed unable to really want a sexual relationship with women (even if I can care for them as much as for men). After a few lifechanging steps I finally stepped up and am an out-of-closet gay. It's the same for gay men. A lot of them have deeprooted fears or hatred towards women, and for reasons in the past, can't bear being cose to them (imagine having a lousy mother, or women around you always lashing out and hurting you). The list goes on. Do not think it is easy for anyone on this world to truly be themselves. Most aren't and are controlled largely by set rules and ideas to make their decisions for them. your last sentence said it best... their are alot of people like me, and a lot of people like you...don't hit on straight people, and i'll never hit a gay... Actually that's very tricky. You can't tell who's gay or not by just looking at them. Most of the time (yes, even if some people claim to have an innate gaydar). If you get hit on by a man don't take it personal ;) take it as a compliment since it takes most men a lot o courage to walk up to a fellow man and do it, so if that's ever happens you must've had something shiny going on. You can just kindly decline and say you don't swing that way. lol...if it were only so easy... no means no...sometimes you have to get nasty with some, just like women have to do with some/most men... |
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I'm not at all afraid -- If I'm not mistaken, I'm the only one here who's still somewhat calm and collected without issuing direct attacks on people. I won't say anything about the brain's evolution -- that's true. All I can say is about why people keep switching their labels. There's a lot to be said about social constructs and rules that people (subconsciously) feel they need to follow. Deep rooted fears of disappointing certain figures, or being abandoned by them are major examples of this. I for example first fought this attraction to men because it was out of the ordinary, and I've already had enough experiences by then to feel somewhat afraid of being unwanted. Then settled with bisexual for a while, and relapsed to straight again. However I seemed unable to really want a sexual relationship with women (even if I can care for them as much as for men). After a few lifechanging steps I finally stepped up and am an out-of-closet gay. It's the same for gay men. A lot of them have deeprooted fears or hatred towards women, and for reasons in the past, can't bear being cose to them (imagine having a lousy mother, or women around you always lashing out and hurting you). The list goes on. Do not think it is easy for anyone on this world to truly be themselves. Most aren't and are controlled largely by set rules and ideas to make their decisions for them. your last sentence said it best... their are alot of people like me, and a lot of people like you...don't hit on straight people, and i'll never hit a gay... Actually that's very tricky. You can't tell who's gay or not by just looking at them. Most of the time (yes, even if some people claim to have an innate gaydar). If you get hit on by a man don't take it personal ;) take it as a compliment since it takes most men a lot o courage to walk up to a fellow man and do it, so if that's ever happens you must've had something shiny going on. You can just kindly decline and say you don't swing that way. lol...if it were only so easy... no means no...sometimes you have to get nasty with some, just like women have to do with some/most men... Wow, guess I'm a bit naive then (or that dude just really hasn't gotten any for too long a time...). Well there's kinds of everyone, would be boring otherwise. Just hope you didn't get your image ruined. I swear we're not all horndogs *waves* |
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You're looping in your explanations.. They don't really make much sense. People are born gay, straight or anything in between or outside of it. It's been scientifically proven. If you are so strongly religious you should see that it is God who shaped us this way. Calling it a bad habit is just calling it something 'wrong', which is no different from calling it bad. On top of that, it suggests that it is something you 'learn' doing and can quit doing like smoking. You can hide it, but you'd only be lying to yourself. And if God really is non-judgemental, then you shouldn't be either, but I have ym doubts about your God's view as you keep saying judgemental things. That said, I guess the original poster got his/her answer... People dislike it because of what they're taught in their society. Not that it has to make sense. That means though, that you can realise they're way off and hope that they talk more sense in the next generation. Just enjoy yourself and be yourself, and nobody can do you any harm. no man is born gay, b'cos a man and woman can not have sex and gave birth to man atrect man, period! Scientist, are human which are good in definding with they like, besides, scientists are the most confused people. Every time the question "is gay wrong" comes up there is always somebody citing "their" religious beliefs as proof that it is wrong! Give me a break Joy, it's not a religious question, it's a moral question! If the OP is comfortable with her sexual preference then , for her, it is right..... What is wrong, IMO, is when someone, anyone, measure another by what they believe is right or wrong.....Live and let live! It's Hardwired! You'll destroy the Computer if you try to change it! Nothing to do with Ethics,Morality or Religion! AND FURTHERMORE! Science HAS established homosexuality is neither an illness or a disability.. Mental health professionals HAVE established that homosexuality is NOT harmful, NOT undesirable, and DOES NOT require intervention! No one, repeat no one has the right to judge another...Conrad is absolutely right, it is hardwired. Even if you insist on going with preference Joy, you don't have a right to judge, read your bible.... so your saying she shouldn't say her feelings? she can judge, just like your judging her now... she has every right to her opinion, as you do... I am not saying she shouldn't say her feelings, I am saying I believe it is wrong to judge others. I'm saying I don't believe I, you, or anyone has that right. Now I am going to go one step further and say this...Talk the talk, walk the walk....The bible says "Thou shalt not judge" hmm.. your judging her... Nooooo, you're judging me... lol...the only way i'm judging you is how cute you are... Funny and nice, good job!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you, your a diamond in a coal mine.. |
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I'm Gay! Well I'm not gay, gay, but I'm happy gay. Wait a minute, I'm not a happy gay either. Ok, how do I say this? I'm happy! I'm not gay, but I'm happy. No no I got this all wrong. Lets start again. I'm Gay! No your not gay Michael, your happy! Now I'm confused! Are you happy or gay? I'm gappy! Oh, why did they have to call it gay? Does this mean because I don't like boys I can't be happy? Michael, you have it all wrong. You can like boys and not be gay. But I don't like boys. Well I mean I like boys but I'm not gay. What, your not happy? No, I'm not gay! I mean yes, I'm happy. Oh, so your gay? Here we go again! I'm not gay, I'm happy! Oh, so gays can't be happy? No, I mean yes they can be happy but I'm not. So, your not happy? No, I'm not gay! I mean yes, I'm gay, happy! Can't we go back to talking football? Gay football? No, happy football! Oh, what's the use.  Heroes aren't liked, their worshiped! |
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I'm not at all afraid -- If I'm not mistaken, I'm the only one here who's still somewhat calm and collected without issuing direct attacks on people. I won't say anything about the brain's evolution -- that's true. All I can say is about why people keep switching their labels. There's a lot to be said about social constructs and rules that people (subconsciously) feel they need to follow. Deep rooted fears of disappointing certain figures, or being abandoned by them are major examples of this. I for example first fought this attraction to men because it was out of the ordinary, and I've already had enough experiences by then to feel somewhat afraid of being unwanted. Then settled with bisexual for a while, and relapsed to straight again. However I seemed unable to really want a sexual relationship with women (even if I can care for them as much as for men). After a few lifechanging steps I finally stepped up and am an out-of-closet gay. It's the same for gay men. A lot of them have deeprooted fears or hatred towards women, and for reasons in the past, can't bear being cose to them (imagine having a lousy mother, or women around you always lashing out and hurting you). The list goes on. Do not think it is easy for anyone on this world to truly be themselves. Most aren't and are controlled largely by set rules and ideas to make their decisions for them. your last sentence said it best... their are alot of people like me, and a lot of people like you...don't hit on straight people, and i'll never hit a gay... Actually that's very tricky. You can't tell who's gay or not by just looking at them. Most of the time (yes, even if some people claim to have an innate gaydar). If you get hit on by a man don't take it personal ;) take it as a compliment since it takes most men a lot o courage to walk up to a fellow man and do it, so if that's ever happens you must've had something shiny going on. You can just kindly decline and say you don't swing that way. It's happened to me twice. The first time I was young and dumb and really didn't know how to handle it. The second time I was older and wiser and just took it in stride. Considered it a compliment because I really liked and respected the woman.  We are still good friends. Does that mean I am evolving Harmony?
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Edited by
mightymoe
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Tue 11/01/11 02:17 PM
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I'm not at all afraid -- If I'm not mistaken, I'm the only one here who's still somewhat calm and collected without issuing direct attacks on people. I won't say anything about the brain's evolution -- that's true. All I can say is about why people keep switching their labels. There's a lot to be said about social constructs and rules that people (subconsciously) feel they need to follow. Deep rooted fears of disappointing certain figures, or being abandoned by them are major examples of this. I for example first fought this attraction to men because it was out of the ordinary, and I've already had enough experiences by then to feel somewhat afraid of being unwanted. Then settled with bisexual for a while, and relapsed to straight again. However I seemed unable to really want a sexual relationship with women (even if I can care for them as much as for men). After a few lifechanging steps I finally stepped up and am an out-of-closet gay. It's the same for gay men. A lot of them have deeprooted fears or hatred towards women, and for reasons in the past, can't bear being cose to them (imagine having a lousy mother, or women around you always lashing out and hurting you). The list goes on. Do not think it is easy for anyone on this world to truly be themselves. Most aren't and are controlled largely by set rules and ideas to make their decisions for them. your last sentence said it best... their are alot of people like me, and a lot of people like you...don't hit on straight people, and i'll never hit a gay... Actually that's very tricky. You can't tell who's gay or not by just looking at them. Most of the time (yes, even if some people claim to have an innate gaydar). If you get hit on by a man don't take it personal ;) take it as a compliment since it takes most men a lot o courage to walk up to a fellow man and do it, so if that's ever happens you must've had something shiny going on. You can just kindly decline and say you don't swing that way. lol...if it were only so easy... no means no...sometimes you have to get nasty with some, just like women have to do with some/most men... Wow, guess I'm a bit naive then (or that dude just really hasn't gotten any for too long a time...). Well there's kinds of everyone, would be boring otherwise. Just hope you didn't get your image ruined. I swear we're not all horndogs *waves* lol, i know your not all horndogs... but working between 3 gays bars at 2 in the morning pretty much ruined it for me... drunks are drunks, no matter the orientation... |
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