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So hypothetically, You meet a guy or gal, you kind of like each other, you enjoy being together...... How many dates before you have sex or decide it isn't going any further? within the first 30 minutes, I can generally tell whether I'm going to see 'him' again. This won't stop a friendship developing, but that's about as far as it's going to get. Sometimes, I can tell by speaking to them on the phone, but I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt and so will agree to meet them in person beofre making up my mind. I can generally tell whether I am going to have sex with someone after we've had our first kiss...when that happens, can vary. |
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I can generally tell whether I am going to have sex with someone after we've had our first kiss...when that happens, can vary. I would say the first REAL KISS..  Yes The Kiss....It's all in the Kiss.  The Kiss is a full Blown Statement. 
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So hypothetically, You meet a guy or gal, you kind of like each other, you enjoy being together...... How many dates before you have sex or decide it isn't going any further? within the first 30 minutes, I can generally tell whether I'm going to see 'him' again. This won't stop a friendship developing, but that's about as far as it's going to get. Sometimes, I can tell by speaking to them on the phone, but I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt and so will agree to meet them in person beofre making up my mind. I can generally tell whether I am going to have sex with someone after we've had our first kiss...when that happens, can vary. I don't think I can tell if there is chemistry from talking on the phone to anyone. You might be able to tell if you like the person intellectually or if you might be compatible, but chemistry needs bodily contact and pheromones are involved.. |
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So hypothetically, You meet a guy or gal, you kind of like each other, you enjoy being together...... How many dates before you have sex or decide it isn't going any further? within the first 30 minutes, I can generally tell whether I'm going to see 'him' again. This won't stop a friendship developing, but that's about as far as it's going to get. Sometimes, I can tell by speaking to them on the phone, but I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt and so will agree to meet them in person beofre making up my mind. I can generally tell whether I am going to have sex with someone after we've had our first kiss...when that happens, can vary. I don't think I can tell if there is chemistry from talking on the phone to anyone. You might be able to tell if you like the person intellectually or if you might be compatible, but chemistry needs bodily contact and pheromones are involved.. True. You can't gauge physical chemistry on the phone but you can get an indication of whether you'll be sitting in a pub struggling for conversation or whether you'll have a good time regardless of the outcome. |
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So hypothetically, You meet a guy or gal, you kind of like each other, you enjoy being together...... How many dates before you have sex or decide it isn't going any further? within the first 30 minutes, I can generally tell whether I'm going to see 'him' again. This won't stop a friendship developing, but that's about as far as it's going to get. Sometimes, I can tell by speaking to them on the phone, but I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt and so will agree to meet them in person beofre making up my mind. Phone conversation may not specifically identify "Physical" chemistry, but it can identify intellectual and emotional chemistry. It can also tell us much about the other persons core values. All of these things, IMO, lend to enhancing or sometimes even creating a "physical" attraction when you do finally meet the person.  I can generally tell whether I am going to have sex with someone after we've had our first kiss...when that happens, can vary. I don't think I can tell if there is chemistry from talking on the phone to anyone. You might be able to tell if you like the person intellectually or if you might be compatible, but chemistry needs bodily contact and pheromones are involved.. True. You can't gauge physical chemistry on the phone but you can get an indication of whether you'll be sitting in a pub struggling for conversation or whether you'll have a good time regardless of the outcome. |
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So hypothetically, You meet a guy or gal, you kind of like each other, you enjoy being together...... How many dates before you have sex or decide it isn't going any further? within the first 30 minutes, I can generally tell whether I'm going to see 'him' again. This won't stop a friendship developing, but that's about as far as it's going to get. Sometimes, I can tell by speaking to them on the phone, but I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt and so will agree to meet them in person beofre making up my mind. I can generally tell whether I am going to have sex with someone after we've had our first kiss...when that happens, can vary. I don't think I can tell if there is chemistry from talking on the phone to anyone. You might be able to tell if you like the person intellectually or if you might be compatible, but chemistry needs bodily contact and pheromones are involved.. True. You can't gauge physical chemistry on the phone but you can get an indication of whether you'll be sitting in a pub struggling for conversation or whether you'll have a good time regardless of the outcome. EXCUSE ME PLEASE, STILL LEARNING THE SYSTEM!!!!  Phone conversation may not specifically identify "Physical" chemistry, but it can identify intellectual and emotional chemistry. It can also tell us much about the other persons core values. All of these things, IMO, lend to enhancing or sometimes even creating a "physical" attraction when you do finally meet the person. |
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Thu 10/27/11 10:45 AM
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What I have learned is that even when there is physical chemistry, the intellectual and emotional exchanges can totally KILL the physical chemistry.
Anger is a great extinguisher of physical chemistry. That is why they say, never to to bet with your spouse angry. |
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Frustration for him perhaps.  Frustration for me would be to want it and not be able to get it.  You Wanted "it" (your words) he was willing ..you refused..Not Chemistry.  So, it's only chemistry if you don't refuse? The Lady in Question Has Explained the Post as having been in the Past...(Her Fertile Period) I was looking for an explanation of what you said, not what she said.  What I said was in relation to me thinking she was three score and two at the time. The Lady was many years younger and refused for fear of getting pregnant. Fear of pregnancy put paid to the chemistry. Hope that clears things up.
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What I have learned is that even when there is physical chemistry, the intellectual and emotional exchanges can totally KILL the physical chemistry. Anger is a great extinguisher of physical chemistry. That is why they say, never to to bet with your spouse angry. I have never found that intellectual and emotional exchanges can kill physical chemisty..just the opposite. For me being intellectually and emotionally stimulated by someone often enhances phyical chemistry. It's very rare for someone to be around me and still to hold onto their anger - that's not ego/arrogance speaking...I just struggle to take many things seriously
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My X husband and I had great chemistry. But our differences eventually killed that attraction that we had for each other. We split up for a while and forgave each other. Then once again we got together and the chemistry sparked again.
Chemistry is great, but it can get you into relationships that will make you miserable and unhappy. That has been my experience. So although I like chemistry, it is not enough to keep you together. |
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My X husband and I had great chemistry. But our differences eventually killed that attraction that we had for each other. We split up for a while and forgave each other. Then once again we got together and the chemistry sparked again. Chemistry is great, but it can get you into relationships that will make you miserable and unhappy. That has been my experience. So although I like chemistry, it is not enough to keep you together. Maybe your right about chemistry not being enough to hold couples together but think about all the great sex. 
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Thu 10/27/11 11:29 AM
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My X husband and I had great chemistry. But our differences eventually killed that attraction that we had for each other. We split up for a while and forgave each other. Then once again we got together and the chemistry sparked again. Chemistry is great, but it can get you into relationships that will make you miserable and unhappy. That has been my experience. So although I like chemistry, it is not enough to keep you together. Maybe your right about chemistry not being enough to hold couples together but think about all the great sex. Great sex is good, but it requires a lot of energy. Do they have viagra for women?
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I agree. Chemistry isn't enough to hold a relationship together any more than great sex will.
My last few relationships went on for longer than they should have done because we great chemisty. I wasn't miserable or unhappy, they were just relationships that probably would not have happened it it wasn't for chemistry - and I'm not just talking about the physical either. |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Thu 10/27/11 11:52 AM
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Frustration for him perhaps. Frustration for me would be to want it and not be able to get it. You Wanted "it" (your words) he was willing ..you refused..Not Chemistry. So, it's only chemistry if you don't refuse? The Lady in Question Has Explained the Post as having been in the Past...(Her Fertile Period) I was looking for an explanation of what you said, not what she said. What I said was in relation to me thinking she was three score and two at the time. The Lady was many years younger and refused for fear of getting pregnant. Fear of pregnancy put paid to the chemistry. Hope that clears things up. I was specifically asking about what you said about it not being chemistry since she refused. Do you believe if there is chemistry, that automatically means someone would not refuse sex? |
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Great sex is good, but it requires a lot of energy. Do they have viagra for women? Edited by Jeanniebean on Thu 10/27/11 11:29 AM That's whats good about chemistry, no Viagra needed..It takes on a life of it's own. Agreed it may be a wee bit slower but the quality remains.
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Great sex is good, but it requires a lot of energy. Do they have viagra for women? Edited by Jeanniebean on Thu 10/27/11 11:29 AM That's whats good about chemistry, no Viagra needed..It takes on a life of it's own. Agreed it may be a wee bit slower but the quality remains. I wish they could bottle and sell chemistry then. 
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Great sex is good, but it requires a lot of energy. Do they have viagra for women? Edited by Jeanniebean on Thu 10/27/11 11:29 AM That's whats good about chemistry, no Viagra needed..It takes on a life of it's own. Agreed it may be a wee bit slower but the quality remains. I wish they could bottle and sell chemistry then. A low intensity product for the three score plus brigade.
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You guys are over thinking this... two minutes, yes or no. Your body doesnt bother with debate.....only the mind does. Its not that simple. You can say yes or no to the presence of chemistry, but it is not always yes or no to the prospect of having sex on the spot. two minutes. I will stick to my guns. Never been wrong. |
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i didn't know rules exist. anyway, i think it is best to keep urself for the longest possible time, so you don't seem too easy or so you don't regret your actions
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