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Topic: Single or Divorced?
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/26/11 10:02 AM
When looking for people to date, do you tend to go for those who are single, never having been married, or those who are divorced? Do you have a preference? Is there a point where you think something is wrong with someone if they've never been married? Or a point where you think someone has been divorced too many times? This came up in another thread, but I figured it deserved it's own thread.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45349	Mon 09/26/11 10:05 AM
No preference. But I do get a small, nervous twinge at 'Never Been Married.'

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Mon 09/26/11 10:07 AM
Heeeeeeeey Emmmmmmyyyyyy .... I like 'em divorced ... preferably with crazy ex-husbands who owe them money. It makes date night at Sizzler seem soooooo opulent.

Mikey117 Joined Mon 11/20/06 Posts: 23736	Mon 09/26/11 10:12 AM
I was married for 13 years , been divorced for over 15 years and Im STILL a Virgin!!!!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/26/11 10:25 AM
No preference. But I do get a small, nervous twinge at 'Never Been Married.' Why is that?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/26/11 10:25 AM
I was married for 13 years , been divorced for over 15 years and Im STILL a Virgin!!!!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/26/11 10:26 AM
Heeeeeeeey Emmmmmmyyyyyy .... I like 'em divorced ... preferably with crazy ex-husbands who owe them money. It makes date night at Sizzler seem soooooo opulent. Let me guess, you like the ladies crazy as well?

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 09/26/11 10:30 AM
I'd prefer single. Statistically, 128% of the divorced ones have kids, while only 116% of the single ones do.

bhernandez Joined Sun 03/21/10 Posts: 14901	Mon 09/26/11 10:34 AM
i like them married.

jackie_star Joined Tue 06/28/11 Posts: 294	Mon 09/26/11 11:02 AM
"never been married" would depend on their age. If they are young, no problem. If they are older, I would be extremely leary "divorced" No problem. I do NOT!!! get involved with married or separated individuals because that's a good way to get yourself killed.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/26/11 11:04 AM
"never been married" would depend on their age. If they are young, no problem. If they are older, I would be extremely leary "divorced" No problem. I do NOT!!! get involved with married or separated individuals because that's a good way to get yourself killed. Where do you draw the age line for never been married being ok and not ok?

EquusDancer Joined Sun 04/05/09 Posts: 6281	Mon 09/26/11 11:10 AM
Doesn't matter. Just as long as they aren't still married when/if we get serious.

jackie_star Joined Tue 06/28/11 Posts: 294	Mon 09/26/11 11:27 AM
It has nothing to do with "being ok and not ok" However, after age 35 I would be extremely leary but this depends on the person's, personality. If the person was a career minded individual, that could account for the "not being married" or if the person was out going and just did not want to settle down, that could account for the "not being married" also, a person might put "never been married" when in truth they have been married. They just don't want you to know it.

Troublebug Joined Sat 09/11/10 Posts: 10912	Mon 09/26/11 11:36 AM
No preference. But I do get a small, nervous twinge at 'Never Been Married.' I gotta agree with you just a bit on this one soufie, especially when they are in their 40's. I mean was noone good enough or what?

Sandelwood4 Joined Sat 08/13/11 Posts: 466	Mon 09/26/11 11:44 AM
I don’t know how many years have to pass by after you divorce before you can consider yourself single. I’ve been divorced for over 16 years (maybe more) and I always write that I’m single in forms and profiles instead of divorced. I don’t really have a preference. However, if someone has been married and divorced a lot of times (more than 2 maybe) I might wonder if he is capable of being on his own. It’s important to me that I am with someone who doesn’t need to be in a relationship but chooses to grow with me.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76392	Mon 09/26/11 11:45 AM
My only twinge comes when they are still married and looking...........been there done that I want a totally single behind them. Don't care if they have never been married or divorced ect....just as long as they are single NOW!!

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45349	Mon 09/26/11 11:57 AM
No preference. But I do get a small, nervous twinge at 'Never Been Married.' I gotta agree with you just a bit on this one soufie, especially when they are in their 40's. I mean was noone good enough or what? Not sure why either singmesweet. Unusual I guess when older. Some wondering goes on :-)

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/26/11 12:58 PM
It has nothing to do with "being ok and not ok" However, after age 35 I would be extremely leary but this depends on the person's, personality. If the person was a career minded individual, that could account for the "not being married" or if the person was out going and just did not want to settle down, that could account for the "not being married" also, a person might put "never been married" when in truth they have been married. They just don't want you to know it. 35? Daaamn.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/26/11 01:00 PM
I don’t know how many years have to pass by after you divorce before you can consider yourself single. I’ve been divorced for over 16 years (maybe more) and I always write that I’m single in forms and profiles instead of divorced. I don’t really have a preference. However, if someone has been married and divorced a lot of times (more than 2 maybe) I might wonder if he is capable of being on his own. It’s important to me that I am with someone who doesn’t need to be in a relationship but chooses to grow with me. As long as they're actually single (not separated) I don't usually have a preference. Though, that might change if they had been divorced a couple times already. I'd start to wonder if they just settle for someone to marry.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 09/26/11 01:01 PM
also, a person might put "never been married" when in truth they have been married. They just don't want you to know it. I ran into that once. She said, when confronted with the past marriage, "Well, I'm not married now." I said, "You're not in high school now, so does that mean you were never in high school?" Ahh, logic.