So hypothetically,

You meet a guy or gal, you kind of like each other, you enjoy being together......

How many dates before you have sex or decide it isn't going any further?

Sex, I think thats a relative subject to the type of person you are, and how well you "click".
Not going any farther..... If you know after eh first date, then let them know there's no spark. Why waste eachothers time?

I usually know within the first five minutes if there is no chance of sparks.

It depends entirely upon the circumstances. But on average for me
it would be > 10 "dates" actually. I like to know the person pretty well
I guess. I never really counted though and I would have no hesitation
about having sex right away if they wanted to have sex and were
responsible, safe, trustworthy and extremely exciting of course.

I would count Skyping and possibly emailing as dates though if the
interactions were positive enough.

I don' think there will be a specific number unless people have some silly rule about how many dates they need to go on before having sex.

It used to be if we didn't have sex it wasn't going any further but now if we are friends and don't have sex we might still go on another date.

One.

If you have sex in the first 30 minutes of the first date, does that count as 1 date or zero dates?

Shshshs I can tell within the first 30 minutes whether I would do them or not.... Now if it goes there are not is debatable. Does not mean it will not happen in the first date all depends on how hot and steamy things get

The way I look at it at my age either I want it or I don't and it is up to me how long I wait for it..If the other person is so shallow if it does to think bad of it then I don't want them around anyway...


Test drives can be fun sometimes and then other times ya know after the test drive to leave that one in your dust cause there is no hope...

That counts as hot chemistry.

At our age, we shouldn't waste too much time.

Listen up all you young handsome studs!!

Older women.... they know what they are doing.

the second part is harder than the first, because I believe in giving things time and not expecting overnight chemistry all the time, I have to leave open the possibility of having made a great friend, but the feeling has to be mutual and if not, we can part seperate ways


as to the first, its not happening unless we are in a commitment,,, dating is not the same standard for me, its just getting to know folks and find out what they are about

Chemistry is something I feel within the first few minutes, i.e. eye contact, smile, conversation, confidence. All that comes through pretty quick. As for sex, well it all about the kiss for me. If the kiss is right everything else is going to be right. Know what I mean?

Something in the way she moves,
Attracts me like no other lover.
Something in the way she woos me.
I don't want to leave her now,
You know I believe and how.

Somewhere in her smile she knows,
That I don't need no other lover.
Something in her style that shows me.
I don't want to leave her now,
You know I believe and how.

You're asking me will my love grow,
I don't know, I don't know.
Stick around, and it may show,
But I don't know, I don't know.

Something in the way she knows,
And all I have to do is think of her.
Something in the things she shows me.
I don't want to leave her now.
You know I believe and how.


You'll know!!!!!!!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EJNWxi_bX9o



.....and sometimes you go through a whole Lifetime without meeting her!

I can tell almost instantly upon meeting - but as much as I hate dating, I usually go on two - if it is still very clear after the second that the attraction is not there - I will decline further especially if he has been buying...I do have some decency and it's not so much who buys, but he & I both need to be focusing on finding the attraction

not beating a dead horse

actually I wish hook ups worked because the guys I really dig are NOT the ones I've met dating

well well we agree on something

I hate that stupid BS

Chemistry is instant. If it doesn't happen on the first date then it sure as hell will happen on the second date otherwise No Chemistry.

Chemistry is not the only thing to consider. Just because it is there, does not mean it will happen.

I did a favor for a friend and gave a ride home to some drunk X-boxer, and he was a pretty disgusting uncouth fellow. He tried get me to have sex with him out of the blue (got fresh) and I was shocked when he touched me and the chemistry was unbelievable. I had to fight him off and I had to fight off my own urge to do him in the front seat!

It was really weird. I did manage to get him out of my car but I was blown away by what my body wanted to do to that guy. LOL

Chemistry will surprise you. Its either there or its not.