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So I have been in a fair number of realationships in my lifetime.. I am quite a deep philosophical thinker and i ponder female behaviour..its one of my favourite passtimes lol I really love your post.  Not sure what a fair number of relationships are. Are we allowed a quota? Was I supposed to get more? Wow. Now I feel like I was robbed or cheated as I didn't really have that many. I have always wondered about female behavior. It is almost a total mystery to me. I think they are fascinating creatures. I find their actions, behaviors and mannerisms intriguing. I was just wondering if any of the guys on here feel the same way i do? I have never felt you so I wouldn't know. You meet a girl.. how things develop between you and that girl are pretty much based on chemistry right? I have never been able to comprehend the total equation. I do think it is like some chemical action/reaction. Some of my relationships have seemed like matter and antimatter. It seems easier to like a female if she likes me. I would replace the word 'develop' with the word 'evolve'. Could be why I haven't had that many relationships. I am sure being a wallflower has something to do with it, too. Well how about this.. from the ages of 16 to 32 i have been in over 40 plus realationships.. never really thinking about the psychology of realationships but rather just enjoying the moments and the ego boost.. Wow. I must admit that is commendable. That kind of ego boost must be godlike in nature. I think my brain would have evolved without me. Luckily my brain is still a prisoner of my skull. I am not ready to think without it. But give me a few more thousand years. Maybe by then I can achieve pure spiritual ego status. over the last three years i have changed, i have realised for the first time since i was 32 that i really want to experience love for the first time..in all my past realationships i can honestly say i was never in love.. in passion, lust, desire yes.. but i could always walk away without feeling hurt.. Wow. What a bummer. You have evolved. I am amazed. It must seem strange to you to finally evolve beyond your basic animistic instincts. You sure you want to become human? Hurt can suck. What possesses you to become human? To fall from grace you might lose your wings. It can cause one to evolve and devolve at the same time. I am intrigued that you are considering losing your comfort zone. But no and for the past 3 years i have had a yearning to let go.. to feel completely vulnerable and to feel love even if it ends up hurting me.. i have been ready for 3 years.. Oh. Please be careful. That is masochism. You are bordering on martyrdom. Being martyred like that can cause irreplaceable damage to your cerebral cortex. I would see a psychiatrist about your suicidal tendencies. So.. why is it i can no longer find a woman? You sure it is a woman you are looking for? You have had women. I thought you had evolved beyond that. What could one woman give you that women haven't been able to give you? I think you are seeking intimacy. It is different from the other things you described about your relationship with women. Its not too late to go back. Think about what you are willing to give up. I mean it is your choice but seriously dude. I would be careful if I was you. I know why that is.. because when i meet a woman i give off this energy through my actions, thoughts, feelings, vibes that i am ready for something serious.. i find this makes women run a mile! Yeah. A woman is different from women. You might be over qualified. All that experience you have had. You might be scaring them away. I am glad you are energetic. I can see where that could help. well. Hopefully you can find one you can run with. The chase might be fun. So i decided for the first time in three years of being unseccseful to resort back to "player mode" and what do you know.. the first time round and the girl is all over me.. Playing is fun. I am glad you aren't so serious any more. You might find someone to play with. Who knows you might meet a serious player like you. I wish you all the luck in the world. I just dont get it ladies, do you actually want a man who is sincere and genuine about falling in love or do you just want a bad boy to challange you... That I wouldn't know anything about. But I am glad you are asking questions like that. I am sure you will get many responses. Personally after 3 years of meeting countless women and failing with being nice, genuine and sincere looking for real love.. I think i gotta go back to my old ways.. Does the same happen for you men out there..? You pull they push away.. You push away they pull...? Theory or delusion? I'd really like to know.. It is comfortable to be one's self. Comfort has its own rewards. 
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It is comfortable to be one's self. Comfort has its own rewards. Indeed. It seems you are spending an inordinate amount of time building a persona. So much easier to be just you. Give up the games. Play with yourself, if you have to. |
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40 relationships? You've been busy! So, you say you can no longer find a woman. Have you become more picky? The player type doesn't do much for me. Perhaps it's just the kind of women you're meeting? Sing sorry nothing does anything for you .How many sites are you on ? Ok he said 40 ? No its not the kind of women hes meeting .Unless hes attracted to the same types of women ? Its either him he could be bi or gay and in denial .But doubt he will admit this . You cant possibly have dated that many women and not of fallen in love with any of them ! My problem is I fall in love with everyone LOL.. Ah, now I know why you asked me how many sites I'm on. My how things have changed when you are on a different site, Brave. |
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So I have been in a fair number of realationships in my lifetime.. I am quite a deep philosophical thinker and i ponder female behaviour..its one of my favourite passtimes lol I was just wondering if any of the guys on here feel the same way i do? You meet a girl.. how things develop between you and that girl are pretty much based on chemistry right? Well how about this.. from the ages of 16 to 32 i have been in over 40 plus realationships.. never really thinking about the psychology of realationships but rather just enjoying the moments and the ego boost.. over the last three years i have changed, i have realised for the first time since i was 32 that i really want to experience love for the first time..in all my past realationships i can honestly say i was never in love.. in passion, lust, desire yes.. but i could always walk away without feeling hurt.. But no and for the past 3 years i have had a yearning to let go.. to feel completely vulnerable and to feel love even if it ends up hurting me.. i have been ready for 3 years.. So.. why is it i can no longer find a woman? I know why that is.. because when i meet a woman i give off this energy through my actions, thoughts, feelings, vibes that i am ready for something serious.. i find this makes women run a mile! So i decided for the first time in three years of being unseccseful to resort back to "player mode" and what do you know.. the first time round and the girl is all over me.. I just dont get it ladies, do you actually want a man who is sincere and genuine about falling in love or do you just want a bad boy to challange you... Personally after 3 years of meeting countless women and failing with being nice, genuine and sincere looking for real love.. I think i gotta go back to my old ways.. Does the same happen for you men out there..? You pull they push away.. You push away they pull...? Theory or delusion? I'd really like to know.. Well, I think we have hashed this bad boy theory to death in these forums. Women do like nice guys but don't want a door mat; they want you to stand your ground, show confidence, and not be needy. As one poster says, you have to find that balance of the nice guy/bad boy. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Fri 10/14/11 06:30 PM
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40 relationships? You've been busy! So, you say you can no longer find a woman. Have you become more picky? The player type doesn't do much for me. Perhaps it's just the kind of women you're meeting? Sing sorry nothing does anything for you .How many sites are you on ? Ok he said 40 ? No its not the kind of women hes meeting .Unless hes attracted to the same types of women ? Its either him he could be bi or gay and in denial .But doubt he will admit this . You cant possibly have dated that many women and not of fallen in love with any of them ! My problem is I fall in love with everyone LOL.. Where did I say nothing does anything for me? I specifically said the player type doesn't do anything for me. That's quite different than nothing. What relevance are other sites? Hey Sing; I have read and re-read your posts and the other guys post. Nope, you never said nothing does anything for you. And yeah, what is the question about other sites for? His post doesn't make any sense but maybe that was his intent. I am still puzzled. 
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Edited by
s1owhand
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Fri 10/14/11 08:05 PM
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Entice them with your sense of fun and adventure and carefree
demeanor and then when they are weak and vulnerable sink your teeth into them and drink their bloood.    And they are your for eternity... |
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40 relationships? You've been busy! So, you say you can no longer find a woman. Have you become more picky? The player type doesn't do much for me. Perhaps it's just the kind of women you're meeting? Sing sorry nothing does anything for you .How many sites are you on ? Ok he said 40 ? No its not the kind of women hes meeting .Unless hes attracted to the same types of women ? Its either him he could be bi or gay and in denial .But doubt he will admit this . You cant possibly have dated that many women and not of fallen in love with any of them ! My problem is I fall in love with everyone LOL.. Where did I say nothing does anything for me? I specifically said the player type doesn't do anything for me. That's quite different than nothing. What relevance are other sites? Hey Sing; I have read and re-read your posts and the other guys post. Nope, you never said nothing does anything for you. And yeah, what is the question about other sites for? His post doesn't make any sense but maybe that was his intent. I am still puzzled. There's another site I go on to post in the forums. I didn't recognize him, but he's from there. So I guess that's what that comment was about. I'm not sure where he got nothing does anything for me. I had been very specific in saying that the player type does nothing for me. |
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lol Maybe yor reputation preceeds you? That many relationships I would think you have burned a lot of bridges. All the pschobabble and whineing maybe they just loose interest faster now that hopefully you at least try to date age appropriate.
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lol Maybe yor reputation preceeds you? That many relationships I would think you have burned a lot of bridges. All the pschobabble and whineing maybe they just loose interest faster now that hopefully you at least try to date age appropriate. Mainly yes, but there is this foxy 20 year old russian lass who is showing an interest, we are due to meet soon.. we shall see lol ;) |
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I agree..
Its a bit like what i saw my friend post on her FB page.. 5 Secrets to a perfect realationship 1. It's important to have a woman who helps out at home, cooks and cleans. 2. It's important to have a woman who can make you laugh and has a good job too. 3. It's important to have a woman you can trust and who doesnt lie to you. 4. It's important to have a woman who is awesome in bed and who only wants to be with you. 5. It's very very very important that these four bit*** never meet each other. lol!! Think i need 4 women.. Unless one of you can wrap those qualities into one bundle of joy ;) |
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So I have been in a fair number of realationships in my lifetime.. I am quite a deep philosophical thinker and i ponder female behaviour..its one of my favourite passtimes lol I was just wondering if any of the guys on here feel the same way i do? You meet a girl.. how things develop between you and that girl are pretty much based on chemistry right? Well how about this.. from the ages of 16 to 32 i have been in over 40 plus realationships.. never really thinking about the psychology of realationships but rather just enjoying the moments and the ego boost.. over the last three years i have changed, i have realised for the first time since i was 32 that i really want to experience love for the first time..in all my past realationships i can honestly say i was never in love.. in passion, lust, desire yes.. but i could always walk away without feeling hurt.. But no and for the past 3 years i have had a yearning to let go.. to feel completely vulnerable and to feel love even if it ends up hurting me.. i have been ready for 3 years.. So.. why is it i can no longer find a woman? I know why that is.. because when i meet a woman i give off this energy through my actions, thoughts, feelings, vibes that i am ready for something serious.. i find this makes women run a mile! So i decided for the first time in three years of being unseccseful to resort back to "player mode" and what do you know.. the first time round and the girl is all over me.. I just dont get it ladies, do you actually want a man who is sincere and genuine about falling in love or do you just want a bad boy to challange you... Personally after 3 years of meeting countless women and failing with being nice, genuine and sincere looking for real love.. I think i gotta go back to my old ways.. Does the same happen for you men out there..? You pull they push away.. You push away they pull...? Theory or delusion? I'd really like to know.. There is some truth to the saying "We always want what we can't have." Also true, especially on dating sites, if we (women) are pushed to hard, rushed, we see this as a red flag (at least I do). Sometime I think men on dating sites forget that we women are alone and need to feel a certain amount of trust before we can take the step to meet the man we are communicating with...If a man is not willing to invest some time getting to know me in cyber, why would I think he would be any different in real life? Also, if you and I were communicating and you told me you have already been in 40 plus relationships ( which averages out to 2 to 3 a year!) I would definitely take a pass! 
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No worries you're not my type anyway ;) lol
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No worries you're not my type anyway ;) lol I don't know if I should be heartbroken or grateful!
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No worries you're not my type anyway ;) lol I don't know if I should be heartbroken or grateful!  
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No worries you're not my type anyway ;) lol I don't know if I should be heartbroken or grateful! Grateful it is then!
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No worries you're not my type anyway ;) lol I don't know if I should be heartbroken or grateful! Grateful it is then!
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No worries you're not my type anyway ;) lol I don't know if I should be heartbroken or grateful! Grateful it is then! Yes, a "need" to be me I suppose... 
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No worries you're not my type anyway ;) lol I don't know if I should be heartbroken or grateful! Grateful it is then! Yes, a "need" to be me I suppose... |
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Just my take on it.
From 16 on...I dated around...a LOT. So, I understand. Eventualy, I decided I wanted something real and would no longer settle for less. When you decide you only want REAL love...then yeah, the options dry up quickly. So, ya gotta decide, do I go back to settling for less than you are worth and picking up any chick who is interested? Or do you hold out for rare gem that you will treasure with everything you got in your soul? As far as the Nice guy/bad boy thing..... Women either want a nice guy with some bad boy tendancies or they want a bad boy who is nice beneath the veneer. They don't want a panzy and they don't want a jerk. |
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true but i have modes..
Nice guy/Bad boy mode.. and Panzy/Jerk mode.. Amongst many others.. I like to flutter in and out of modes.. Im a little extrovert in my approach to women. |
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