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Just my take on it. From 16 on...I dated around...a LOT. So, I understand. Eventualy, I decided I wanted something real and would no longer settle for less. When you decide you only want REAL love...then yeah, the options dry up quickly. So, ya gotta decide, do I go back to settling for less than you are worth and picking up any chick who is interested? Or do you hold out for rare gem that you will treasure with everything you got in your soul? As far as the Nice guy/bad boy thing..... Women either want a nice guy with some bad boy tendancies or they want a bad boy who is nice beneath the veneer. They don't want a panzy and they don't want a jerk. As usual Krups you hit the nail squarely on the head!   Happy Saturday!
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Then, I think you got it made Tony. Now, it is a matter of sticking to your guns and not settling for something that is less.
It means you are gonna have some lonely nights but, oh man!! It is worth it when you finally get what you want! |
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Good morning LovelyLeigh.
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Speaking of psychobabble...I have a hunch he's afraid of love, and that is why he has 'avoided' it in the past. He is intentionally picking women he will not be threatened by (threatened with feeling something for her). This may explain age appropriate issues. If you dont much pick someone your general age, you can avoid having shared historic or social references/experiences. I dont know that this is an issue but since its been brought up... Until our chum commits to finding a match rather than a body, he will be successful in avoiding what he fears. And at 40+ relationships, that says commitment issues to me. |
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Find me a kind hearted super model that can cook and dont nag..
Il show you commitment ;) |
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Speaking of psychobabble...I have a hunch he's afraid of love, and that is why he has 'avoided' it in the past. He is intentionally picking women he will not be threatened by (threatened with feeling something for her). This may explain age appropriate issues. If you dont much pick someone your general age, you can avoid having shared historic or social references/experiences. I dont know that this is an issue but since its been brought up... Until our chum commits to finding a match rather than a body, he will be successful in avoiding what he fears. And at 40+ relationships, that says commitment issues to me. Do you think there necessarily has to be a correlation? I've been in more relationships than that, but I would love to find someone I could commit to. There just isn't anybody committable (?) out there.... |
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Sat 10/15/11 03:00 PM
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Find me a kind hearted super model that can cook and dont nag.. Il show you commitment ;) Dreamer. Super model's DON'T COOK. And they are not 'kind hearted' -- their grouchy because their hungry and worried if their butt looks fat. They starve themselves. Marry someone who is over weight, loves to eat and cooks like a chef! You'll be happy.... if you love to eat well. |
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Find me a kind hearted super model that can cook and dont nag.. Il show you commitment ;) Haha! My landlord (female) found herself a model/actor/chef husband. Sign me up for one of those and I'll be wife of the year! (kidding-- I'm not wife of the year material, but *I'D* be happy!) |
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I agree.. Its a bit like what i saw my friend post on her FB page.. 5 Secrets to a perfect realationship 1. It's important to have a woman who helps out at home, cooks and cleans. 2. It's important to have a woman who can make you laugh and has a good job too. 3. It's important to have a woman you can trust and who doesnt lie to you. 4. It's important to have a woman who is awesome in bed and who only wants to be with you. 5. It's very very very important that these four bit*** never meet each other. lol!! Think i need 4 women.. Unless one of you can wrap those qualities into one bundle of joy ;) You have better luck with four women. |
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No worries you're not my type anyway ;) lol Tony, be nice.
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The difference is, Lex, that you learn from your mistakes, and dont continue to behave like a player. You act like a guy who really is interested in the smart, creative, glasses-wearing, pepsi-appreciating lady you want. Youre not dating people who dont meet the criteria just to kill time. Yeah, that's true. I spent a lot of time doing exactly that, and, while it was fun for awhile (on some really pathetic level), it didn't mean much of anything in the end. You know what you want, but more importantly, act like a guy who wants what he says he does. I don't see any reason to be vague or nebulous about it -- what's the point in wasting other people's time (or my own, fr that matter)? But I'll admit there have been days when the loneliness got to be a bit much, and I briefly -- for a few seconds -- considered going back to my "old ways." Of course, I dismiss the idea right away because I know that's not an answer. And my idea of a relationship now is a lot different from what it was 10 or 15 years ago.... |
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I sooo got this: I'm all four (in some manner of speaking...)
I agree.. Its a bit like what i saw my friend post on her FB page.. 5 Secrets to a perfect realationship 1. It's important to have a woman who helps out at home, cooks and cleans. You didn't say how well, so yes, I help out at home, cook AND clean. 2. It's important to have a woman who can make you laugh and has a good job too. You'll be laughing when you taste my cooking! My job allows me to be financially independant and live on the beach. Does anything else really matter? Didn't think so. 3. It's important to have a woman you can trust and who doesnt lie to you. I hate liars; I'm honest to a fault. Ask me anything (or... actually... please don't) 4. It's important to have a woman who is awesome in bed and who only wants to be with you. Can't really judge myself, and gathering a jury to come to the conclusion on my bedroom skills would be embarrassing. I'm nearing my thirties. Suffice it to say my drive is about equal with a 21 year old male. And growing. |
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Just my take on it. From 16 on...I dated around...a LOT. So, I understand. Eventualy, I decided I wanted something real and would no longer settle for less. When you decide you only want REAL love...then yeah, the options dry up quickly. So, ya gotta decide, do I go back to settling for less than you are worth and picking up any chick who is interested? Or do you hold out for rare gem that you will treasure with everything you got in your soul? As far as the Nice guy/bad boy thing..... Women either want a nice guy with some bad boy tendancies or they want a bad boy who is nice beneath the veneer. They don't want a panzy and they don't want a jerk. As usual Krups you hit the nail squarely on the head! Happy Saturday! I totally agree. Krupa, if I haven't said it before, I think you are one of the coolest guys on this planet. 
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Awwww thanks doll. You should probably get out more.
:) |
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No worries you're not my type anyway ;) lol Tony, be nice. i was only playing, i think shes bootyfull ;) |
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Speaking of psychobabble...I have a hunch he's afraid of love, and that is why he has 'avoided' it in the past. He is intentionally picking women he will not be threatened by (threatened with feeling something for her). This may explain age appropriate issues. If you dont much pick someone your general age, you can avoid having shared historic or social references/experiences. I dont know that this is an issue but since its been brought up... Until our chum commits to finding a match rather than a body, he will be successful in avoiding what he fears. And at 40+ relationships, that says commitment issues to me. Do you think there necessarily has to be a correlation? I've been in more relationships than that, but I would love to find someone I could commit to. There just isn't anybody committable (?) out there.... It just seems like lots and lots of very short relationships. Why jump around from relationship to relationship that often? Does a person like that get bored with women quickly or something? |
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OK - consider also that some of the better ones were wary of your player history and just said No
no doubt because the reality is that u would revert back to your old ways you have proved that true many women do not trust a man with a history (rep) of being a player your view is a little dehumanizing - we are not fodder to be used or objects of your imagined emotional love -bond imagnined because u do not know what it is...means to love a woman try making some female friends. do things with us with NO expectations and learn to see us as human beings and things will evolve. relationships take time and given ur history that will be ur challenge......... u did ask... |
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Speaking of psychobabble...I have a hunch he's afraid of love, and that is why he has 'avoided' it in the past. He is intentionally picking women he will not be threatened by (threatened with feeling something for her). This may explain age appropriate issues. If you dont much pick someone your general age, you can avoid having shared historic or social references/experiences. I dont know that this is an issue but since its been brought up... Until our chum commits to finding a match rather than a body, he will be successful in avoiding what he fears. And at 40+ relationships, that says commitment issues to me. Do you think there necessarily has to be a correlation? I've been in more relationships than that, but I would love to find someone I could commit to. There just isn't anybody committable (?) out there.... It just seems like lots and lots of very short relationships. Why jump around from relationship to relationship that often? Does a person like that get bored with women quickly or something? I can't speak for anyone else, but I will admit to getting bored with most of my gfs fairly quickly. On the other hand, I didn't go into those relationships with the intention (or expectation) of getting bored, it just always seemed to work out that way. |
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Lover's don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.
~Rumi
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Lover's don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along. ~Rumi 
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